Aligning Success with Soul: From Rock Bottom to Purpose

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Which is just too much risk
because as I was being promoted

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into, when you get to a senior
level, like board a director

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level, you cannot turn around
and say, Hey, guys, look, you

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know, have these issues.
I sometimes I, I think they're

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just checking out of life and
because now that's a risk for

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the business.
And so you, from my perspective,

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no, you're never going to reveal
that.

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And I find that quite common.
A lot of clients that will come

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to me because they're in senior
executive roles and they just

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cannot reveal to anybody else.
Hello and welcome to Real Men

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Field, where we have
conversations that most men are

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not having, but that all men can
benefit from.

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I'm your host, Andy Grant.
Today, my guest is Paul Davis, a

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renowned business growth
consultant, speaker, intuitive

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personal advisor, and the
creator of The Genius Code and

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Genius Unlocked.
Paul has spent more than two

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decades helping entrepreneurs
and professionals discover their

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true purpose, transform their
mindset, and grow businesses

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that are aligned with who they
really are.

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Paul works at the intersection
of success, intuition, purpose,

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and personal truth.
He helps entrepreneurs and

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leaders uncover the unique
genius so they can create not

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just more money or momentum, but
more meaning.

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If you've ever wondered why
achievement alone doesn't always

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feel fulfilling, this
conversation is for you.

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Let's do it.
Hello and welcome to Real Men

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Feel Paul.
It's absolutely brilliant to be

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here, Andy.
Thank you so much.

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Love it and we get treated with
a nice Irish bro today so that's

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always a.
Pleasure, I tried my best.

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So, Paul, I know that you help
people build Better Business,

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better life, better world.
When did you realize that

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business growth wasn't just
about business?

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Quite a number of years ago to
be honest.

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So I've always, when I was
working with clients, I always

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know a difference in the
business owners I was working

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with and the impact that I had
on the business.

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So while I could go into a
business and I was known for

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going into them turning around
financially and helping them to

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grow in scale.
And if I didn't get the business

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owner right and what I mean, but
I was on on the right track with

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their beliefs, how they worked
more from a mindset perspective,

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no matter what changes they
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it really just didn't have the
same impact as it would have

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which other business owners.
So I set up my own business 2425

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years ago.
Umm, so the first few years I, I

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actually started to recognize
this and then I started to work

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on and learn and develop and
work with so many different

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mentors around the world from
personal development, personal

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mastery side of things, mindset,
all the kind of such things.

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And when I started to
incorporate those elements then

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with the business owners I was
working with, the, the changes

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were, were huge.
They're phenomenal.

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So that's now, that's in effect
the operate how I operate now

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whereby it's combining both
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And what first pulled you into
the the mindset and

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transformation work?
It was funny.

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I was when I was building my
career, I went to every single

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industry.
So I was in high tech

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manufacturing, low tech
manufacturing, construction

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professional services, all, all
different types of investment

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brokers even.
And I ended up in my last

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position.
I was CEO designate of managing

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60 retail stores and I, I very,
very remember.

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So my, my whole focus was make
as much money as I can and build

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and scale the businesses as much
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But I was on holiday one time
and it was actually aged 30 at

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the time.
And I remember getting up

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really, really early in the
morning, about 5, between 5:00

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and 6:00 in the morning.
And I remember walking down to

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the beach and just walking along
the beach as the sunrise was

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coming up and then just sitting
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a download.
And many people will will

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understand the download whereby
it's case of you just, it's just

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a moment of inspiration.
And it's just, it comes out of

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nowhere and it's just, it just
pops into your mind.

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And as a realization that I was,
I was building businesses and

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helping other people become
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But where was I and the whole
equation where what was I

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getting in return?
Yeah, I was getting the money.

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And people would see me as being
hugely successful.

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They'd refer to it quite
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going to be the cars, the
houses, the holidays, whatever

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might be and so on.
But there's, there was always a

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piece within me that was kind of
just just a bit missing or a bit

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unfulfilled kind of thing.
And then I, I actually decided

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at that point in time to move
from that particular business

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into another business.
And when it came back at the

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time, believer at this show, my
age at the time, there were what

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was referred to as home study
courses or audio programs.

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And the audio programs used to
arrive in tape cassette.

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I said that that really shows my
age.

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And I placed an order and the
owner of the company hand

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delivered the package.
And he said to me it was the

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biggest order that he ever
received.

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And that was my starting point
around personal development.

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So Nightingale Conad was, was a
huge company at the time.

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And so I brought a lot of
programs from there.

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And that was the starting point.
I just I, I continued

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ferociously from there on.
So was that sunrise download?

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Was that really the first time
that you began asking yourself

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the deeper questions of purpose
and like?

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No, I tough.
For me, it actually goes back to

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a much, much younger age.
So for me that was at age 10.

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So all throughout my whole life,
the question that I kept coming

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back to was what would actually
keep me here on dessert?

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It's as simple as that.
So it's quite a dark question,

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but I, I literally from that a
young age, I just wanted to, I

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didn't want to be here.
Umm, I didn't want to be in this

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life.
I didn't literally just it made

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no sense to me whatsoever to be
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And so the question I was kind
of pursuing was what's actually

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going to keep me here?
What's what's going to?

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And I could see people around me
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like they were enjoying life and
having a great, you know, get

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assessed their life and all the
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But for me, I was just from
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to secondary school to, to go
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career path and all that kind of
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While it was enjoyable to
receive the benefits from

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building a career and all kind
of things, there was still that

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underlying question in the back
of my, I just don't want to be

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here.
And even though I'd have amazing

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conversations and amazing
turnarounds for clients and

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people and so on, I would still
constantly come back to that

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question.
And so that would, that was by,

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it was always there, to be
honest with Andy.

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And then when I was 43 at the
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passed away, he was 53 and I was
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And that was so I'd read loads
books and danced different

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mentors and counselors and this,
that and so on.

