Biology of Success: Challenging the Myth of Struggle

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So it's about us realizing what
true masculinity is, what true

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strength is, both mescaline and
feminine.

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True strength is being in the
flow of who we really are

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without fear.
And that's really what changes

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the world when we're like that.
Hello and welcome to Real Men

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Feel.
I'm your host, author, coach,

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and healer, Andy Grant.
Please visit theandygrant.com to

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learn more about me.
Real Men Feel exists to remind

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men that they're human beings
and that they have the right to

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experience and express all of
their emotions.

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We have conversations that most
men are not having, but that all

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men and the women who love them
can benefit from.

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My guest today is speaker,
teacher, writer and researcher

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Liam Needham.
Liam went from millionaire to

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homeless before discovering the
true reason we succeed or fail

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in life.
It is how we use our brain.

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Creator of the four part brain
model and brain rebalancing, he

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will show you how your brain is
designed to ensure you are the

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best you can be if you use it
the right way.

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Liam shares many myths about
life, including goal setting and

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the lie of trying harder.
He'll also tell you what the

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number one purpose of all life
is, the 2 states of our brain

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and the triggers that put us
into survival mode.

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Be not afraid.
Let's do it.

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Yeah, I've been looking forward
to this since we first chatted

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brutally just just the other
day.

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So you talk about using your
brain in the right way.

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So what are most people doing
wrong when it comes to how their

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brain works?
Well, this is really what it

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comes down to is this, and I
know this is a bit going to be a

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shock to most people, but we're
not biologically designed to

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struggle.
You know, we, we live in this

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biological world.
We have this biological thing

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called a body.
We're here for a biological

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purpose, which is to survive.
But if you look at all of the

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rest of nature, it's not about
struggle.

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It's actually about thriving.
It's about being the best that

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something can be.
So that which is what gives it

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the greatest chance for
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That's what what biological
purpose is.

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That's what everything's about.
That's how nature has spent

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hundreds of millions of years
figuring out the best ways to

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survive.
And they're always about growth

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and expansion and thriving and
not struggling with problems.

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Struggling is a peculiarly human
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You know, most of nature, I
mean, there is struggle.

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Obviously there's a drought here
and you know, but it's only a

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small percentage of natural life
really struggles.

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Most of it is living in the most
biologically efficient way,

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which is thriving.
So we're the only people, that

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is, we're the only species that
is struggling biologically with

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problems and with stress, which
aren't really a desirable and

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natural part of the world.
So we have to ask ourselves the

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question, why is that?
Are we doing something wrong?

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And it turns out we are.
We're not living according to

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biological natural law.
You know, most of us, and I used

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to be like this and probably
like most people watching or or

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listening, you want the best out
of life.

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You know, you want to be the
most successful person that you

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can be.
You want to have a great

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experience.
You want to be a great, you want

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to be wealthy or have a
comfortable life.

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You want to be a great father.
You want to be a great partner,

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you want to be a great person.
You don't want to just settle.

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But here's The thing is that in
doing that, we, we ask

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ourselves, why have I got so
many problems in my life?

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You know, why am I not reaching
my my greatness?

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If you like, And it's not your
fault.

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It's just simply what we're
doing.

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Most of us as we're fighting
against our biological nature

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and we're doing things to try
and force our life to work to be

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a certain way that the way that
we think it should be.

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And that's what creates the
struggle.

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And I'm not talking about just
being woo woo and letting go and

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allowing stuff to happen and
putting up with with misery and

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saying, oh, well, this is great.
But if you, if I could just give

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you a quick example, which is
what most people are doing, and

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this sounds crazy, but imagine
if you're standing on top of A10

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story building and you have this
goal that you've set in your

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mind, right?
My goal is I'm going to walk off

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this building and I'm going to
fly into the air.

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Now that to us sounds a
ridiculous sort of goal to have.

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But in fact, people, there have
been people in history who've

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said this to and convince
themselves they could do it.

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But imagine you had that goal
and you said to yourself, I can

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achieve anything I set my mind
to achieve.

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And I have set my mind to fly up
in the air when I walk off this

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10 story building and you apply
every technique you can think

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of.
You pray, you meditate, you

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visualize, you convince
yourself, you write down your

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goal.
You get really clear on it.

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You use all of these techniques
of rewiring your your

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subconscious mind and changing
your beliefs and practicing

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repeating it as a statement till
you're absolutely convinced that

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you're going to fly into the
air.

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So you step off the building and
what happens?

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You go straight down.
Unfortunately, biology and, and

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nature doesn't really care what
you think or what you want.

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It gives you what you're
supposed to have within the laws

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of nature.
So we need to Start learning

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about this biological aspect to
success, how we're naturally

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designed to succeed, how we're
not designed to struggle and

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actually use that rather than
just what most people what, as I

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say, what I used to do, try and
force what I thought I wanted to

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happen in my life and that that
just never works, didn't work

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for me either.
So, so it's really a, a mindset

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issue then if you, if you allow
yourself to, to, to have a

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mindset of growth and expansion
and not see circumstances as,

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you know, torturing you or you
made the wrong choice or, or

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again, when you, when you
experience some element of

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struggle, you, you kind of kind
of rise above it.

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You take different actions like
what?

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What is the secret?
Well, the secret is to really

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say, well, if we're biologically
designed to thrive, if we're

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like the rest of nature, we're,
our purpose is to be the best

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that we can be so that we have
the greatest chance for

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survival, because that's the
purpose of all life.

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The number one purpose that
every biological scientist will

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tell you is the what the reason
how life is set up, it's set up

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to survive and what gives it the
greatest chance for surviving is

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thriving by being its best.
And if you really think about it

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personally, what gives you the
best chance to prolong your life

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is when you feel good, when
you're healthy, when you're

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strong, but also when you're
happy, when you're not weighed

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down by stress and problems.
Because stress and problems,

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it's all been proven now they
shorten your life.

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So it's not really mindset.
What it's about is understanding

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how you create the results you
do in your life and how you

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biologically live out this
purpose you like.

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If you like how you're designed
to thrive, What is it about you

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that is there in your makeup to
ensure that you, like the rest

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of nature, thrive?
If you do it the right way.

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And if of course, if you don't
do it the right way, if you do

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it the wrong way, that's when
you end up with problems.

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Problems are simply a sign that
you're doing something wrong.

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They are in every other aspect.
If you drive your motor car and

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you have problems with it, you
don't say, oh, that's just the

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design of the motor car.
You say, well, I must be doing

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something wrong.
I'm I'm interfering with the way

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it's naturally designed to work
because it shouldn't have

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problems.
It should, should go perfectly.

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So what nature has designed for
every living thing to ensure

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that it reaches this thriving
state that it's the best it can

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be and it doesn't have problems
in its existence is a brain.

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And the brain is nothing more or
less than an infinitely powerful

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machine designed to ensure that
that Organism reaches its

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highest potential.
It has gives itself the greatest

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chance for survival.
It thrives.

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And we've got this brain.
So it's not about mindset to

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answer your question, it's about
understanding the machine and to

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realize this is a biological
machine.

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This isn't about having the
right thoughts, although that

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plays into it, but it's it's
about doing things biologically,

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activating the right biological
components, and that's when you

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move in the direction of
thriving.

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So I know you have reached great
levels of success and then kind

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of had it fall away as well.
Can can you share a bit of that

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experience and how that shaped
your current work?

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You were sure, As I said at the
beginning, and I was one of

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these driven people.
I wanted to be successful.

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I always wanted to be the best
that I can be.

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I didn't just want to settle.
So I started out in my adult

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life after university where I
was actually a musician.

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And then I started out in
business because I thought,

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well, if I'm going to be rich
and happy and successful, I need

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to have my own business.
And I went on and became really

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successful in business.
I was an I'm an entrepreneur.

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I've had 18 different businesses
so far in my life and I achieved

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a lot of success.
But alongside working really

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hard and trying to be a great
business person, I also thought

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I want to study success.
I want to find out how you

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create more and more success in
your life.

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You know that old story we hear?
Be more, do more, have more.

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You know, it's all about more,
more, more, isn't it?

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So I really went on this mission
for many years, studying

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everything I could and about
personal development, self help,

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motivation, goal setting, using
your brain the right way, using

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your mind the right way, and
also spiritual practices,

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meditation, the law of
attraction.

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And I used to go to all these
courses and seminars and

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workshops and read tons of
books.

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And I had all of these courses
in my home, you know, and I used

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to study this stuff endlessly
and had all my goals written out

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everywhere and got really clear
on what I thought I wanted.

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And what I thought I wanted is
very different to what you

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actually want.
But we can talk about why that

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is.
So I had all this stuff going on

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in my life and I did achieve,
for whatever reason, hard work

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and luck and intelligence maybe,
and knowledge.

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I achieved a lot of success.
But I remember one day that

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something changed my life and
that was I was sitting in the

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music room of my brand new home
that I just built.

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It was my dream home and it was
almost finished.

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And I walked into the music room
because one of my dreams was to

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have a music room, have my own
because as I said earlier, I was

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a musician earlier on.
So I walked into the music room

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of this magnificent house that I
was just finishing building.

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And I remember this was a
beautiful day.

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And I sat down and I'd created
this marvelous these big windows

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that looked out on the mountains
through our property, our land,

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out through some fields up to
these the mountains.

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It was a beautiful sunny day.
I remember so clearly.

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And I remember saying to myself,
this is amazing.

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I've done it.
I've reached my goals.

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Here it is.
Here's my dream home.

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That was, it was, it was almost
my goal to have exactly a house

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like this or pretty close to it.
And here I am.

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I've got a couple of businesses
that are making me money.

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I've got so much freedom, I've
had some amazing experiences and

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I can pretty well do anything I
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So this is it, isn't it?
I've really achieved my goals.

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But you know, what I felt then,
what I should have felt was

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gratitude, excitement,
satisfaction, really a sense of

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achievement and purpose.
But what I actually felt was the

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complete opposite.
I felt utterly and totally

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miserable.
You know, I was so stressed, I

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was shaking.
I was almost in tears with the

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stress of my life because I had
all the I'd done all this stuff,

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but I still had a ton of
problems.

