Relationships And Sex Episodes

Find your tribe in Authentic AF. Visit https://www.skool.com/authenticaf/about The Biggest Flex: Being Yourself (19 Quiet Traits of Real Masculinity) Host Andy Grant says being a man means “to be yourself,” not to follow inherited “supposed to” rules from fathers, friends, religion, the media, or culture. He reframes a BuzzFeed list of “guy flexes” as invitations for men to become grounded, authentic, and connected rather than chasing wealth, status, dominance, or looks. He highlights 19 attract...

Turning 60 and Staying Connected: Celebrating Male Friendship Host Andy Grant records a road-trip documentary to Northern California with five high school friends celebrating turning 60, using intimate one-on-one interviews to explore adult male friendship amid “male loneliness” statistics (men with six or more close friends dropping from 55% to 27%, and 15% reporting zero close friends). His friends discuss the conscious effort required to maintain long-distance bonds, barriers like busyness, b...

From Marine to Somatic Intimacy Guide: Andre Lazarus on Presence Over Performance Host Andy Grant interviews Andre Lazarus, a former US Marine turned somatic intimacy guide and surrogate partner therapist featured on the UK series Virgin Island. Andre describes serving in Afghanistan, leading others, and later being drawn into intimacy work after partners reflected its therapeutic impact, alongside unlearning rigid ideas of masculinity. He critiques the manosphere as often dangerous but notes it...

Episode 400: The Invisible Scorecard Host Andy Grant marks Real Men Feel’s 400th episode and 10-year anniversary with returning guest Vanessa Cardenas, a relationship reset expert, to examine how men constantly measure themselves through an “invisible scorecard” of success, money, status, age, and relationship milestones. They discuss how comparison “pulls a man out of his life and puts him onto someone else’s timeline,” eroding confidence and intimacy, especially when men fill gaps with imagine...

Betrayal, Shame & Rebuilding Trust: The Therapy Brothers on Real Recovery On Real Men Feel, host Andy Grant talks with licensed clinicians Brannon Patrick and Tyler Patrick (the Therapy Brothers) about betrayal, shame, trust, and recovery after relationship rupture. They share what drew them into trauma, addiction, infidelity, and betrayal work, why men often seek help only after disclosure or rock bottom, and how fear of rejection and “unlovability” drives hiding, overperforming, and defensive...

Rebuilding After Betrayal, Divorce, and the Dead Bedroom: Ralph Brewer on Men, Shame, and Support Host Andy Grant interviews men’s coach Ralph Brewer about rebuilding after infidelity, divorce, and relationship collapse. Ralph shares his own experience of being divorced within 60 days after his spouse’s infidelity and becoming a single father of three, including how he blamed himself for years and later learned he couldn’t control another person’s choices. He explains how therapy and connecting ...

Overcoming Sexual Performance Anxiety In this episode of Real Men Feel, host Andy Grant discusses the often taboo topic of erectile dysfunction, sexual performance anxiety, and the fear of being broken with guest Shay Doran. Shay, a coach who helps men overcome these issues, shares his personal journey and insights on why ED is rarely just about the body but more about mindset. They discuss the societal pressures and beliefs that contribute to performance anxiety, the impact on relationships, an...

Breaking Down Barriers with the LezBro In this episode of Real Men Feel, host Andy Grant talks with Aastha Lal, a lesbian coach who is transforming men's relationships by providing a safe, non-competitive, and non-judgmental space for growth. Aastha shares her journey in creating the LezBro, a coaching practice where men can explore vulnerability, emotional honesty, and mindfulness. They discuss common challenges men face, such as reactivity and the need for connection, and highlight pract...

Craig Perra, a renowned expert in overcoming compulsive sexual behaviors, sex addiction, and porn addiction, discusses the profound impact of shame, the importance of leading all parts of oneself, and the necessity of creating healthy sexual habits.

Embracing Sexuality and Aging with Karen Bigman In this episode of Real Men Feel, host Andy Grant welcomes Karen Bigman, the founder of Taboo to Truth. Together, they break down myths and stigmas surrounding sex and aging. Karen shares insights on how aging doesn't signify the end of desire and intimacy but can mark a new beginning. They discuss the differences in sexual changes for men and women as they age, the importance of communication in maintaining a healthy sex life, and the significa...