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But they still peddled to the
same stuff as what everybody

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comes across.
And at 43 when, when Eugene

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passed away, I decided then, OK,
I'm, I'm going to do my own

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research.
And that's where I dedicated

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vast majority of my time to
researching from, you know,

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scientists, human behaviors,
psychologists, all the kinds of

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things.
And Long story short, that

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that's why I came up with my own
definition for one better word

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in relation to depression and
suicide ideation, how to find

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purpose in life.
And I, I approach from a

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completely different angle.
I developed my own methodology

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from that perspective.
And last year I'd published 2

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books.
I republished my first two books

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and then I published 2 new books
and one that was called Genius

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Unlocked.
And that's all about finding

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your purpose and getting
fulfillment in life.

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And then the second one was
winning the snakes and the

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gathers is winning the Snakes
and Ladders game of life, which

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is all about, yeah, there I do
talk about my own story within

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it, but depression, suicide
ideation.

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But I bring people through the
process of, umm, dealing with

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all the triggers in life.
So, so, you know, I use the

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analogy of the snakes and
ladders board game to explain,

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Well, actually life is pretty
much like that.

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It is a game, but we're never
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So if you were given the rules
in a handbook, which is hence

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the reasons for it for the book,
life becomes enough lot more

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easier and enough lot more
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Hmm wow, I don't think I've ever
met someone that had suicide

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elation as such a young age
because I have the same

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experience.
I can remember having suicidal

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thoughts as young as eight years
old and I made multiple attempts

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on my life more than I can even
I don't even know the count.

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So until until I realize I'm
really bad at trying to die, but

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I'm also bad at living and I was
glad to what cracked me open to

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like what?
What am I missing?

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There's got to be something else
and and purpose again, huge part

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of it huge.
So something I didn't realize

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and I see.
I know you are living it but as

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a kid I didn't realize how
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Helping other people makes you
feel so much better.

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Well, actually, I, I, I coined
the phrase and, you know, OK,

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yeah, people would say it's,
it's religious connotations and

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it does because it's not really
in the, in the Bible for me.

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And it's not, this isn't about
Christianity or, or, you know,

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spirituality and all kind of
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It's more around the phrase I
coined is what you do for

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yourself, you do for others.
And that has multiple

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definitions in in my mind.
But when it comes to purpose,

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what I've found and what I
described for clients is that

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you will pursue a mission in
life and every single individual

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has a unique mission in life.
And that that's what I

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discovered.
So every single individual will

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have a unique mission in life.
They will pursue that mission

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until they die.
And but as they progress on

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developing that mission and for
one better word, getting answers

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to the quest I call a genius
quest.

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But once they start to find the
answers to some of the pieces of

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the jigsaw that's going to give
them the answer to that

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particular quest or that mission
in life, they will, it becomes

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an inner desire to want to help
others that are on the journey.

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And that's now where they, you
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you know what you do for
yourself, you do for others.

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So you're actually working with
yourself, but you're also

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helping others along the way as
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Yeah, awesome.
So there are a lot of men that

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look accomplished and look
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They checked all the boxes off,
but they still feel disconnected

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inside.
So what?

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What's going on in those
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To me there there's a few
different things.

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One of them, and if I go back
to, you know, the definition of,

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of suicide and and suicide
ideation and depression.

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What I found one of the the
critical pieces is people.

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So let's, let's take
contemporary wisdom, what

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they'll pretty much say is look
at if you eat healthy and go

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exercise and all the kind of
things and do mindfulness and

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meditation, so on, you'll,
you'll be fine.

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Or, you know, go on the SSRIs
and you'll be fine from that

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perspective.
But it's not removing the

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underlying issues.
And what is discovered is one of

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the underlying issues is
childhood trauma.

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And even though I wouldn't, I, I
would have grown up in, in a

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middle class family, not major.
Like I honestly did not major

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like it was, it was an OK
family, but a childhood trauma

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can be defined as being even if
you remove school and you have

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to find new friends, that's a
trauma.

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If the parents had experienced A
separation or divorce or

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financial difficulties, that's
the child observing those

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circumstances and that's a
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It's classified as a trauma.
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score, it's called the ACE
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It's adverse childhood
experiences and the more scores

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that you get on that, the higher
propensity you have to having

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suicide ideation or gambling
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whatever being so.
So that's how it manifests.

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So people are men that are
experienced whereby if they

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build a career, and I've done
that, like many people saw me as

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being hugely successful.
They didn't know Dean or demons.

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That was going on inside my
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family.
So I didn't disclose to my wife

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until I was 43.
And so we were going out, We, we

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got married at 24.
So I'll give you an idea of how,

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how many years that and we've
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So I hate it quite well.
And there's so many men out

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there that can hide it so, so
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We can perform exceptionally
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on the inside world, we're
fighting our own battles, we're

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fighting our own demons.
So part is, is childhood trauma

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that hasn't been dissolved or
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Part is that there's no winner
sense of purpose or meaning.

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And part of it is that there's
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And I, I separated 2 of them
purposely because when I put

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together the methodology for,
for finding your purpose,

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there's four elements to, to, to
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And one of them is what I call
your quest or your mission.

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But the other element is what's
actually going to give you

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fulfillment.
And I call it your, your genius

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drivers.
So that that's not a relevance.

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And then there's another thing
that that really kind of

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triggers people, which is the
triggers, which is, you know,

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you'll see things in other
people that that would trigger

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you or somebody says something
that would trigger you and it

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will send you off on a spiral.
So you'll have this inner

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narrative in your mind, either
pretty much judging yourself or

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giving out to yourself or asking
yourself questions in terms or,

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you know, why are people saying
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And what you know, you'll,
you'll start to build castles in

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your mind.
And if you take all of those

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together, that's where people
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to get it to to a point where
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Now that's the absolute catalyst
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And so that's the extreme, but
it's somebody that is, can still

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be going through life and having
a, an OK life will naturally

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come back to one of those
elements or what One, one thing

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that actually find common across
all business owners is the lack

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of self-care.
And so they'll, they'll operate

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the business, they'll want to
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productive.
They want to be doing and, and

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be doing things, you know, on an
ongoing basis and, and feeding