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I still had a ton of stress.
My marriage wasn't going well.

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The businesses weren't really
going too well.

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And I was having trouble.
They'd grown to a point was

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having trouble managing
everything.

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And every time I thought I was
getting ahead in my life by

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achieving another goal or making
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something out, it seemed like
something was sabotaging me

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because more problems kept
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And I thought, Oh well.
And I read so many books that

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said this.
I said, oh, well, that's life.

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That's the price for success.
That's how you become successful

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is overcoming your challenges.
If problems make you stronger,

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they make you more resilient.
That's how you grow is through

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problems and stress.
And you have if you want to be

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successful, you have to learn
how to manage the stress and

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problems in your life and
realize that's the price you're

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going to pay.
So I thought, OK, well, that

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sounded a good theory as so many
people, successful people had

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said that.
But it didn't take away the pain

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and it didn't take away the
feeling that I and the thought

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that came to me, which was, you
know, really, I'm just so fed

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up.
If this really is all there is,

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maybe it'd be better if I lost
everything.

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As long as it didn't, as long as
it meant I didn't lose my soul.

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I'd rather hang on to my soul
then than have anything else,

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you know, because that's what it
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It felt like my life force was
back being drained out of me.

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And I didn't know a way out.
I kept thinking, do I really

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have to keep setting more goals?
Do I really have to keep trying

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harder and harder?
Do I really have to keep

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overcoming all of these
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So I'd said, you know, I'm
really tired with this way of

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doing it.
Maybe I'd be better losing

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everything.
Well, you know, sometimes they

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say you have to be careful what
you think think of because it

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literally was within weeks that
I did lose everything and I lost

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the house with the music room.
I lost my marriage, I lost the

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businesses.
It all collapsed pretty much at

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the same time.
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elderly mother and sleep on the
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small apartment.
So, you know, that's such a

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massive shift from being a
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magnificent home and then moving
and having significance, if you

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like, with your own businesses
and staff and things like that.

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And then all of a sudden I had
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I had literally had the clothes
on my back and I moved to a town

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where I didn't know anybody.
I had no contacts.

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I had no money.
And it was like, who am I?

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What's going on here?
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each night trying to get to
sleep, there were two questions

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that haunted me all of the time.
And the first question was, why

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has this happened to me?
Because, you know, I had my

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goals all written out.
I knew how to be successful.

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I could read, read you all of
the books from all of the gurus

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about how you, you know, set
goals and focus on what you want

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and visualize and work towards
it and check and line up all

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your beliefs so that they're in
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I've done all of that.
But why this happened to me?

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Because it wasn't on my goals
list to lose everything, become

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homeless where I, I said this
isn't my, I've never dreamt I

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would end up in the situation,
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So that was the first question
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Why has this happened to me?
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was equally puzzling, was what
do I do now?

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Because as I said, I was in a
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I had no money.
I had no contacts, I had no

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opportunities.
And I kept thinking, what do I

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do now?
How do I get myself out of this

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mess?
I've got people calling me for

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money, you know, that I didn't
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And The funny thing was I kept
these two questions, Why has

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this happened to me?
And what do I do now?

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I kept going over and over, and
I finally got the answer.

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And when I found the answer to
the real answer to those

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questions that changed my life,
you know what the answer was?

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It was actually the same answer
to both questions.

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Why it had happened to me.
Why has this happened to me?

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And what do I do now?
And the answer was, I have no

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idea.
I have no clue why this has

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happened to me.
And what I didn't realize then

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was that when I accepted that I
didn't know the answer, I didn't

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know what to do.
I didn't know where I should be

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going or where I should be
headed or what I should even

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even who I was.
When I accepted that what I did

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on a biological level, and it
took me several years to to back

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engineer and figure out what I'd
done differently biologically,

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I'd switched the the way my
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And I would never have done that
if I hadn't hit rock bottom.

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I would never have just given up
and said, I don't know the

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answer.
I'm and I'm fed up with this and

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I don't care anymore.
I'm not going to try, I'm not

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going to go out there and try
and force things to happen and

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try and figure stuff out.
So I switched to this other part

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of my brain.
And from that moment, things

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completely changed in my life.
You know, it wasn't, it was

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literally within weeks or
certainly smaller number of

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months, the opportunities
started to show up out of the

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out of the blue.
And I met a person, for

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instance, in a retail shop that
I was doing a bit of part time

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work for it.
And I hadn't seen this man in 25

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years, but he recognized me and
I recognized him.

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And he said, hey, Liam, I don't
know what you're doing now, but

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there's an opportunity.
You'd be great.

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There's an opportunity to set up
a business near where I have my

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business.
And he knew my background.

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He said you'd be perfect for
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And I said, well, that's great.
Only one problem.

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I don't have any money, but
somehow it all came together.

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And then I had this business
again and I don't know where the

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money came from, but there I
was, I was making money again, I

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was getting back on my feet,
things were going well.

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And then all of these things
started just to just fall into

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place.
I met a new, a new lady who had

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a completely different
relationship with to what I've

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ever had before.
And that's still going, which is

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is great.
So that was a big shift in my

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life.
And then together we started

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doing all these amazing things.
We bought a brand new motorhome

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and travelled all around my home
country in New Zealand for 18

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months.
Then we took a one way ticket in

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a suitcase to Europe and before
I knew, we bought a new yacht,

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brand new yacht that we launched
and we were sailing all around

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Europe, which we did for several
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In fact, we're still doing that.
We're on to our 4th yacht which

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was literally launched into the
water today.

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So doing all these amazing
things and another business

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showed up.
I sold the business that I had

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and then opened and set up
another couple of businesses.

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And it was really strange
because I had another aha moment

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a little bit later when I was in
the Greek islands on the back of

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my yacht.
And you can imagine this scene,

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you know, here I am in the Greek
Islands.

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And if anyone's been there,
they'll know.

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It's absolutely stunning.
And the way to see it is on your

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own yacht.
So here we were on our yacht in

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a Bay.
There were no other boats

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around.
Beautiful day.

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And I just woke up in the
morning and fell into the water,

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had a swim, had a quick look at
the emails and as I was drying

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myself off I suddenly had
another moment where I said this

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is it, I've done it, I've
reached my goals.

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Here I am in the Greek islands
so I've got 2 businesses that

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are running themselves.
I'm on my own yacht.

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I can really literally be
anywhere I want to be.

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But the difference was between
way back in my music room and

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now on the on the yacht was how
I felt.

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Because what I'd been looking
for, I realized all of the time

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in the music room, all of those
years of my life trying to be

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successful.
And what I'd achieved now was

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that feeling of success, that
feeling of what is your

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biological purpose that you're
thriving.

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Because I didn't have any
problems in my life.

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My businesses were going really
well.

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I didn't have any stress.
I was working, of course, but I

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wasn't struggling.
I wasn't trying to force things

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to happen.
And I remember saying to myself.

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I've got another question that
I'm really puzzled about.

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Why has this happened to me?
Because how come when I spend

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all of that time trying to force
things to happen, setting my

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goals, getting clear, working as
hard as I could, going after

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every opportunity, looking for
opportunities, learning as much

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as I could, going to seminars,
going to workshops, reading

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books on business and everything
else, and as I say, really doing

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anything I could.
Why is it that that ended up

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with me being just so stressed
and unhappy and then losing

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everything?
And now everything's going like

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it's just flowing.
Everything's just working well.

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And the irony is now I'm not
setting any goals.

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I'm not looking for any
opportunities, but somehow

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they're finding me.
They're coming along completely

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out of the blue most of the
time, these unexpected things

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that just kept coming along, you
know, the, the, the businesses,

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the relationship, the motorhome,
the boats, the sailing, the, all

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of this stuff.
And I thought, where, where do

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these things come from?
I'm not chasing after them and I

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don't have stress in my life.
Instead I have fulfilment and I,

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and I feel like I'm being much
more productive and much more

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creative.
So that's when I decided, well,

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I only really have one problem.
I need to figure out what I'm

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doing differently because this
is actually working and it

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shouldn't be working because all
of the stuff I'd been taught was

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this is not how you're supposed
to live your life.

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This is not how you create
success.

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This is not how you get the most
out of your life.

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To do that, you have to focus.
You have to get clear on what

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you want and really work towards
getting that and be very focused

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in everything you do and work as
hard as you can.

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So I wanted to figure out what I
was doing differently.

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And that's what led me really to
the conversation we're having

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now.
Because what I discovered was

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this whole area of our
biological design is something

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everybody's completely
overlooked.

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And yet it's the it's as
fundamental as the law of

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gravity.
There's a law of thriving, which

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means that every living thing is
designed to be the best that it

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can be.
And if you violate that law,

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you're going to end up with
problems and stress.

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But no one had taught me about
this.

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And, and this is say all to do
with your biology, how your

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brain works, how you design not
to struggle, but to thrive.

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Wow, so many amazing stories are
in there.

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So he's saying that all problems
we face, the depression and

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stress are self created because
we're trying too hard.

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We're kind of going against the
flow of where life wants us to

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be.
Well, that is the unfortunate

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conclusion you come to is that
if you think about what is a

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problem, a problem is something
that is, that makes you feel

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bad, something that's not going
right in your life.

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But if all of nature, if all of
biology is designed firstly to

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minimize problems and secondly
to deal effectively with the

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problems that might show up in
your life, then you have to say,

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if I've got this machine, this
mechanism designed to do that,

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then if I have problems,
particularly continuous

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problems, there's only one
conclusion you can come to

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somehow without me knowing I'm
not using this machine the right

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way.
And I, and I draw that analogy

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of the motor car.
And it's not, and it's nobody's

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fault that we're doing this
because we have been taught from

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the day we were born all the
wrong things about how life

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works.
We've been taught you have to

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work hard, You have to, you
know, struggle.

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Life is a struggle.
Problems are good.