Exploring Emotional Literacy and Attachment Styles In this episode of Real Men Feel, host Andy Grant delves into the crucial topic of emotional literacy with guest Alexandra Velez, creator of Secure School. They discuss the importance of recognizing, naming, and navigating emotions as a foundation for emotional intelligence, and how these skills significantly impact personal and relational well-being. Alexandra provides insights into how early life experiences and societal norms shape emotional ...

Unpacking Narcissism Real Men Feel host Andy Grant converses with Sterlin Mosley, a therapist, professor, and author specializing in relationships, attachment, and personality dynamics. The discussion delves into the complexities of narcissism, exploring what it truly means, how it manifests in both men and women, and its impact on relationships. Sterlin shares valuable insights on recognizing narcissistic traits, managing relationships with narcissists, and addressing one's own narcissistic ...

Unlocking Divine Masculine Energy and Redefining Sexuality with Melanie Bonk In this episode of Real Men Feel, host Andy Grant discusses the power of divine masculine energy, sexuality, and primal love with love, sex, and relationship coach Melanie Bonk. Melanie shares her insights on how men can improve their sexual experiences by releasing trauma, breaking societal conditioning, and embracing vulnerability. She emphasizes the importance of balancing masculine and feminine energies, explorin...

From Pastor to Porn Star: Navigating Faith, Stigma, and Performance Anxiety with Doc Chocolate In this episode of 'Real Men Feel,' host Andy Grant welcomes Doc Chocolate, a former pastor turned porn star who is now a coach and content creator in the adult industry. Doc shares his unconventional journey, from his pastorship in his 20s to embracing the swinging lifestyle and entering the porn industry. The conversation delves deep into his struggles with reconciling his faith, overcoming stigma, a...

Mastering Emotional Avoidance with Dr. Michelle Maidenberg In this episode of Real Men Feel, host Andy Grant welcomes Dr. Michelle Maidenberg, a New York-based therapist and author of 'Ace Your Life: Unleash Your Best Self and Live the Life You Want.' They delve into a master class on emotional avoidance, discussing why people engage in it and how it can worsen emotional experiences. Dr. Maidenberg introduces her ACE methodology — Acceptance, Compassion, and Empowerment — to help individuals ...

Understanding and Strengthening Modern Relationships with Kristal DeSantis In this episode of Real Men Feel, host Andy Grant discusses with Kristal DeSantis, a licensed marriage and family therapist, her expertise in trauma work and relationships. Kristal shares her journey from avoiding marriage to becoming a leading authority in relational therapy. She insightfully states, 'I wanted my practice to reflect two things: tactical skills and a strength-forward approach.’ They delve into Kristal'...

Overcoming False Accusations and Personal Growth: Ghasan Alesayi's Journey In this episode of Real Men Feel, host Andy Grant speaks with Ghasan Alesayi, an actor and filmmaker from Toronto. Ghasan shares his rollercoaster journey of dealing with false legal accusations and public scrutiny after being arrested for voyeurism while working with a dating coach. He talks about his battle with fear, insecurities, and the lessons he learned about vulnerability, consent, and empathy during this challen...

Real Men Feel: Embracing Authenticity with Jason Lange In this episode of Real Men Feel, host Andy Grant welcomes Jason Lange, a men's embodiment coach and certified No More Mr. Nice Guy coach. They discuss the origins and impact of nice guy syndrome, the importance of men's groups for growth and support, and the journey toward authenticity and emotional expression. Jason shares insights into how nice guys are created, the significance of setting boundaries, and the role of men's work in foste...

Men and women deal with emotions differently, but we all have them. And any man who believes that stuffing and denying their feelings are the path to a happy and successful life - all I can say is that is NOT my experience, nor is it the experience of anyone I've ever met. One of the most painful things a man can experience is the betrayal by his spouse. Today is part 2 of Recovering From Betrayal, focusing on a man betrayed by his wife. My returning guest, Vanessa Cardenas, is your truste...

Since men are human, they can make mistakes. One aspect of life we make mistakes in is our relationships. Since so many studies show that a strong prediction of happiness and longevity is the quality of our relationships, betraying our partner is a significant issue. Google says that nearly half of individuals in monogamous relationships admit to having an affair. Close to 25% of marriages stay together after an instance of cheating. My guest today, Vanessa Cardenas, is your trusted adviso...