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the family are providing for the
families, because that's, that's

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the human nature.
It's, it's built within a since

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caveman days.
And so we, we concentrate on

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that, but sometimes to the
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So, but if we don't have
routines of self-care and now we

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start to deplete.
And what I always say to clients

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is you've, you've got to give
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cup.
And what I mean by that is if

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you can imagine that you're,
you're filling the cup up with,

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with tea or coffee to the point
of overflowing and overflows

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into the saucer, that's what
you, what you do you, you give

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from the saucer, not from the
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You've got to be filled up first
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others.
And there's a vast majority of

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people and especially men, which
aren't givers, they're natural

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givers because a gang, it goes
back to the gang into the Cape

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and days whereby, yeah, we we
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So we'd naturally want to give
what we've what we've haunted

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and what we've got.
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that the self-care and we, I've,
I've found that quite common

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across a lot of business owners
that were actually especially

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men, because a gang, we have to
be seen as being, you know, the,

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the, the, the match of the alpha
and all kind of sort of things,

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not to show any of our emotions
or anything that whatsoever.

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So, you know, to do any kind of
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Some people say a gosh on the
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That's not, it's not really
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It's good exercise, but it's not
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you're not really caring for
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So that that's that's one thing
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Oh yeah.
So why?

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Yeah.
Why did you hide this for so

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many years?
Was it this old, you know, the

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risk system of seeing being seen
as weak or what others would

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think?
It was, it was actually the

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risk.
Yeah.

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So I, I remember, so starts off
for me at the at the age of 10,

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that's the areas memory I could
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And I remember a 1.1 attempt.
I actually asked my brother to I

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gave him a knife and actually
asked him to kill me.

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It sounds so funny at this
stage, you know, and I talked

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myoply about my, my journey, but
he, he just told me to fuck off.

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And and so that was it was what
I actually learned from that

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point of time was OK, I'm not
going to ask anybody for help.

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And from that point in time, I
never, ever, ever asked anybody

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for help.
And but then I found out later

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on life, actually, no, you get
much further if you do actually

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ask for help in business or in
life, in anything that you're

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trying to achieve.
But for me, it was around.

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I've asked a question.
Sorry, Andy, for posing a

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question.
You're asking why did you have,

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why did you hide it?
Yeah, I and growing up, OK, so

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to answer as a kid or as a
teenager, all of us were very,

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very competitive in our family.
So we turned into entrepreneurs,

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we built our own businesses and
all the kinds of things were

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very, very competitive and we
were always compared to other

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people in the neighborhood.
So therefore, to show weakness

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from that perspective, it's just
not something you do.

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It's it was never very much
loving in our family.

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So our parents, and this would
be quite common anyway that, you

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know, your parents don't turn
around and say, yeah, you love

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you.
So to reveal that now look, I'm

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having some issues here.
You, you just don't do that in

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our family and rolled on then
into when it's build my career

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and into my business.
There's just too much risk

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because as I was being promoted
and to when you get to a senior

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level, like board a director
level, you cannot turn around

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and say, Hey, guys, look, you
know, have these issues.

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I sometimes I, I think they're
just checking out of life and

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because now that's a risk for
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And so you from my perspective,
no, you're never going to reveal

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that.
And I'd find that quite common

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in a lot of clients that would
come to me because they're in

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senior executive roles and they
just cannot reveal to anybody

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else.
And definitely when they, when

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it came to client stand in my
own business, yeah, clients, I'm

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not saying my clients, but the
vast majority of people would

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view people that have that
express themselves as having

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depression or suicide radiation
or a mental health issue are

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going to be as less than.
So therefore, for them to

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engage, they know that they they
want to engage with somebody

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from their perspective that
that's whole as opposed to

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somebody that's kind of either
disabled or less than or there's

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a piece missing that, that
that's the perception that

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people have.
And yes, we can perform an

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extremely high efficiency and
effective.

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The rate it actually gives us,
honestly, it actually gives us

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an advantage in my mind.
It actually gives us an

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advantage because we become more
sensitive to other people.

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We are constantly driving the
final case of what's, what's

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going to help or what's going to
improve.

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So we're all constantly on that
search and therefore we're

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bringing all that knowledge and
information to other people.

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So I, I actually see it as an
advantage and a disadvantage.

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Umm, so that, that's why I kept
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I, I, I just wouldn't.
And then when my, as I said,

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when Eugene passed away, kind of
I, I just so to, to get to give

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you a story.
So very, very quickly, he went

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in for an operation.
Operation didn't go well.

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He came out of the operation.
I was there with him and doctor

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said to me, no, he's not going
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He's not going to survive.
He's got a couple of hours to

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go.
And, but in my mind of the weeks

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that followed that I saw
somebody which my brother, 10

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years older than me, had two
young kids, really young kids.

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And he wanted to hang on to
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And there was me saying, I want
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So that was the paradox and, and
therefore I, Eugene and the gift

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that that he gave in his past,
he was, I've got to turn the

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situation around.
And so that's, that's literally

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when I, I, I told my wife and
told my family then.

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Yeah, similar to you, I don't
see this as what what the

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trappings of society might call
less than and all the fear of

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being seen as less than.
It takes such bravery for a man

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to ask for help.
I I think it that that those

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guys are more than.
Yeah, yeah, yeah.

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And you've got the skill set of,
of empathy and understanding

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other people.
And yeah, there, there there is

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no perfection.
There is nobody whose life is

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just this constant flat state of
nothing to react to, no

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challenges.
Yeah, all, all of our all of our

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boats get rocked.
And too many, too.

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Many men wait till they hit rock
bottom to ask for help.

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But, you know, I, I think you
talk about self-care and I think

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selfishness gets a bad rap like.
It does, yeah.

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Yeah, men want to be protective
and provide and be of service,

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but if they're not in tune, if
they're not healed, if they're

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not aligned with their truest
selves, then yeah, it it all

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looks, umm, distorted.
Yeah, it it comes out in some

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shape or form, it will always,
always, always come out in some

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shape or form.
That can be an illness, or it's

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an abusive relationship, or it
always will be expressed.