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You're always going to have
problems, you know, and, and you

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are just the small,
insignificant person who is got

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so much danger in your world
around you that's, you know,

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someone wants to eat you or
something wants to cause you

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harm.
So we've been taught all this

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stuff and what that's done is
it, it's always us to use our

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brain in the wrong way.
And it's a little bit like, you

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know, if you think about how
silly this is.

450
00:23:51,960 --> 00:23:55,320
And I, and I know that in a few
years time, particularly when I

451
00:23:55,320 --> 00:23:58,000
get this message out more
powerfully, which is what I hope

452
00:23:58,000 --> 00:24:00,440
and other people start picking
up on it.

453
00:24:00,880 --> 00:24:06,200
I know people who this idea of
problems and stress being simply

454
00:24:06,200 --> 00:24:09,160
the result of, of using your
biology the wrong way.

455
00:24:09,760 --> 00:24:13,280
That's going to be as mainstream
as now when we say, well, a

456
00:24:13,280 --> 00:24:16,480
motor car, if you drive it the
wrong way, it's if if you have

457
00:24:16,480 --> 00:24:20,200
problems, it's because you're
driving it the wrong way or the

458
00:24:20,200 --> 00:24:23,960
Earth is flat.
You know, these are all ideas

459
00:24:23,960 --> 00:24:26,360
that at one point people
believed.

460
00:24:26,360 --> 00:24:28,000
So people believed the Earth was
flat.

461
00:24:28,000 --> 00:24:29,960
People believe now that problems
are natural.

462
00:24:30,840 --> 00:24:33,520
And we're going to look back and
we're going to realize through

463
00:24:33,520 --> 00:24:35,480
understanding that why did we
believe that?

464
00:24:35,480 --> 00:24:39,320
Because it's simply not true.
Another analogy is if you think

465
00:24:39,520 --> 00:24:42,400
I keep talking about the motor
car because the brain simply is

466
00:24:42,400 --> 00:24:46,520
a biological machine.
It's it has a purpose, singular

467
00:24:46,520 --> 00:24:49,360
purpose, which is to make you
thrive, make you the best that

468
00:24:49,360 --> 00:24:51,400
you can be.
That's what it's designed to do.

469
00:24:51,760 --> 00:24:54,160
And it's going to do it
predictably, reliably.

470
00:24:54,920 --> 00:24:57,840
It without it, you can guarantee
it's going to do it if you use

471
00:24:57,840 --> 00:25:00,200
it the right way, just like a
motor car.

472
00:25:00,600 --> 00:25:03,040
Now you imagine a motor car, if
someone said to you and you

473
00:25:03,040 --> 00:25:06,680
didn't know what a motor car was
and you said, well, how does it

474
00:25:06,680 --> 00:25:08,200
work?
Well, what is it?

475
00:25:08,400 --> 00:25:11,600
And they said, well, it's just a
machine and it only has one

476
00:25:11,600 --> 00:25:15,640
purpose, which is to get you
from here where you are to where

477
00:25:15,640 --> 00:25:18,080
you want to go.
And when you use it the right

478
00:25:18,080 --> 00:25:20,840
way, it does it reliably,
enjoyably.

479
00:25:20,840 --> 00:25:21,960
You don't have to worry about
it.

480
00:25:22,960 --> 00:25:24,760
Now you might think, well that
sounds interesting.

481
00:25:25,080 --> 00:25:26,920
And you think, how do I drive
that car?

482
00:25:26,920 --> 00:25:29,920
How do I get it to do its how do
I use the machine?

483
00:25:30,600 --> 00:25:33,640
And you look around and you see
all around you there were people

484
00:25:33,720 --> 00:25:37,240
driving their motor cars.
But what they're doing, they're

485
00:25:37,240 --> 00:25:40,560
not sitting in the car.
They're all standing behind

486
00:25:40,560 --> 00:25:44,160
pushing the car.
And then people are standing and

487
00:25:44,160 --> 00:25:46,960
they're putting all of this
effort into trying to push the

488
00:25:46,960 --> 00:25:49,080
motor car along.
And you look around and you say,

489
00:25:49,080 --> 00:25:50,400
well, that must be the way it
works.

490
00:25:50,400 --> 00:25:52,840
That must be the way it's
designed to work.

491
00:25:53,080 --> 00:25:54,720
And someone came up with the
idea.

492
00:25:54,920 --> 00:25:57,240
Well, it's got wheels.
That obviously is the way it

493
00:25:57,240 --> 00:25:58,600
works.
You just get behind and you push

494
00:25:58,600 --> 00:26:01,880
it to where you want to go.
And of course people are saying,

495
00:26:01,880 --> 00:26:03,200
well, what's the experience
like?

496
00:26:03,200 --> 00:26:06,160
Well, it's really hard work.
You don't get very far and it's

497
00:26:06,160 --> 00:26:09,320
a lot of effort.
But the solution is to try

498
00:26:09,320 --> 00:26:13,720
harder, is to push harder and to
say to yourself, if it's not

499
00:26:13,960 --> 00:26:17,440
going as fast as you would like.
You say, I'm the problem, I'm

500
00:26:17,440 --> 00:26:20,280
not strong enough, I'm not
determined enough, I'm not

501
00:26:20,280 --> 00:26:23,280
motivated enough.
So I need to get out there and

502
00:26:23,280 --> 00:26:25,000
be more determined, build my
muscles.

503
00:26:25,000 --> 00:26:28,120
And then someone comes along to
you and says, your problem is

504
00:26:28,120 --> 00:26:29,680
you're not wearing the right
shoes.

505
00:26:29,680 --> 00:26:31,280
You need to buy my pair of
shoes.

506
00:26:31,280 --> 00:26:33,560
That's going to make you more
efficient at pushing harder.

507
00:26:34,520 --> 00:26:38,080
Now, everybody's doing that and
it all sounds perfectly normal

508
00:26:38,080 --> 00:26:40,080
until someone comes along and
says, what?

509
00:26:40,760 --> 00:26:42,840
What are you doing?
That's not the way it's designed

510
00:26:42,840 --> 00:26:45,240
to be driven.
Look, I'll show you.

511
00:26:45,240 --> 00:26:48,120
You get in, you see all these
levers and all these buttons.

512
00:26:48,160 --> 00:26:50,000
You just push this one and you
do this.

513
00:26:50,560 --> 00:26:53,040
And then you hop in and you just
enjoy the ride and you steer it.

514
00:26:54,040 --> 00:26:56,360
And everyone would think, well,
why didn't we know that before?

515
00:26:56,360 --> 00:26:58,000
Well, why didn't we know it
before?

516
00:26:58,160 --> 00:27:00,400
Because no one told us.
No one had figured it out.

517
00:27:00,520 --> 00:27:02,920
Everyone was doing it the way
everyone else was doing it.

518
00:27:03,280 --> 00:27:06,480
Not getting very good results,
but thinking, well, that's just

519
00:27:06,480 --> 00:27:09,040
the way it is.
This is one of the reasons why

520
00:27:09,600 --> 00:27:12,720
everybody's out there setting
goals, but goal setting doesn't

521
00:27:12,720 --> 00:27:17,120
work because the average success
rate, and I've talked to a lot

522
00:27:17,120 --> 00:27:18,920
of people and thought about
myself as well.

523
00:27:19,520 --> 00:27:22,080
What percentage of the goals
that you ever set do you

524
00:27:22,080 --> 00:27:24,760
achieve?
When I, and maybe someone

525
00:27:24,760 --> 00:27:27,720
watching or listening might like
to think if you're a goal set, I

526
00:27:27,720 --> 00:27:30,600
want to ask you that question.
How many of the goals that

527
00:27:30,600 --> 00:27:33,960
you've ever set in your life and
that you have now, have you

528
00:27:33,960 --> 00:27:36,880
achieved?
Now most people would say, well,

529
00:27:36,880 --> 00:27:39,560
it's not 100%.
Is it 90%?

530
00:27:39,760 --> 00:27:42,040
Is it 80%?
Is it 50%?

531
00:27:42,720 --> 00:27:46,240
And most people that I've spoken
to shake their heads and say,

532
00:27:46,240 --> 00:27:48,960
well, actually not many of the
goals that I really achieve,

533
00:27:49,360 --> 00:27:53,080
that I really set, do I achieve.
The average that I've found is

534
00:27:53,080 --> 00:27:58,560
about between 2 and 3%.
So that's a bit like everybody

535
00:27:58,560 --> 00:28:01,000
pushing the car.
Why are we all doing something

536
00:28:01,000 --> 00:28:03,640
that doesn't work?
We're all telling each other you

537
00:28:03,640 --> 00:28:06,000
have to set goals, but no one's
achieving their goals.

538
00:28:06,440 --> 00:28:08,000
All right?
We have these fancy people who

539
00:28:08,000 --> 00:28:11,560
stand up on a stage and say, oh,
I'm successful and I've achieved

540
00:28:11,560 --> 00:28:14,000
all my goals.
But I don't really think, you

541
00:28:14,040 --> 00:28:15,480
know, that's how it works
either.

542
00:28:15,600 --> 00:28:17,720
But I don't think they're being
particularly honest, to be

543
00:28:17,720 --> 00:28:22,040
honoured, to be truthful.
But so it's another example of

544
00:28:22,280 --> 00:28:25,640
we do these things in an
unnatural way just because we

545
00:28:25,640 --> 00:28:28,080
think that's the way that we're
supposed to do it.

546
00:28:28,280 --> 00:28:31,080
We don't get very good results.
And instead of questioning what

547
00:28:31,080 --> 00:28:33,680
we're actually doing, we just
say, well, I need to do it more.

548
00:28:33,920 --> 00:28:36,000
I need to do more of the same
stuff and I need to do it

549
00:28:36,000 --> 00:28:37,720
harder.
And the problem is me.

550
00:28:38,440 --> 00:28:40,760
The problem's not you.
You're not broken.

