Sterlin Mosley

We're all a little narcissistic. Yes, you and even me. But not in the way the internet thinks.

Narcissism has become one of the most misunderstood concepts in modern psychology. It’s been flattened into a buzzword for selfishness, villainy, or garden-variety ego. But what if narcissism was less about labels and more about the loss of connection — with ourselves, with others, and with the truth of who we really are?

I’m Dr. Sterlin Mosley — a professor, Enneagram teacher, and author of Center of the Universe and The Narcissist in You and Everyone Else. My work explores how narcissism shows up in all of us — not as a fixed disorder, but as a spectrum of behaviors shaped by personality type, instinctual drives, and the systems we live inside. I’ve spent the past two decades helping people understand the deeper roots of emotional disconnection — and how we can transform those patterns into compassion, self-awareness, and genuine relational presence.

Whether we’re discussing the 27 forms of narcissism (yes, they exist), decoding personality through the Enneagram, or exploring how to soften the armor we wear in daily life, my goal is to make complex psychology accessible, relatable, and healing. I don’t just want to talk about what’s wrong with people — I want to illuminate how our deepest flaws are often misguided strategies for love, safety, and belonging.

My interviews go beyond clickbait and diagnosis. Together, we’ll uncover how narcissism operates in everyday life — in relationships, work, spirituality, and even self-help culture — and how to cultivate empathy without enabling harm, boundaries without shame, and growth without self-rejection.

Let’s talk about narcissism not as the end of empathy, but as the beginning of a new kind of emotional literacy