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All right, so you mentioned your
your newest book Genius

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Unlocked.
What do you mean by genius?

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So if you go back to the origin
genius, it comes from the Latin

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term Gigna ring.
And if you look up the

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definition of it, it actually is
the innate spirit that you were

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born with.
That's so that's, that's what

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genius is.
And every single individual is

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born with a unique genius with a
unique spirit.

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So it's your unique ability.
And therefore when you so that,

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that's why I, I, I picked genius
as as part of the title and part

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of the, the elements of purpose.
So when you find what that

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unique genius is within
yourself.

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So there's four elements from my
perspective there.

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There's your quest, which is
your mission in life.

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That's specifically what you're
here to do.

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There's your, your inspiration.
And it's now inspiration has has

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gotten a bad rap because or it's
been muddied.

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That's by the way.
So the origin of inspiration, a

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king comes from the term
inspirare, which is a divine

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inspiration.
It's a divine guide.

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It's divine knowledge that that
that people receive and every

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single individual will receive
that insurance inspiration.

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They'll have moments of awe,
they'll have moments of download

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or inspiration in their mind.
That's that's divinely given

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that that's unconsciously given
as a super consciousness.

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So that inspiration and where
it's been muddied is people have

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been on the search for finding
your why.

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And I, I, I dismiss why as a
dismissifying your why.

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And the reason being is that
people are consciously trying to

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find out what their why is.
And but you're using your

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conscious mind and your
conscious mind will we'll never

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give you the answers.
It's because it's, it's going to

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be the wrong information is
going to be the wrong knowledge.

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But secondly, they're, they're
trying to apply a why to what

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they're currently doing.
But if they're currently doing

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something that they shouldn't
really be doing or it's not

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aligned with remission, well,
then it's going to be the wrong

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way in the 1st place.
So that's why you find out why.

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It doesn't really answer the
question.

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So inspiration is, is divine.
And then use your, your genius

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drivers.
And that's what gives you

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fulfillment.
Because again, if you go back to

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the origin and how did the Greek
philosopher talk about

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fulfillment?
It was being filled.

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It was full, feeling full.
So the way I describe for

449
00:22:23,440 --> 00:22:26,400
clients is that imagine you've
got 3 buckets sitting in front

450
00:22:26,400 --> 00:22:29,280
of you.
Your job is to fill each one of

451
00:22:29,280 --> 00:22:31,440
those buckets.
But each one of those buckets

452
00:22:31,440 --> 00:22:34,960
represents a genius driver.
It's what you're innately driven

453
00:22:34,960 --> 00:22:38,240
to fulfill.
So what you're doing is when you

454
00:22:38,240 --> 00:22:41,240
identify your genius drivers,
you're now finding out what

455
00:22:41,240 --> 00:22:43,880
those 3 buckets are.
And then your, your purpose or

456
00:22:43,880 --> 00:22:46,120
part of your purpose in life is
to fill each one of those

457
00:22:46,120 --> 00:22:47,600
buckets.
And that's where you get

458
00:22:47,600 --> 00:22:49,960
fulfillment from.
And then there's your genius

459
00:22:49,960 --> 00:22:51,600
role.
And your genius role is think of

460
00:22:51,600 --> 00:22:54,720
it like an archetype.
So it's, it's how you're best to

461
00:22:54,720 --> 00:22:57,800
fulfill your mission.
So for example, I, so I identify

462
00:22:57,800 --> 00:23:00,680
10 genius roles throughout all
the clients that I worked with.

463
00:23:01,120 --> 00:23:02,920
My genius role happens to be the
guide.

464
00:23:03,200 --> 00:23:05,800
And the purpose of the guide is
to advise and get people from

465
00:23:05,800 --> 00:23:08,920
A-Z as quickly as possible.
That that's what I do in my

466
00:23:08,920 --> 00:23:11,920
business and that's what I,
that's my natural archetype.

467
00:23:12,440 --> 00:23:14,440
So I like to advise people, I
like to guide people.

468
00:23:14,440 --> 00:23:17,560
I like to bring people on a
journey from, from, from A-Z,

469
00:23:18,200 --> 00:23:24,040
but your genius role is always,
always, always aligned with your

470
00:23:24,040 --> 00:23:25,680
genius quest with your mission
in life.

471
00:23:26,400 --> 00:23:31,400
Everything in the universe is so
perfect and I'm always in awe,

472
00:23:31,400 --> 00:23:34,320
which is the inspiration when I
work with clients and we

473
00:23:34,320 --> 00:23:37,600
identify each one of those
elements and they can, I, I can

474
00:23:37,600 --> 00:23:40,080
see it in them and I can see the
energy shifting and changing.

475
00:23:40,080 --> 00:23:42,880
And once they see those
energies, it makes total and

476
00:23:42,880 --> 00:23:45,280
complete sense of them.
And then once they, they, they

477
00:23:45,280 --> 00:23:48,040
go on that path of fulfilling
their purpose.

478
00:23:48,040 --> 00:23:50,640
Now the universe is, is helping
them.

479
00:23:51,120 --> 00:23:53,800
It's contriving to to help them
literally fulfill their mission.

480
00:23:54,200 --> 00:23:56,600
And is there always challenges?
Yeah, there's always chances.

481
00:23:56,640 --> 00:23:59,160
There's never, there's never,
ever, ever a situation because

482
00:23:59,160 --> 00:24:01,600
you can't, because one of the
universal laws is the law of

483
00:24:01,600 --> 00:24:04,240
duality.
You can never have a situation

484
00:24:04,240 --> 00:24:05,600
where everything's going to be
perfect.

485
00:24:05,600 --> 00:24:08,640
Everything's going to be sun and
sunshine and roses in here.

486
00:24:08,640 --> 00:24:11,360
It's not really because there's
always, there's always

487
00:24:11,360 --> 00:24:13,120
challenges, but there's also
good times as well.

488
00:24:13,480 --> 00:24:15,960
Always both.
So that that that's my

489
00:24:17,080 --> 00:24:19,480
methodology for one, but award
of of find a purpose.