551
00:28:41,160 --> 00:28:44,480
You're just using the machine in
a way that works against you

552
00:28:44,480 --> 00:28:49,080
rather than for you.
So what is neurostate

553
00:28:49,080 --> 00:28:53,680
rebalancing and how does that
help someone move beyond success

554
00:28:53,680 --> 00:28:56,120
and thriving?
Well, essentially it comes down

555
00:28:56,120 --> 00:28:58,400
to two things.
One is understanding how your

556
00:28:58,400 --> 00:29:00,280
brain works and it's very
simple.

557
00:29:00,560 --> 00:29:04,760
You have two states, two mental
and emotional states that your

558
00:29:04,760 --> 00:29:08,920
brain generates. 1 is what I
call your thriving state and

559
00:29:08,920 --> 00:29:12,400
your thriving state is the state
in which you are designed to

560
00:29:12,400 --> 00:29:16,040
live to become the best version
of yourself to thrive, to do all

561
00:29:16,040 --> 00:29:18,480
of the things that give you the
best results so that you become

562
00:29:18,480 --> 00:29:21,840
the best that you can be.
And there's another state though

563
00:29:22,160 --> 00:29:24,920
called your survival state and
that has a completely different

564
00:29:24,920 --> 00:29:26,640
purpose.
But when you activate that

565
00:29:26,640 --> 00:29:29,800
state, you sabotage your
thriving state.

566
00:29:29,880 --> 00:29:31,840
The two don't operate at the
same time.

567
00:29:32,400 --> 00:29:36,120
So what it comes down to is your
brain has these resources if you

568
00:29:36,120 --> 00:29:37,840
like.
And there's, there are four

569
00:29:37,840 --> 00:29:40,160
parts to your brain, but the
most important one is the part

570
00:29:40,160 --> 00:29:44,080
that I call your thriving brain.
And this is a region right in

571
00:29:44,080 --> 00:29:46,960
the centre of your head.
So I'm talking here something

572
00:29:46,960 --> 00:29:49,200
biological.
You've got 4 regions in your

573
00:29:49,200 --> 00:29:53,320
brain, places that all have a
different function and your

574
00:29:53,320 --> 00:29:55,840
thriving brain, which is right
in the centre of your head.

575
00:29:56,280 --> 00:29:59,480
When that's activated, the sorts
of things that that activates

576
00:29:59,480 --> 00:30:02,920
are all of the things that you
need to be your best, which are

577
00:30:03,360 --> 00:30:07,480
your creativity, your
imagination, your intuition.

578
00:30:08,160 --> 00:30:10,600
It's the place where you get
those gut feelings from.

579
00:30:10,600 --> 00:30:13,240
We could we say that little
voice within is telling me I

580
00:30:13,240 --> 00:30:15,120
should do something, or it's
telling me I shouldn't do

581
00:30:15,120 --> 00:30:18,560
something, or it's giving me the
answer to a problem.

582
00:30:18,800 --> 00:30:21,240
You know that those situations
where you're struggling away

583
00:30:21,240 --> 00:30:24,240
with a problem, you got
everything out to try to figure

584
00:30:24,240 --> 00:30:26,840
it all out and ask people.
You don't know the answer, you

585
00:30:26,840 --> 00:30:29,520
don't know what to do and you
don't think about it for a

586
00:30:29,520 --> 00:30:31,120
while.
You suddenly get the solution

587
00:30:31,240 --> 00:30:33,760
and it comes to you.
It doesn't come from force.

588
00:30:33,760 --> 00:30:37,720
It just comes seemingly out of
the blue where it's coming from.

589
00:30:37,720 --> 00:30:40,360
Is this the thriving part of
your brain?

590
00:30:40,680 --> 00:30:42,800
This is where your motivation
comes from.

591
00:30:43,080 --> 00:30:45,800
It's where your awareness, your
true awareness comes from.

592
00:30:46,160 --> 00:30:49,080
So these are the all of the
things you need to live a

593
00:30:49,080 --> 00:30:51,200
thriving life.
You need to be.

594
00:30:51,680 --> 00:30:54,720
And we have a name for this when
we're when we're activating all

595
00:30:54,720 --> 00:30:57,440
of this and when things are
working well in our life, we

596
00:30:57,440 --> 00:31:00,920
call it being in the flow.
We've all had that experience

597
00:31:01,320 --> 00:31:04,240
for brief periods, which is
things are going well.

598
00:31:04,240 --> 00:31:06,400
I'm feeling great.
Everything's just seems to be

599
00:31:06,400 --> 00:31:09,000
falling into place.
I'm getting good ideas.

600
00:31:09,000 --> 00:31:12,840
I'm coming up with new ideas on
better ways to do things.

601
00:31:12,880 --> 00:31:15,440
I'm getting really good results
and I'm feeling great.

602
00:31:15,440 --> 00:31:18,160
I'm feeling excited about what
I'm doing in my life.

603
00:31:19,040 --> 00:31:22,400
That's actually is not the state
we're supposed to experience

604
00:31:22,400 --> 00:31:25,000
occasionally.
That's our natural state.

605
00:31:25,280 --> 00:31:27,920
That's our because that's our
thriving state.

606
00:31:28,440 --> 00:31:32,680
It helps us achieve what science
calls homeostasis, which is the

607
00:31:32,680 --> 00:31:36,040
scientific term for this state,
which is when the Organism is

608
00:31:36,040 --> 00:31:39,000
functioning at its optimum.
That's what it's designed to do.

609
00:31:39,640 --> 00:31:44,880
But here's the thing, when you
activate this by mistake, this

610
00:31:44,920 --> 00:31:48,360
other part of your brain, which
I call the survival brain, to do

611
00:31:48,360 --> 00:31:51,200
a different thing, it shuts down
the creative brain.

612
00:31:51,440 --> 00:31:54,040
So most people, what they're
doing, what brain rebalancing

613
00:31:54,040 --> 00:31:57,400
helps people to do is to start
to operate their life from their

614
00:31:57,400 --> 00:31:59,760
thriving state.
So they activate all of these

615
00:31:59,960 --> 00:32:03,320
qualities, these, these tools,
if you like that you need to be

616
00:32:03,320 --> 00:32:05,440
thriving.
And the way to do that is to

617
00:32:05,440 --> 00:32:09,760
learn how you're activating this
other part of your brain, what

618
00:32:09,760 --> 00:32:12,760
that other part of your brain is
actually designed to do, which

619
00:32:12,760 --> 00:32:16,280
is not to make you thrive and
how to stop activating it.

620
00:32:17,080 --> 00:32:19,880
Because as I said, when you
activate that other part, you'll

621
00:32:19,880 --> 00:32:21,920
create your thriving brain shuts
down.

622
00:32:22,200 --> 00:32:25,600
It's not designed to be
operating at the same time as

623
00:32:25,600 --> 00:32:28,640
your survival state.
So it actually becomes a very

624
00:32:28,640 --> 00:32:32,560
simple process just to learn how
you understand basically how

625
00:32:32,560 --> 00:32:36,880
your brain works and stop
activating this survival part of

626
00:32:36,880 --> 00:32:39,640
your brain so that your thriving
brain does the job.

627
00:32:40,440 --> 00:32:44,040
And really its job is to lead
you down the fastest and easiest

628
00:32:44,040 --> 00:32:47,480
path to you being the best that
you can be to thrive, to live

629
00:32:47,480 --> 00:32:51,040
out your biological purpose.
It really is quite simple.

630
00:32:51,560 --> 00:32:54,120
Not easy, but simple.
Ah, good, good, good.

631
00:32:54,120 --> 00:32:55,040
Get you there.
Yeah.

632
00:32:55,720 --> 00:32:58,880
So is it it's really just
learning how the brain works.

633
00:32:58,880 --> 00:33:03,600
And then is it just your choices
are what activate each of those

634
00:33:03,600 --> 00:33:06,920
brain states?
What it really is is triggers.

635
00:33:07,520 --> 00:33:10,560
So particularly the survival
state, you have all of these

636
00:33:10,560 --> 00:33:14,840
triggers that activate it.
And instead of being in the

637
00:33:14,840 --> 00:33:17,520
state where you're making, doing
the right things and making the

638
00:33:17,520 --> 00:33:20,160
right decisions and feeling in
the flow and coming up with

639
00:33:20,160 --> 00:33:23,240
great ideas and not worrying
about what's going to happen,

640
00:33:23,240 --> 00:33:26,720
but really just being super
productive and super creative.

641
00:33:26,960 --> 00:33:29,680
Instead of being like that,
you're, you're in this stuck

642
00:33:29,680 --> 00:33:34,560
state, you know, which is you're
stressed, you're worried, you

643
00:33:34,560 --> 00:33:36,800
don't know the answer.
You're saying to yourself, what

644
00:33:36,800 --> 00:33:38,880
do I do now?
What, what do my goals need to

645
00:33:38,880 --> 00:33:40,200
be?
What, how can I be happy?

646
00:33:40,200 --> 00:33:43,280
How can I solve this problem?
And you're in this constant

647
00:33:43,280 --> 00:33:45,080
state of being stuck and
stressed.

648
00:33:45,320 --> 00:33:48,280
But when you're in that state,
you don't have access to the

649
00:33:48,280 --> 00:33:50,600
resources that actually have the
answers to all of that.

650
00:33:51,040 --> 00:33:54,640
If you want the true answer to a
problem that's in your thriving

651
00:33:54,640 --> 00:33:56,840
brain, that's where all the
answers are.

652
00:33:57,160 --> 00:33:59,280
If you want to know what you
should be doing with your life,

653
00:34:00,160 --> 00:34:03,520
that's where it is as well.
But you've shut that all off by

654
00:34:03,520 --> 00:34:05,720
the triggers.
You've triggered this part of

655
00:34:05,720 --> 00:34:07,720
your brain, the survival part of
your brain.

656
00:34:08,320 --> 00:34:10,960
And it's called a survival part
for because there's a different

657
00:34:10,960 --> 00:34:13,280
function.
But you've triggered that and

658
00:34:13,280 --> 00:34:16,199
you, which means you've blocked
off all the rest, all the, all

659
00:34:16,199 --> 00:34:18,360
the solutions, the thriving
part.

