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Quit the Game: Ryan Vertucci on Success, Validation, and Becoming an Aligned Man
Host Andy Grant interviews entrepreneur and author Ryan Vertucci about the hidden cost of chasing money, status, and sexual validation. Ryan recounts feeling trapped in a Walgreens management job, launching a property management franchise, and later “optimizing” himself through fitness, image, social media, and pickup programs, only to remain empty despite wealth, friends, and dating options. MDMA-assisted therapy surfaced childhood wounds tied to his grandmother’s death, his mother’s anger, and a core belief that love must be earned; it also exposed that his girlfriend and best friend had been sleeping together while many friends enabled it.
Ryan describes “sexual jail,” lust, pornography, and transactional party culture, then shares how therapy and an impulsive trip to Italy led him back to church and faith in Christ, prompting a shift toward genuine community, purpose, and internal grounding.
00:00 Chasing the Wrong Game
00:32 Meet Ryan Vertucci
01:17 Stuck in Corporate Life
04:55 Betting on a Franchise
07:25 Success Still Feels Empty
08:26 The Pickup and Party Spiral
11:00 MDMA Therapy Revelation
13:51 Childhood Wound Exposed
16:20 Sexual Jail and Lust
18:05 Just Another Rich Guy
28:54 Quitting the Nightlife
31:44 Italy Trip and Vatican
35:20 Tomb of St Matthew
37:43 Careful with Spiritual Realms
41:07 Book and Coaching Links
42:01 What Men Need to Know
44:02 Final Takeaways and Community
CONNECT WITH RYAN
Ryan Vertucci — https://quitthegame.com/
Quit The Game book — https://amzn.to/3WhgzNz
Instagram — https://www.instagram.com/alignedmanmethod/
CONNECT WITH ANDY:
Coaching: https://TheAndyGrant.com/talk
Real Men Feel: https://RealMenFeel.org
Instagram: @realmenfeelshow and @theandygrant
ABOUT REAL MEN FEEL
Real Men Feel explores men's mental health, modern masculinity, relationships, purpose, authenticity and personal growth. Hosted by Andy Grant.
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Real Men Feel ep 423
I’m an entrepreneur, author of *Quit the Game*, and founder of The Aligned Man Method.
For most of my adult life, I thought becoming a better man meant making more money, getting in better shape, attracting more women, building status, and having a life that looked impressive from the outside. I spent years and tens of thousands of dollars on dating programs, self-improvement, fitness, coaching, and trying to become the guy I thought I needed to be.
Eventually, I got a lot of what I was chasing—and realized it still didn’t make me feel like enough.
MDMA-assisted therapy helped me see the childhood wounds, addictions, toxic relationships, and need for validation that had been driving a lot of my behavior. It also brought me to Christ in ways I still can’t fully explain.
Now my goal is to help other men avoid wasting ten years chasing something they’ll never catch and start building confidence, identity, and purpose from the inside out.