490
00:24:19,480 --> 00:24:22,520
No, that's so genius and locked
to the book I created in the

491
00:24:22,520 --> 00:24:25,360
course I create as well.
That's that's what that does.

492
00:24:27,120 --> 00:24:32,440
And can someone be successful
without being aligned with and

493
00:24:32,440 --> 00:24:35,040
utilizing their genius?
Yeah, they can.

494
00:24:35,040 --> 00:24:35,600
Yeah.
Yeah.

495
00:24:36,080 --> 00:24:37,520
Because that, that's how we've
been grown.

496
00:24:37,800 --> 00:24:40,240
That's how we know depends on
what your definition of success

497
00:24:40,240 --> 00:24:43,960
is, because everybody's every
everybody's definition is

498
00:24:43,960 --> 00:24:46,440
personal to them.
Some people may succeed success

499
00:24:46,440 --> 00:24:50,120
as being well get the Welt, get
into cars, get the you know, the

500
00:24:50,120 --> 00:24:54,000
multiple wives, the he the
houses is that some people see

501
00:24:54,040 --> 00:24:57,560
that has been success.
But yet I've come across so many

502
00:24:58,360 --> 00:25:01,600
executives and business owners
that even sold a business for

503
00:25:01,600 --> 00:25:04,720
multiple multiple multi millions
and still unhappy.

504
00:25:06,040 --> 00:25:08,920
That's not success and they'll
even classified that's not

505
00:25:08,920 --> 00:25:10,960
success.
They're still search for what's

506
00:25:10,960 --> 00:25:13,400
what's going to give them that
Some some are so chasing the

507
00:25:13,400 --> 00:25:16,600
bulls of building the business
and and and selling it.

508
00:25:17,000 --> 00:25:22,040
But when it comes to let me put
this way I did this could be

509
00:25:22,040 --> 00:25:23,760
quite common.
A lot of a lot of people, a lot

510
00:25:23,760 --> 00:25:27,040
of men as well, whereby when
they're on their own for a

511
00:25:27,040 --> 00:25:31,040
period of time.
I remember 1 client tell me he

512
00:25:31,040 --> 00:25:34,440
was on a long flight back to to
home.

513
00:25:34,560 --> 00:25:38,600
So he's on a six hour flight
back and that time he was just

514
00:25:38,600 --> 00:25:41,080
on his own.
So he's travelling first class.

515
00:25:41,160 --> 00:25:43,760
Nobody disturbed him just on his
own and he's just in his own

516
00:25:43,760 --> 00:25:45,600
thoughts.
He had no work to do as such.

517
00:25:46,120 --> 00:25:47,760
And he said that was the first
time.

518
00:25:47,760 --> 00:25:50,760
So why am I doing this?
What on there am I doing this

519
00:25:50,760 --> 00:25:53,360
for?
So when you sometimes that

520
00:25:53,360 --> 00:25:55,400
happens for people at 3:00 in
the morning, I call it the

521
00:25:55,400 --> 00:25:57,880
witching hour.
And it's, it's a common term

522
00:25:57,880 --> 00:25:58,920
that the people will come
across.

523
00:25:59,400 --> 00:26:02,400
But when people are on their own
and they're, they get the time

524
00:26:02,400 --> 00:26:04,680
to reflect on those questions,
What, what am I doing?

525
00:26:05,360 --> 00:26:08,800
COVID enabled an awful lot of
that actually when that happened

526
00:26:08,800 --> 00:26:11,720
because it gave people the time
to actually go into themselves

527
00:26:11,720 --> 00:26:16,040
or ask them some more difficult
and challenging questions.

528
00:26:16,760 --> 00:26:19,680
And then they realize, actually,
you know, maybe I've, I've put

529
00:26:19,680 --> 00:26:20,840
the ladder against the wrong
wall.

530
00:26:23,320 --> 00:26:26,560
So you're also known for an
intuitive approach, yeah.

531
00:26:26,840 --> 00:26:29,520
Were you always open to your own
intuition?

532
00:26:29,920 --> 00:26:33,120
Yeah, I was, Yeah.
So, OK, it's, it's explain that

533
00:26:33,120 --> 00:26:36,280
for listeners.
So I was born in Ireland, the

534
00:26:36,280 --> 00:26:40,080
seventh son of 1/7 of a 7th, so
which has a lot, a lot of folk.

535
00:26:40,960 --> 00:26:43,600
And so the seventh son is
typically known in Ireland as

536
00:26:43,600 --> 00:26:47,560
being somebody just gifted
intuitive or empathic or can

537
00:26:47,560 --> 00:26:50,120
heal different people and
animals and so on.

538
00:26:50,440 --> 00:26:51,840
I had a combination of all of
that.

539
00:26:51,920 --> 00:26:53,880
So I'm an intuitive, I'm an
empathic.

540
00:26:54,240 --> 00:26:57,160
I've, when I was a kid, I used
to heal people and people used

541
00:26:57,160 --> 00:26:59,320
to come to the house because
they'd know I was a seventh son

542
00:26:59,320 --> 00:27:02,320
of 1/7 of 1/7.
And if, if people look up the,

543
00:27:02,720 --> 00:27:04,600
the science or not so much the
science, but if they look up

544
00:27:04,600 --> 00:27:09,160
the, the history of the number 7
and three and the seven and

545
00:27:09,160 --> 00:27:12,040
three sevens, it has a huge
amount of power in, in

546
00:27:12,040 --> 00:27:14,600
mythology.
So that's what I used to do as a

547
00:27:14,600 --> 00:27:16,360
kid.
So then, but then as, as I grew

548
00:27:16,360 --> 00:27:21,000
into my career and to my
businesses, I, I saw the

549
00:27:21,000 --> 00:27:23,240
intuitive side being so, so
powerful.

550
00:27:23,840 --> 00:27:26,080
And so don't dismiss it.
I actually want to work with

551
00:27:26,080 --> 00:27:29,160
clients on my website, say,
look, that's, that's who I am.