660
00:34:18,679 --> 00:34:21,920
So all you really need to do is
start to learn what your

661
00:34:21,920 --> 00:34:23,840
triggers are.
And there are two types of

662
00:34:23,840 --> 00:34:25,880
triggers that are external
triggers and they're internal

663
00:34:25,880 --> 00:34:28,639
triggers to start to.
And this is what I do in the

664
00:34:28,639 --> 00:34:32,000
brain rebalancing process and my
coaching is help people to start

665
00:34:32,000 --> 00:34:33,719
to.
And most of them we don't know

666
00:34:33,719 --> 00:34:36,639
are there, you know, we don't
know what's triggering our

667
00:34:36,639 --> 00:34:39,960
brain, but it's doing it because
as I say, it's just a machine.

668
00:34:40,000 --> 00:34:43,000
It's it'll just operate the way
it's supposed to.

669
00:34:43,000 --> 00:34:46,239
And if you're doing it the wrong
way, it's going to operate the

670
00:34:46,239 --> 00:34:49,040
wrong way, if you like.
So we don't know what the

671
00:34:49,040 --> 00:34:52,719
triggers are, but we can, once
we understand this, we can start

672
00:34:52,719 --> 00:34:55,400
to identify them.
And then it's a simple case,

673
00:34:55,600 --> 00:34:58,080
simple load, not necessarily
always easy.

674
00:34:58,440 --> 00:35:00,040
We're just starting to eliminate
the triggers.

675
00:35:00,040 --> 00:35:03,960
And when you eliminate the
triggers, your brain no longer

676
00:35:03,960 --> 00:35:05,880
gets you no longer activate this
part.

677
00:35:06,200 --> 00:35:08,240
And that's when you start in the
thriving direction.

678
00:35:08,760 --> 00:35:11,440
And it's not a struggle.
It's not meant to be a struggle

679
00:35:11,440 --> 00:35:15,640
because remember your brain,
it's the most powerful machine

680
00:35:15,640 --> 00:35:18,120
that exists in the universe.
I mean, everyone who's written a

681
00:35:18,120 --> 00:35:22,600
book about the brain, the last
page is almost like you can see

682
00:35:22,600 --> 00:35:24,720
the author get to the end of it
and say I've written this book

683
00:35:24,720 --> 00:35:27,640
about the brain.
I still can't, can't believe

684
00:35:27,640 --> 00:35:30,120
what it is.
I can't believe how infinitely

685
00:35:30,120 --> 00:35:33,680
powerful it is.
Your brain has the computing

686
00:35:33,680 --> 00:35:37,400
power of more than 500 trillion
microprocessors.

687
00:35:38,280 --> 00:35:42,160
It's almost infinitely powerful.
So if you've got a machine, a

688
00:35:42,160 --> 00:35:46,040
computer that's infinitely
powerful and it has one job,

689
00:35:46,080 --> 00:35:49,240
it's only built for one purpose,
and that's to make you thrive,

690
00:35:49,240 --> 00:35:51,920
make you the best that you can
be so that you have the greatest

691
00:35:51,920 --> 00:35:55,000
chance to survive for as long as
possible, which is what you're

692
00:35:55,000 --> 00:35:57,960
biologically here to do.
If you've got a machine, that's,

693
00:35:58,600 --> 00:36:01,040
that's, that's what it's going
to do and it's got the power to

694
00:36:01,040 --> 00:36:02,680
do it.
Why wouldn't you say, well, all

695
00:36:02,680 --> 00:36:06,120
I need to do is understand how
to use it and, and let it do the

696
00:36:06,120 --> 00:36:09,600
work, Let it do the job.
You know, there's an interesting

697
00:36:09,600 --> 00:36:14,240
quote in the Bible where it says
do not worry about what you

698
00:36:14,240 --> 00:36:18,280
shall eat, drink and wear.
It will all be provided for you

699
00:36:18,480 --> 00:36:20,840
as it is for the birds and the
rest of nature.

700
00:36:21,160 --> 00:36:23,280
And they're not worried about
about it.

701
00:36:23,280 --> 00:36:25,920
So you shouldn't either.
That's sort of paraphrasing it,

702
00:36:26,440 --> 00:36:28,480
but it doesn't say.
What does that really mean?

703
00:36:28,560 --> 00:36:33,280
It doesn't say do not worry
about what you eat, what you

704
00:36:33,280 --> 00:36:36,160
shall eat, drink and wear.
As long as you work really hard,

705
00:36:36,160 --> 00:36:39,000
as long as you set your goals,
as long as you're motivated and

706
00:36:39,000 --> 00:36:41,920
determined and deal with all
your problems and work as hard

707
00:36:41,920 --> 00:36:43,760
as you can, then you'll get
those things.

708
00:36:44,280 --> 00:36:46,760
It doesn't say that it's these
are going to be given to you.

709
00:36:47,080 --> 00:36:50,680
You don't have to earn them.
You don't have to work for them.

710
00:36:50,680 --> 00:36:52,320
They're going to be provided for
you.

711
00:36:52,800 --> 00:36:56,120
So and it's not saying that in
any sort of esoteric way.

712
00:36:56,120 --> 00:36:58,560
That's biology.
That's the way it's designed.

713
00:36:58,800 --> 00:37:01,720
You are designed to have this
machine provide for you

714
00:37:02,360 --> 00:37:05,560
everything you need in your life
to not have problems, to not

715
00:37:05,560 --> 00:37:08,720
have stress, to thrive, to live
a life that you're actually

716
00:37:09,200 --> 00:37:11,880
feeling that you're contributing
in a in a big way that you're

717
00:37:11,880 --> 00:37:13,800
really being your best in every
area.

718
00:37:14,160 --> 00:37:17,200
You've got this machine that's
constantly trying to make that

719
00:37:17,200 --> 00:37:20,360
happen.
But if you keep sabotaging it by

720
00:37:20,360 --> 00:37:23,720
blocking the parts of it that
are designed to do that, you

721
00:37:23,720 --> 00:37:26,160
can't blame the machine.
You can't blame God.

722
00:37:26,760 --> 00:37:29,960
All you can say if you're
prepared to take responsibility

723
00:37:30,040 --> 00:37:33,360
is, and many people say this
too, well, I am responsible for

724
00:37:33,360 --> 00:37:35,480
my results, but not in the way
you think.

725
00:37:35,480 --> 00:37:38,120
You're responsible for your
results in the sense that you're

726
00:37:38,120 --> 00:37:43,120
responsible to use this machine,
this in the right way, so that

727
00:37:43,120 --> 00:37:45,480
you get the right results.
That's your responsibility.

728
00:37:46,440 --> 00:37:48,920
Are everyone's triggers the
same, or are they very

729
00:37:48,920 --> 00:37:51,600
individualized?
Here's what a trigger is.

730
00:37:51,600 --> 00:37:54,120
Maybe I could just explain and
there's a bit more detail to it

731
00:37:54,120 --> 00:37:56,200
on in terms of how it works
biologically.

732
00:37:56,600 --> 00:38:02,000
But what the trigger is for the
survival part of your brain is

733
00:38:02,000 --> 00:38:04,520
fear.
And it might be a subconscious

734
00:38:04,520 --> 00:38:06,000
fear, or it might be a conscious
fear.

735
00:38:06,280 --> 00:38:09,520
But the second that you feel
fear, what's literally going on

736
00:38:09,520 --> 00:38:12,520
in your brain is your brain is
saying there is something in

737
00:38:12,520 --> 00:38:14,880
your environment that is a
threat to your survival.

738
00:38:15,520 --> 00:38:17,880
Now, we created this fight
flight instinct.

739
00:38:17,880 --> 00:38:20,920
We've probably heard millions of
years ago to protect us from

740
00:38:20,920 --> 00:38:24,800
unexpected dangers.
So our natural state, and we've

741
00:38:24,800 --> 00:38:27,480
lived in the state for 97% of
our history.

742
00:38:27,760 --> 00:38:30,400
Humans have been on the planet
for 300,000 years.

743
00:38:30,400 --> 00:38:33,440
And for 290,000 years we lived
this way.

744
00:38:34,120 --> 00:38:38,200
And what we did was we lived in
the thriving state, We had

745
00:38:38,200 --> 00:38:40,000
access to all these creative
things.

746
00:38:40,000 --> 00:38:44,200
We didn't worry and stress and,
and live unhealthy lives and you

747
00:38:44,200 --> 00:38:46,880
know, all those things.
We lived in the state.

748
00:38:46,880 --> 00:38:49,960
However, we had to develop a
mechanism for if we're walking

749
00:38:49,960 --> 00:38:53,360
down through the forest, for
instance, and enjoying our life

750
00:38:53,800 --> 00:38:56,560
and a lion jumped out from
behind the rock, we had to

751
00:38:56,560 --> 00:38:59,480
develop a defence mechanism
against unexpected threats and

752
00:38:59,480 --> 00:39:00,880
dangers.
And obviously there are a lot

753
00:39:00,880 --> 00:39:04,160
more lions jumping around in
those days than there are now.

754
00:39:04,640 --> 00:39:07,640
So we created this tool, this
mechanism, which basically the

755
00:39:07,640 --> 00:39:12,120
way it works is you enjoy your
life, you thrive, you're doing

756
00:39:12,120 --> 00:39:15,240
all of the things, you're
feeling great, you're being your

757
00:39:15,240 --> 00:39:17,360
best.
But if a lion jumps out from

758
00:39:17,360 --> 00:39:20,560
behind a rock, your brain sees
it and recognizes it.

759
00:39:20,560 --> 00:39:23,800
In other words, it's a trigger
and says to you, that's a

760
00:39:23,800 --> 00:39:26,800
danger.
So it activates your survival

761
00:39:26,800 --> 00:39:30,160
brain and it shuts down your
thriving brain and it gets you

762
00:39:30,160 --> 00:39:33,400
to deal with that danger, which
is your reaction to a threat,

763
00:39:33,400 --> 00:39:35,320
isn't it?
So you, if it's a line, you and

764
00:39:35,400 --> 00:39:38,120
we know what happens in this
fight flight state only four,

765
00:39:38,160 --> 00:39:40,720
you can only do 4 things.
You can run away.

766
00:39:40,800 --> 00:39:43,640
You can stand and fight.
You can freeze and do nothing,

767
00:39:44,320 --> 00:39:48,040
or you can shout out for help.
So they're the only things you

768
00:39:48,040 --> 00:39:49,880
can do in the state and that's
all you need to do.

769
00:39:49,920 --> 00:39:53,560
So you do those things without
thinking, without anything else.

770
00:39:53,560 --> 00:39:56,440
Your brain and your body just
take over and get you to react,

771
00:39:56,440 --> 00:39:59,800
get it's quick, you know, long
before thinking comes in,

772
00:39:59,880 --> 00:40:02,160
thinking would be too slow.
This needs to be an automatic

773
00:40:02,160 --> 00:40:04,720
reaction to get rid of that 3-4
danger.

774
00:40:05,040 --> 00:40:08,680
And when it's gone, the brain
says, OK, your environment's

775
00:40:08,680 --> 00:40:10,760
safe again.
So that's when you activate your

776
00:40:10,760 --> 00:40:12,960
thriving brain again.
You get back to being what

777
00:40:12,960 --> 00:40:15,040
you're being the best that you
can be.

778
00:40:15,720 --> 00:40:19,640
So the trigger, and
interestingly enough, we could

779
00:40:19,800 --> 00:40:23,080
talk a little about how this is
reflected in all spiritual

780
00:40:23,080 --> 00:40:24,600
teaching as well.
They tell us this.

781
00:40:25,000 --> 00:40:28,320
The trigger is fear.
When you feel afraid, it's your

782
00:40:28,320 --> 00:40:31,080
brain saying there's a danger in
your environment.

783
00:40:31,400 --> 00:40:35,040
So today, what dangers do we
possibly think we could have or

784
00:40:35,040 --> 00:40:37,640
that our brain thinks we could
have that are a threat to us,

785
00:40:37,880 --> 00:40:42,440
that are harmful to us?
Well, it's somebody telling us

786
00:40:42,440 --> 00:40:45,160
they don't like us.
It's being in a conversation.

787
00:40:45,520 --> 00:40:48,040
We were talking about a subject
that we don't like, that we

788
00:40:48,040 --> 00:40:49,840
don't agree with.
We're talking to a person we

789
00:40:49,840 --> 00:40:51,880
don't like.
We have a person in our life

790
00:40:51,880 --> 00:40:56,120
that doesn't make us feel good.
We're watching the news and

791
00:40:56,320 --> 00:40:58,920
hearing about all these
disasters and how we live in

792
00:40:58,920 --> 00:41:02,760
this terrible world and this
world of enormous upheaval and

793
00:41:02,760 --> 00:41:06,360
change and everything's a
disaster about to happen.

794
00:41:06,920 --> 00:41:10,920
And, you know, we've got so many
problems in the world and all

795
00:41:10,920 --> 00:41:14,320
these people struggling, all of
these things, What do they do?

796
00:41:14,600 --> 00:41:17,160
They make you feel bad, don't
they?

797
00:41:17,400 --> 00:41:20,400
These are the triggers.
So a simple one is turning off

798
00:41:20,400 --> 00:41:22,240
the news.
I mean, even if it's true, how

799
00:41:22,240 --> 00:41:25,080
do we know it's true?
But what we need to realize is

800
00:41:25,080 --> 00:41:28,200
anything in our life that makes
us feel bad is triggering the

801
00:41:28,200 --> 00:41:31,200
wrong part of our brain.
And most of the time, there's no

802
00:41:31,200 --> 00:41:35,000
justification for feeling bad.
You know, imagine you're, I do a

803
00:41:35,000 --> 00:41:36,840
lot of marriage and relationship
coaching.

804
00:41:36,840 --> 00:41:40,000
But imagine your husband or wife
comes to you and says, I want a

805
00:41:40,000 --> 00:41:42,240
divorce.
Now, what's your reaction to

806
00:41:42,240 --> 00:41:44,640
that?
If your brain says that's a real

807
00:41:44,640 --> 00:41:47,680
threat to my survival, because
if we get divorced, I'm going to

808
00:41:47,680 --> 00:41:51,480
be a failure, my children won't
will be harmed, I don't, I won't

809
00:41:51,480 --> 00:41:54,240
know what to do financially.
I'll never find anyone else.

810
00:41:54,480 --> 00:41:57,400
I'll look back on my life with
regret that I didn't heal,

811
00:41:57,400 --> 00:41:59,640
didn't work hard enough to heal
that relationship.

812
00:42:00,080 --> 00:42:03,880
So your brain fills you up with
fear, with stress, worry and

813
00:42:03,880 --> 00:42:06,680
anxiety.
That's it triggers you and it

814
00:42:06,680 --> 00:42:08,840
puts you in the wrong state.
And what happens when you're in

815
00:42:08,840 --> 00:42:11,760
that wrong straight state?
You do all the wrong things.

816
00:42:12,160 --> 00:42:15,400
You shout, you beg you, you
know, plead you.

817
00:42:15,560 --> 00:42:18,880
You do all of these things that
only push your husband or wife

818
00:42:18,880 --> 00:42:23,760
further away from you anyway.
But they're all reactions so and

819
00:42:23,760 --> 00:42:26,920
it's just a trigger.
Whereas you could say maybe

820
00:42:26,920 --> 00:42:30,640
there's a different belief about
my husband or wife telling me

821
00:42:30,640 --> 00:42:32,400
they don't want to be married to
me anymore.

822
00:42:32,400 --> 00:42:34,840
Maybe it's a wake up call.
I need to do something better.

823
00:42:34,840 --> 00:42:36,880
Or maybe the marriage isn't
right for me.

824
00:42:36,880 --> 00:42:38,320
Maybe I need to find someone
else.

825
00:42:38,680 --> 00:42:41,000
But whenever you trigger that
fear, whenever something happens

826
00:42:41,000 --> 00:42:45,520
in your life that makes you feel
bad, it's, you know, you're

827
00:42:45,520 --> 00:42:48,840
finished really, because that's
where you've got to remove these

828
00:42:48,840 --> 00:42:52,560
triggers.
And sometimes people say to me,

829
00:42:52,560 --> 00:42:55,240
well, you know, but sort of all
for you, Liam, you say you don't

830
00:42:55,240 --> 00:42:57,400
have any problems, but you don't
know my life.

831
00:42:57,680 --> 00:43:00,760
I've got all these terrible
problems in my life and there's

832
00:43:00,760 --> 00:43:02,800
all these terrible things going
on in the world.

833
00:43:03,400 --> 00:43:05,960
And I'm not trying to negate how
people feel about their problems

834
00:43:05,960 --> 00:43:08,600
because that's the prism.
That's, it's how you feel.

835
00:43:08,600 --> 00:43:10,880
That is the problem.
That's the, it's not actually

836
00:43:10,880 --> 00:43:13,400
the situation.
It's what is going on in your

837
00:43:13,400 --> 00:43:15,080
head that's making you feel bad
about it.

838
00:43:15,400 --> 00:43:19,040
That's the real problem.
So I, I really feel for people

839
00:43:19,040 --> 00:43:23,320
like, because we're using, using
our brain in a way that creates

840
00:43:23,360 --> 00:43:26,760
all of these triggers.
So what it comes down to is

841
00:43:27,200 --> 00:43:30,480
you've got to learn or figure
out how how you can remove fear

842
00:43:30,480 --> 00:43:33,960
from your life.
Fear, anxiety, stress, worry.

843
00:43:34,240 --> 00:43:36,600
And if you don't think that's
the name of the game, what does

844
00:43:36,600 --> 00:43:41,880
it say in the Bible 365 times
someone counted it says 3 words.

845
00:43:42,360 --> 00:43:46,080
Be not afraid.
That is the name.

846
00:43:46,080 --> 00:43:50,880
That is the purpose of your life
is to identify real threats and

847
00:43:50,880 --> 00:43:53,080
dangers such as a lion about to
each you.

848
00:43:53,120 --> 00:43:55,120
Then you can feel afraid.
That's what it's there for.

849
00:43:55,440 --> 00:43:58,720
But all your imaginary threats,
you have to make sure you're not

850
00:43:58,720 --> 00:44:01,840
afraid because I'm sorry, I'm
God standing up here and I've

851
00:44:01,840 --> 00:44:05,560
created you as a human, giving
you this amazing experience.

852
00:44:05,720 --> 00:44:08,000
I want you to thrive.
I want you to be the best.

853
00:44:08,000 --> 00:44:12,280
I've given you this machine to
to ensure that that happens so

854
00:44:12,280 --> 00:44:13,840
that you have the best life
possible.

855
00:44:14,600 --> 00:44:17,400
And I'm telling you what to do.
I'm saying beep, don't be

856
00:44:17,400 --> 00:44:18,600
afraid.
Whatever you do, don't be

857
00:44:18,600 --> 00:44:21,360
afraid.
And you're and you're afraid.

858
00:44:21,360 --> 00:44:24,480
So what can I do?
You know, I can't make you

859
00:44:24,480 --> 00:44:26,920
thrive if you're not going to
use the machine as I'm telling

860
00:44:26,920 --> 00:44:29,560
you to use it or you're not
using it the right way.

861
00:44:30,000 --> 00:44:32,200
And people say, well, how do you
get rid of your fear out of your

862
00:44:32,200 --> 00:44:34,280
life?
You start to identify why you're

863
00:44:34,280 --> 00:44:37,480
afraid of things, what's
triggering you in the 1st place

864
00:44:37,800 --> 00:44:40,440
and why you're afraid of it.
And sometimes you have to make

865
00:44:40,440 --> 00:44:43,440
some big decisions.
You have to say, well, whatever

866
00:44:43,440 --> 00:44:46,120
relationship I'm in, whether
it's in a business relationship

867
00:44:46,120 --> 00:44:49,720
or a personal one, it's not
making me feel good.