552
00:27:29,160 --> 00:27:30,840
That's, that's literally it's
part of me.

553
00:27:31,120 --> 00:27:33,240
So if you want me in your
business, that's, that's how we

554
00:27:33,240 --> 00:27:37,000
work because I've gotten
intuitive information for

555
00:27:37,000 --> 00:27:40,120
clients in order to help them on
what's going to make them a

556
00:27:40,120 --> 00:27:43,640
success in, in Dermot.
And that's how it has actually

557
00:27:43,640 --> 00:27:47,840
helped me to develop Tibetan
methodology for finding your

558
00:27:47,840 --> 00:27:51,040
purpose, because a lot of that
came from downloads or intuitive

559
00:27:51,040 --> 00:27:53,600
information, as well as research
with, with, with clients and

560
00:27:53,600 --> 00:27:56,400
practicing with, with clients.
I'm not saying a lot of the

561
00:27:56,400 --> 00:27:58,680
work, but a good chunk of the
work that I do with clients,

562
00:27:58,680 --> 00:28:00,840
actually helping them to develop
their own intuition.

563
00:28:01,480 --> 00:28:04,440
Every single individual is
intuitive, but they're just not

564
00:28:04,440 --> 00:28:07,680
using that muscle.
And I, it is a muscle that

565
00:28:07,680 --> 00:28:09,160
you've got to, you've got to
develop.

566
00:28:09,760 --> 00:28:12,840
But if, if you were to develop
it and know how to understand

567
00:28:12,840 --> 00:28:16,520
it, how to work with it and how
to interpret and so on, it's a

568
00:28:16,600 --> 00:28:19,520
phenomenal resource, absolutely
phenomenal resource.

569
00:28:19,840 --> 00:28:23,960
And I think we're we are
shifting as as a society, we are

570
00:28:23,960 --> 00:28:26,760
shifting more towards using the
intuitive side of ourselves.

571
00:28:27,560 --> 00:28:30,680
Yeah, I mean, it's an aspect
that's always been there.

572
00:28:31,240 --> 00:28:34,720
And yes, it's too many people
have been taught that it's

573
00:28:34,720 --> 00:28:37,400
nonsense.
It's just your imagination or

574
00:28:37,520 --> 00:28:40,120
you know, you got to trust your
brain only and.

575
00:28:40,120 --> 00:28:42,680
Yeah, that's just yes, yeah,
yeah.

576
00:28:42,680 --> 00:28:45,440
But but what they will say that
and you'll see this for various

577
00:28:45,440 --> 00:28:48,000
successful individuals, well
known individuals, they'll

578
00:28:48,000 --> 00:28:52,160
always say to I trust my God,
Hey, you're good.

579
00:28:52,920 --> 00:28:55,160
That's your intuitive side, that
that's not logic.

580
00:28:55,160 --> 00:28:57,360
That's not, you know that they
didn't, didn't I made an

581
00:28:57,360 --> 00:28:58,760
accountable background.
That's not looking at

582
00:28:58,760 --> 00:29:00,200
financials.
That's your good feeling.

583
00:29:00,200 --> 00:29:02,800
That's your intuitive feeling.
So they use those terms as

584
00:29:02,800 --> 00:29:05,040
opposed to Oh no, they they see
intuitive being woo woo.

585
00:29:05,480 --> 00:29:09,240
But no, no, no, not when you
start to research enough a lot

586
00:29:09,240 --> 00:29:12,240
of the successful individuals
because a, they'll do meditation

587
00:29:12,360 --> 00:29:14,480
and typically it's
Transcendental Meditation or TM

588
00:29:14,960 --> 00:29:17,120
and they will always follow
their, their good feeling or

589
00:29:17,120 --> 00:29:20,280
didn't you decide.
What do entrepreneurs and

590
00:29:20,280 --> 00:29:24,960
executives that you come across
need most, but rarely will admit

591
00:29:24,960 --> 00:29:28,680
out loud?
Actually, if I think about it,

592
00:29:30,360 --> 00:29:33,400
probably belief in themselves a
lot of strange.

593
00:29:34,160 --> 00:29:40,360
But if, if I think about it, a
lot of them will admit to and,

594
00:29:40,360 --> 00:29:42,480
and they won't say it to anybody
else and definitely won't say it

595
00:29:42,480 --> 00:29:45,040
to to the board of directors or,
or anybody around them.

596
00:29:45,480 --> 00:29:49,440
A lot of them lack confidence.
They'll they'll appear in a

597
00:29:49,440 --> 00:29:51,960
particular way.
But it's, it's funny, a lot of

598
00:29:51,960 --> 00:29:55,040
individuals, and, and I'll see
it as an empathic, a lot of

599
00:29:55,040 --> 00:30:00,200
individuals present themselves
as a persona and there's a huge

600
00:30:00,200 --> 00:30:03,200
number of executives presenting
themselves as a persona, what

601
00:30:03,200 --> 00:30:08,800
they perceive that other people
are expecting them to present

602
00:30:08,800 --> 00:30:11,800
as.
So they're, they're, they go in

603
00:30:11,800 --> 00:30:13,920
with this dual personality for
one better word.

604
00:30:13,920 --> 00:30:15,000
So they're presenting the
persona.

605
00:30:15,000 --> 00:30:18,040
But then when they, when they're
in their, their car on their own

606
00:30:18,040 --> 00:30:20,880
or they're in their living room
on their own on their own and,

607
00:30:20,880 --> 00:30:23,560
and nobody's around them now
they come back to their own

608
00:30:23,640 --> 00:30:26,320
persona.
And that our own persona is

609
00:30:26,320 --> 00:30:30,200
actually, umm, actually quite
small for an awful lot of

610
00:30:30,200 --> 00:30:31,760
people.
So that's where their, their,

611
00:30:31,760 --> 00:30:34,720
their confidence can be quite
low, their self belief, their

612
00:30:34,720 --> 00:30:38,440
self worth, umm, all those inner
aspects.