868
00:44:49,800 --> 00:44:52,600
It makes me feel bad.
So I need to remove it from my

869
00:44:52,600 --> 00:44:55,200
life.
The part of my business, the

870
00:44:55,200 --> 00:44:58,200
career, the job I'm in, it
doesn't make me feel good.

871
00:44:59,280 --> 00:45:01,200
I'm going to have to do
something about removing it from

872
00:45:01,200 --> 00:45:06,440
my life.
The whatever I'm something about

873
00:45:06,440 --> 00:45:09,360
my life situation, the thought,
I mean, it could be just a

874
00:45:09,360 --> 00:45:11,800
conversation, that conversation.
I don't want to have that person

875
00:45:11,800 --> 00:45:14,120
in my life because I don't don't
make me feel good.

876
00:45:14,720 --> 00:45:16,520
And people say, well, that's not
easy to do.

877
00:45:16,960 --> 00:45:18,920
Well, I'll give you another
example.

878
00:45:19,200 --> 00:45:22,880
If I came along to you and said
I want you to drink this liquid,

879
00:45:22,920 --> 00:45:25,720
it's really good stuff.
And you said you'd want to know

880
00:45:25,720 --> 00:45:27,640
what it was.
I said, yeah, it's it's called

881
00:45:27,640 --> 00:45:30,080
hydrochloric acid.
And you said, well, I'm not

882
00:45:30,080 --> 00:45:32,760
going to drink that.
I'd say, well, why not?

883
00:45:32,840 --> 00:45:34,560
I'd say, well, I know that's
going to harm me.

884
00:45:34,560 --> 00:45:37,440
It could even kill me.
There's no, there's no, doesn't

885
00:45:37,440 --> 00:45:39,360
matter.
You know, there's no reason for

886
00:45:39,360 --> 00:45:40,840
me to drink that.
No way.

887
00:45:41,520 --> 00:45:43,000
And I said, look, don't worry
about it.

888
00:45:43,000 --> 00:45:45,000
There's a lot of research
happening that people are

889
00:45:45,000 --> 00:45:47,680
starting to say it's not so
harmful and she has some

890
00:45:47,680 --> 00:45:50,560
benefits, you know, does things,
cleans out your system,

891
00:45:51,280 --> 00:45:54,520
whatever.
And you said, look, I don't care

892
00:45:54,520 --> 00:45:57,320
what anyone else says.
I know for a certainty how it

893
00:45:57,320 --> 00:45:59,040
works.
I know that the minute I put

894
00:45:59,040 --> 00:46:02,560
that in my lips, I'm going to be
severely damaged.

895
00:46:02,840 --> 00:46:06,640
And then I try the stick and I
say, OK, if you don't drink it,

896
00:46:07,320 --> 00:46:09,560
I'm going to make sure that you
lose everything you have.

897
00:46:09,760 --> 00:46:12,280
You're going to lose your
family, your friends or all your

898
00:46:12,280 --> 00:46:13,840
possessions.
You're going to end up under a

899
00:46:13,840 --> 00:46:16,680
bridge, homeless.
If you don't drink this

900
00:46:16,680 --> 00:46:20,160
hydrochloric acid, you're still
going to say, I'm sorry.

901
00:46:20,160 --> 00:46:23,320
It doesn't matter what the
justification you give me for

902
00:46:23,320 --> 00:46:25,080
it.
I, there's no way I'm going to

903
00:46:25,080 --> 00:46:28,760
take that stuff because I know
when I do, I'm finished.

904
00:46:28,800 --> 00:46:31,400
It's biology.
It's it's nothing to do with

905
00:46:31,680 --> 00:46:33,680
feelings.
It's to do with the chemicals

906
00:46:34,240 --> 00:46:35,480
that it's going to have that
effect.

907
00:46:36,440 --> 00:46:38,120
That's what fear does to your
brain.

908
00:46:38,720 --> 00:46:42,040
It, it doesn't matter the
justification why you think you

909
00:46:42,040 --> 00:46:44,400
should be afraid if you feel
fear.

910
00:46:44,400 --> 00:46:47,040
And this is the ultimate in
terms of taking responsibility

911
00:46:47,040 --> 00:46:49,400
for your own results in your
life.

912
00:46:49,400 --> 00:46:52,200
If you like, if you feel fear,
you're finished.

913
00:46:52,840 --> 00:46:54,560
You've activated the wrong part
of your brain.

914
00:46:54,560 --> 00:46:57,360
You're going to stay stuck.
And the only reason you feel

915
00:46:57,360 --> 00:47:01,240
fear is you still have these
triggers and your job, if you're

916
00:47:01,240 --> 00:47:04,160
prepared to accept the
responsibility which comes from

917
00:47:04,360 --> 00:47:05,920
all this, comes from
understanding, doesn't it?

918
00:47:05,920 --> 00:47:09,120
Because if you just think, well,
I'd like to get rid of fear, but

919
00:47:09,120 --> 00:47:11,760
you don't understand the effect
it's having on your brain and

920
00:47:11,760 --> 00:47:13,800
not therefore on your life, then
you're not really going to do

921
00:47:13,800 --> 00:47:15,680
it.
But once you start to understand

922
00:47:15,680 --> 00:47:18,200
this and this is what I teach
and you understand it more and

923
00:47:18,200 --> 00:47:21,200
more, you say my mission in life
is to do what it says in the

924
00:47:21,200 --> 00:47:25,480
Bible, not be afraid, trust,
believe, have faith or whatever

925
00:47:25,480 --> 00:47:30,600
it takes to eliminate as much as
I can fear, stress, worry and

926
00:47:30,600 --> 00:47:35,760
anxiety from my life, stop my
brain triggering those feelings,

927
00:47:35,760 --> 00:47:38,680
those emotions and the results
which are keeping me stuck.

928
00:47:39,320 --> 00:47:42,320
So this is science.
It's not anything to do with

929
00:47:42,320 --> 00:47:45,600
it's, you know, be nice idea,
but some people have to, you

930
00:47:45,600 --> 00:47:47,880
know, some people got worse
things happening for them and

931
00:47:47,880 --> 00:47:50,640
than others.
And I'm not trying to sound, you

932
00:47:50,640 --> 00:47:51,920
know, that I'm not
compassionate.

933
00:47:51,920 --> 00:47:53,800
I totally understand.
But I also understand,

934
00:47:53,800 --> 00:47:55,880
unfortunately, this is the way
biology works.

935
00:47:55,920 --> 00:47:58,440
There's no way around it.
And that was the difference

936
00:47:58,440 --> 00:48:00,640
between my old life and my new
life.

937
00:48:01,080 --> 00:48:04,720
I hit rock bottom and suddenly
my brain said you don't need to

938
00:48:04,720 --> 00:48:06,720
be afraid of this anymore,
You're still here.

939
00:48:07,240 --> 00:48:08,680
There isn't a threat to your
survival.

940
00:48:08,680 --> 00:48:10,080
Having nothing and being
homeless.

941
00:48:10,360 --> 00:48:12,920
Don't worry about it.
Give up and just let me get on

942
00:48:12,920 --> 00:48:16,400
with my job of making sure that
all of the right people come

943
00:48:16,400 --> 00:48:18,960
into your life.
You think all the right ideas,

944
00:48:19,520 --> 00:48:22,960
you come up the right, you do
the right things, come up and

945
00:48:23,000 --> 00:48:26,240
find opportunities, so you start
getting on the right track.

946
00:48:27,080 --> 00:48:30,200
So is there a spiritual
component to using your brain

947
00:48:30,200 --> 00:48:33,160
the right way?
Well, of course, you know, we

948
00:48:33,160 --> 00:48:36,120
are, without going too far down
that track because everyone has

949
00:48:36,120 --> 00:48:38,880
a different perspective.
But, you know, it would be silly

950
00:48:38,880 --> 00:48:42,040
to say that we don't live in an
infinite universe.

951
00:48:42,120 --> 00:48:44,760
And I've tried to think about
this and say, is the universe

952
00:48:44,760 --> 00:48:47,960
and you have to think is the
universe, is this experience?

953
00:48:47,960 --> 00:48:50,320
Is it infinite, or is it not
infinite?

954
00:48:50,600 --> 00:48:54,760
Now, if it's not infinite, OK,
so what's outside where it ends,

955
00:48:55,400 --> 00:48:58,160
it's obviously infinite.
And so all of that, whether you

956
00:48:58,160 --> 00:49:03,360
call it spirituality, higher
intelligence, God, it's all the

957
00:49:03,360 --> 00:49:05,560
same thing.
It's all part of because if it's

958
00:49:05,560 --> 00:49:08,680
infinite, everything is
infinite, including awareness,

959
00:49:08,720 --> 00:49:11,880
including intelligence,
including conscious

960
00:49:11,960 --> 00:49:15,920
intelligence.
So of course there is this, if

961
00:49:15,920 --> 00:49:19,120
you like, a spiritual component.
And it's interesting, many

962
00:49:19,120 --> 00:49:22,600
spiritual traditions have
referred to this thriving part

963
00:49:22,600 --> 00:49:26,520
of your brain, this biological,
there are about 3 or 4 organs

964
00:49:26,720 --> 00:49:30,640
within there that are part of
this group that make, that are

965
00:49:30,640 --> 00:49:34,240
responsible for all of your
thriving qualities, if you like.

966
00:49:34,880 --> 00:49:37,240
And many spiritual traditions
have talked about this and

967
00:49:37,240 --> 00:49:40,800
science is increasingly coming
to understand this is a separate

968
00:49:40,800 --> 00:49:43,320
part of your brain.
In the, in the Bible, it's

969
00:49:43,320 --> 00:49:46,520
called the Kingdom of heaven,
it's called the holy of holies,

970
00:49:46,800 --> 00:49:50,240
the land of milk and honey.
These all refer to what's going

971
00:49:50,240 --> 00:49:52,440
on in the, in the thriving part
of your brain.