613
00:30:38,840 --> 00:30:41,160
You get that right?
Oh my God, there, there's

614
00:30:41,160 --> 00:30:44,760
nothing stopping them.
And, and, and it is about

615
00:30:44,760 --> 00:30:49,040
realigning them to actually who
they really, really truly are.

616
00:30:49,400 --> 00:30:51,160
And that, that's the amazing
piece of work.

617
00:30:51,600 --> 00:30:54,880
Because when you align them to
who they really, truly are and

618
00:30:54,880 --> 00:30:57,840
then design their career or
their path or their life around

619
00:30:58,280 --> 00:31:01,880
who it is they truly are.
Now, from a marketing

620
00:31:01,880 --> 00:31:03,480
perspective and a business
perspective, now they're

621
00:31:03,480 --> 00:31:05,760
different.
And there's so many businesses,

622
00:31:05,760 --> 00:31:07,960
especially professional
services, that they'd say, well,

623
00:31:07,960 --> 00:31:09,120
how can I stand out in the
crowd?

624
00:31:09,120 --> 00:31:11,320
How can I be different?
You know, how can I get that

625
00:31:11,320 --> 00:31:15,840
competitive advantage?
How you do it is be you, be you,

626
00:31:15,840 --> 00:31:19,720
be the unique you that you are
and be the genius you that you

627
00:31:19,720 --> 00:31:22,000
were.
And once you do that, Oh my God,

628
00:31:22,160 --> 00:31:24,400
everything changes.
Yeah.

629
00:31:24,880 --> 00:31:30,560
Is there a simple exercise or
question that a man could start

630
00:31:30,760 --> 00:31:34,160
asking himself reflecting on to
connect with their deeper

631
00:31:34,160 --> 00:31:36,800
purpose or genius?
Yeah, easy.

632
00:31:37,040 --> 00:31:40,480
One of the questions, I do it in
the book, but I'll, I'll share

633
00:31:40,480 --> 00:31:43,600
it here because it's the easy
question in the book.

634
00:31:43,600 --> 00:31:45,640
I kind of frame it open and
explain it a little bit more.

635
00:31:45,840 --> 00:31:48,840
But just time constraints here.
I'll, I'll, I'll whistle stop.

636
00:31:48,840 --> 00:31:51,080
True.
Every single individual has a

637
00:31:51,080 --> 00:31:56,160
quest and that quest will start
and typically starts to manifest

638
00:31:56,400 --> 00:31:58,880
in a person's side of the gang
from all the work that I've done

639
00:31:59,400 --> 00:32:02,240
typically shows up between the
ages of seven and 12:00.

640
00:32:03,320 --> 00:32:07,400
So that's when we start to
become cognizant of it and a

641
00:32:07,400 --> 00:32:10,800
question comes into our mind
between the ages and 7:00 and

642
00:32:10,800 --> 00:32:15,600
12:00 of a it's, it's a
foundational question or it's a

643
00:32:15,600 --> 00:32:19,200
fundamental question that we
will always come back to.

644
00:32:20,040 --> 00:32:23,640
And so it shows up in our life
in between ages 7 and 12.

645
00:32:24,000 --> 00:32:26,520
That's the universe trying,
trying to know just towards our

646
00:32:26,520 --> 00:32:30,200
mission of life and our quest.
Umm, but sometimes what we do is

647
00:32:30,200 --> 00:32:32,240
we, we just dismiss it.
We just show it out of our mind

648
00:32:32,240 --> 00:32:34,520
and so on.
But it will always, always,

649
00:32:34,520 --> 00:32:36,880
always show up through our, our
whole life.

650
00:32:37,320 --> 00:32:41,360
So when we start a career and
when we're going to, you know,

651
00:32:41,360 --> 00:32:44,680
college or university or
whatever being some, it happens

652
00:32:44,680 --> 00:32:47,240
when we're in our quieter
moments that we've always come

653
00:32:47,240 --> 00:32:51,320
back to.
And that exact same question, it

654
00:32:51,320 --> 00:32:54,160
may be phrased, it's very, very
slightly different, but it's

655
00:32:54,160 --> 00:32:56,920
always the same question.
So we start to read books, we

656
00:32:56,920 --> 00:32:59,720
start to even maybe go to
coaches or mentors, or we start

657
00:32:59,720 --> 00:33:02,360
to go on different training
courses or programs or going to

658
00:33:02,360 --> 00:33:05,080
be, and sometimes when we're
reading a book, we're in at the

659
00:33:05,080 --> 00:33:07,080
back of our mind, we're kind of
saying, I hope this gives us a

660
00:33:07,080 --> 00:33:09,080
piece of the information that's
going to help me RIP my quest.

661
00:33:09,720 --> 00:33:11,920
And are, they won't call it a
quest, but they call it a

662
00:33:11,920 --> 00:33:15,880
question.
And, and that happens throughout

663
00:33:15,880 --> 00:33:19,200
our whole life.
So if you go back over your life

664
00:33:19,840 --> 00:33:22,440
and start to recognise what's
the fundamental question you've

665
00:33:22,440 --> 00:33:26,200
always been asking yourself,
you'll, you'll find what your

666
00:33:26,200 --> 00:33:27,200
quest is.
That's your mission.

667
00:33:28,080 --> 00:33:29,960
And it's not as simple as, Oh,
what's my purpose?

668
00:33:29,960 --> 00:33:32,600
No, no, no, no, no, that's,
that's just a sideline.

669
00:33:33,000 --> 00:33:34,880
It'll be always questions.
So I'll, I'll give you the

670
00:33:34,880 --> 00:33:38,720
example of because you'll see
I'm into aviation.

671
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The best example that I can see
manifested externally were the

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Wright brothers.
So the Wright brothers were two

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brothers that developed the very
first mechanical airplane for

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one better work.
OK.

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And that quest started at the
ages of seven and 11, two

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brothers, ages 7:00 and 11:00.
And they were playing with a toy

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that were brought up to their
father brought home.

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They broke the toy.
It was a little Arab toy,

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airplane had elastic band on it
or some sort of mechanism that

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that had the thing propelling.
And when they broke it, the two

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of them started working together
to say, OK, how could we

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actually fix it?
First of all, and bear in mind,

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as they grew up, they went into
becoming a newspaper printer and

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then into having a bicycle shop,
bicycle repair shop and, and

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selling bicycles and so on.
So so they pursued a different

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career to the purpose, but they
always kept coming back to I

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wonder how we could build a
machine that would fly a nom

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hole that you know the story.
They built the very first in in

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the Kitty Hawk.
So they built the very first

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motor propelled airplane and
that's one.

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So that, that's a quest that
started at, again, the, the,

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the, the golden age of between
7:00 and 12:00, every single

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individual will have a quest
that they'll always come back

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to.
Paul, what does a meaningful

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life look like to you now?
It's a good question.

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It's kind of two aspects.
Well, actually it was probably

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multi multifaceted to be honest
with you and I, I really want to

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enjoy my life.
I mean, I mean really enjoy my

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life.
Gone are the days that I've I've

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suicide Asia, Asia suicide
ideation or wanted to check out.

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Gone are those days.
Thank God.

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It's I want to get as much out
of life as possible.

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And it's not about, you know,
you know, drinking or whatever

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be No, it's I, I could, I could
sit on the park bench in, in a

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park and listen to the bird song
and Oh my God, those moments are

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just phenomenal for me.
Umm, so it's getting this much a

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life.
I, you know, I think every

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parent knows this.
We, we want to see our family to

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be happy.
So I have two adult kids.

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I, I want them to, I want to see
them as being happy.

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And but every single individual,
what I discovered it gets to the

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point in life and, and may for
someone may actually be under

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deathbed, but they want to, they
want to feel that they've made a

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difference or they want to feel
that they've left a legacy.

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I think true to courses that
I've developed in the books that

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are written and I still continue
to write books anyway, but I, I

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do have my own personal mission
from from that perspective in

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terms of, you know, I, I, I want
to, I want to get an, a certain

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number of people on their true
life purpose.

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That's my that's, that's part of
my business goal for one of

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better work And and that brings
them into meaning.

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And I, yeah, it's, it's making a
difference in people's lives to

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be quite honestly that it's been
tough.

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Succinct, really.
And Paul, what's the best way

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for people to learn more about
all the things that you're up

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to?
The best way honestly is just

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just visit my website.
If if anything that I said

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00:36:45,520 --> 00:36:47,480
resonates with people and they
want to find out more

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00:36:47,480 --> 00:36:50,400
information to go to my website,
which is Davis Business

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00:36:50,400 --> 00:36:52,760
consultants.com.
There's loads of free resources

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00:36:52,760 --> 00:36:55,440
there and my books are there.
How we work with people that

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there's loads and those
information is there because

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they've been built for for 20
odd years.

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So yeah, that's that's my
easiest Davis Business

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consultants.com.
Very good.

736
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And finally, what is one thing
that you wish more men knew?

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That's a tough one because it
depends on their circumstances.

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I think, OK, maybe maybe too
encapsulated.

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I think if a lot of men that I
find are trying to live life

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like a, like a, like a fist.
So that means that they're,

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they're trying to make action.
They're trying to, you know, as

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I think you know, they'll,
they'll bould their way through

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to something.
Not, I'm not saying all, but

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00:37:35,960 --> 00:37:38,680
some of the will, umm, but they
think they've got to be

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productive for inaction and all
that kind of sad things and, and

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00:37:41,040 --> 00:37:45,120
they think that they've got to
be productive on an ongoing

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00:37:45,120 --> 00:37:50,400
basis.
Umm, but actually they feel that

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that's what's going to lead them
to success.

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But actually, if you turned it
around and you actually operate

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life from an open hand
perspective and you're there to

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00:38:00,640 --> 00:38:07,200
receive and you're there to be
guided, life becomes so much

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00:38:07,200 --> 00:38:09,760
easier.
And part of that is intuition.

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Part of that is working with the
universe.

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00:38:11,080 --> 00:38:12,680
Part of that is working with
your colleagues and the people

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around you.
And instead of being trying to

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00:38:15,240 --> 00:38:19,640
be productive all the time, it's
actually no go with people refer

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00:38:19,640 --> 00:38:22,320
to the term, you know, go with
the flow or or be in the flow is

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00:38:22,320 --> 00:38:26,160
22 separate things.
But that's by by operating with

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an open hand that that's what
you're enabling to do, enabling

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to make happen.
I, I wish I knew that going

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00:38:31,640 --> 00:38:34,360
back.
Oh God, so many years.

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00:38:34,360 --> 00:38:36,240
Yeah.
Back to when I was, you know,

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1520 kind of thing.
I I wish I knew that back then.

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Well, Paul, thanks so much for
joining us today.

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Thanks for living and sharing
your purpose.

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Thanks for choosing to stay.
You're a bright light in the

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world, and I'm glad that you're
helping others to find their

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their light, their genius, and
their purpose as well.

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Thank you, Andy, Thank you so
much for having me on the show.

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My pleasure.
Thanks again, Paul, for that

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powerful conversation.
I really appreciate bridging

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success and soul, business and
intuition, achievement and

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purpose.
So many men have been taught to

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chase results without ever
checking to see if the life

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00:39:12,280 --> 00:39:15,160
they're building actually fits
with who they truly are.

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I think this conversation gives
people permission to pause,

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reflect, and reconnect with
their own genius.

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Please connect with Paul Davis,
learn more about Genius Unlocked

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00:39:25,840 --> 00:39:28,840
and his other work, and if this
episode spoke to you, share it

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00:39:28,840 --> 00:39:31,840
with a man who's successful on
the outside, but maybe still

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00:39:31,840 --> 00:39:34,480
searching for something deeper
inside.

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00:39:35,240 --> 00:39:37,760
And if you want more than just
listening, if you want real

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00:39:37,760 --> 00:39:41,760
connection, consider joining us
in authentic AF, The Real Men

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Feel community.
Visit realmenfeel.org/group.

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Thanks for listening and until
next time be good to yourself.