972
00:49:52,720 --> 00:49:56,160
So spirituality, what they're
really saying is this is your

973
00:49:56,160 --> 00:49:59,800
connection to this infinite
intelligence, this whatever you

974
00:49:59,800 --> 00:50:04,120
want to call it, that is trying
to experience itself through you

975
00:50:04,560 --> 00:50:08,040
in the most thriving experience
that it can.

976
00:50:08,280 --> 00:50:11,680
So all of the information, if
you like, all of the everything

977
00:50:11,680 --> 00:50:13,160
you need, this is where it comes
from.

978
00:50:13,760 --> 00:50:16,960
And you block yourself off from
that, all that inspiration,

979
00:50:16,960 --> 00:50:21,400
creativity, awareness, and also
things that you might call luck

980
00:50:21,400 --> 00:50:25,080
or coincidence.
I mean, science and, and, and

981
00:50:25,080 --> 00:50:28,640
nature would not be here now if
we had luck and coincidence.

982
00:50:28,760 --> 00:50:30,440
You know, that's not the way it
works.

983
00:50:30,640 --> 00:50:33,920
It, it's, it would be chaos and
it's not chaos, is it?

984
00:50:33,920 --> 00:50:36,920
Everything seems to function in
a really flowing way.

985
00:50:37,680 --> 00:50:39,360
You know, river flows down the
stream.

986
00:50:39,360 --> 00:50:42,600
It doesn't turn around and go
back uphill when it decides to

987
00:50:42,600 --> 00:50:45,680
or whatever.
So we live in this infinite,

988
00:50:46,120 --> 00:50:50,440
infinitely intelligent universe
and our thriving brain is our

989
00:50:50,440 --> 00:50:53,160
connection to it.
And all, of all, of all

990
00:50:53,160 --> 00:50:55,680
spiritual traditions talk about
this, talk about God.

991
00:50:55,680 --> 00:50:59,680
But you have to be, you have to
use, you can only access this

992
00:50:59,680 --> 00:51:03,480
when you're in a state of trust,
of allowing, of belief.

993
00:51:04,240 --> 00:51:06,520
And we tend to think trust,
allowing and belief are all

994
00:51:06,520 --> 00:51:07,840
things.
So that are a bit woo woo.

995
00:51:07,840 --> 00:51:10,680
And you know, I don't believe or
I should and I should believe,

996
00:51:11,600 --> 00:51:14,720
but the but the point is, you
don't believe things because you

997
00:51:14,720 --> 00:51:16,560
want to.
You believe things because you

998
00:51:16,560 --> 00:51:19,240
understand that's how it works.
And we live on belief.

999
00:51:19,760 --> 00:51:22,080
You don't believe the sun's
going to come up in the morning

1000
00:51:22,080 --> 00:51:24,880
tomorrow.
You don't believe that your

1001
00:51:24,880 --> 00:51:27,600
heart is going to keep beating
or that you're going to keep

1002
00:51:27,600 --> 00:51:29,760
breathing or that your body is
going to keep functioning.

1003
00:51:29,760 --> 00:51:31,360
You don't believe that you know
it.

1004
00:51:32,240 --> 00:51:33,680
You don't need to worry about
it.

1005
00:51:33,680 --> 00:51:35,880
Because if someone said, are you
worried about your heart

1006
00:51:35,880 --> 00:51:37,560
beating, well, you'd say, well,
of course not.

1007
00:51:37,560 --> 00:51:39,240
That's that's just the way it
works.

1008
00:51:39,240 --> 00:51:41,600
I understand.
I don't understand how it does

1009
00:51:41,600 --> 00:51:45,800
it, but I have an experience of
knowing that that's the way

1010
00:51:45,800 --> 00:51:49,600
things work and that's what
we're spiritual traditions are

1011
00:51:49,600 --> 00:51:52,400
trying to get us to when they're
saying believe, have faith,

1012
00:51:52,400 --> 00:51:56,320
trust and be not afraid.
I'm trying to get you to a place

1013
00:51:56,320 --> 00:51:59,840
where you have an experience of
how your life works, of your

1014
00:51:59,840 --> 00:52:03,560
life working in a thriving way
so that you just know that's the

1015
00:52:03,560 --> 00:52:04,960
way it works.
You don't have to.

1016
00:52:05,240 --> 00:52:08,440
You don't worry about with what
you shall eat, drink and wear,

1017
00:52:08,440 --> 00:52:11,120
for instance.
You don't worry about tomorrow.

1018
00:52:11,120 --> 00:52:14,240
Tomorrow will take care of
itself, all of these things, not

1019
00:52:14,240 --> 00:52:17,880
because you trust, but you, you
just say, well, that's the way

1020
00:52:17,880 --> 00:52:20,000
it works.
You know, why would you think it

1021
00:52:20,000 --> 00:52:22,440
really got all the proof in the
world to show that is the way it

1022
00:52:22,440 --> 00:52:24,000
works?
It's like a car.

1023
00:52:24,000 --> 00:52:26,680
That's how it works.
You just, there's no question

1024
00:52:26,680 --> 00:52:29,160
about it.
So this is what I'm trying to do

1025
00:52:29,160 --> 00:52:31,400
in my work and help people is to
get to that point where they

1026
00:52:31,400 --> 00:52:35,960
suddenly start to click and say,
oh, this makes total sense of

1027
00:52:35,960 --> 00:52:38,120
how it works.
And when you do that, then you

1028
00:52:38,120 --> 00:52:41,080
have an experience in your life
where something unexpected

1029
00:52:41,080 --> 00:52:43,600
happens or you come up with an
idea or someone comes along and

1030
00:52:43,600 --> 00:52:46,280
then you go, instead of saying,
oh, that's just a bit of a

1031
00:52:46,280 --> 00:52:50,800
fluke, go, oh, wow, that's I can
see what's happening here.

1032
00:52:50,800 --> 00:52:54,440
And when you reach, you go over
that threshold, if you like.

1033
00:52:55,520 --> 00:52:59,160
In other words, you get through
the doorway, which sounds a bit

1034
00:52:59,600 --> 00:53:01,840
fancy, but it's not really.
Once you have that little

1035
00:53:01,840 --> 00:53:05,280
experience, you go wow, and it's
snowballs and you get to the

1036
00:53:05,280 --> 00:53:07,960
point where you just, it's a bit
like when you start to drive a

1037
00:53:07,960 --> 00:53:09,040
car.
It's you don't know what you're

1038
00:53:09,040 --> 00:53:11,640
doing and you're worried that
you're going to fall off a Cliff

1039
00:53:11,640 --> 00:53:13,600
or, you know, you get something
wrong.

1040
00:53:13,600 --> 00:53:17,120
But once you start to experience
it, you get to a point where you

1041
00:53:17,120 --> 00:53:20,040
don't need to rust anymore.
You just know that's the way it

1042
00:53:20,040 --> 00:53:23,440
works.
So, Liam, tell me about your

1043
00:53:23,440 --> 00:53:26,840
podcast.
Let yourself off the hook.

1044
00:53:26,840 --> 00:53:30,760
Well, in my podcast, I talk a
lot about about this stuff about

1045
00:53:30,760 --> 00:53:34,480
natural success, how we're
designed biologically, why goals

1046
00:53:34,480 --> 00:53:38,480
are bad for you, which is a
controversial topic, but

1047
00:53:38,480 --> 00:53:41,160
interestingly enough, when you
understand it, it makes total

1048
00:53:41,160 --> 00:53:44,880
sense and why they don't work.
So I cover a lot of these things

1049
00:53:44,880 --> 00:53:48,960
and I call it the let yourself
off the hook podcast because

1050
00:53:48,960 --> 00:53:51,160
that's what you need to do.
Let yourself off the hook.

1051
00:53:51,160 --> 00:53:53,600
Stop trying to force things to
happen in your life.

1052
00:53:53,600 --> 00:53:58,400
Stop trying to make your life
through struggle and trying to

1053
00:53:58,400 --> 00:54:00,560
force things to happen.
Let yourself off the hook,

1054
00:54:01,080 --> 00:54:05,120
activate this other part of your
brain and allow it to do its job

1055
00:54:05,480 --> 00:54:07,320
and, and give you the life that
you're designed to have.

1056
00:54:07,320 --> 00:54:10,080
Because, and here's the thing,
life's supposed to be an

1057
00:54:10,080 --> 00:54:12,400
adventure.
It's not supposed to be a

1058
00:54:12,400 --> 00:54:14,200
struggle.
We've been taught that it's a

1059
00:54:14,200 --> 00:54:16,080
struggle.
But you know, I'm very

1060
00:54:16,080 --> 00:54:18,280
fortunate.
I live quite naturally.

1061
00:54:18,280 --> 00:54:20,640
I'm a nomad.
I've been a nomad for 15 years,

1062
00:54:20,640 --> 00:54:23,640
living on boats and motor homes
and just travelling around.

1063
00:54:23,640 --> 00:54:25,280
And I spend a lot of time in
nature.

1064
00:54:25,840 --> 00:54:29,600
And when you really observe
nature, you don't see struggle.

1065
00:54:29,920 --> 00:54:33,520
If you watch an insect or a
bird, a bird is a classic.

1066
00:54:33,520 --> 00:54:36,440
You look at a bird in its
natural environment.

1067
00:54:36,440 --> 00:54:40,760
If it wants some food or needs
some food, it finds the food it

1068
00:54:40,800 --> 00:54:42,920
it doesn't have to struggle to
find food.

1069
00:54:42,960 --> 00:54:46,000
Everything is provided for that
bird when you really look

1070
00:54:46,000 --> 00:54:49,360
closely.
So let yourself off the hook is

1071
00:54:49,360 --> 00:54:52,120
all about allow yourself to
thrive.

1072
00:54:52,120 --> 00:54:54,880
Allow yourself to get in the
flow with the rest of nature,

1073
00:54:55,200 --> 00:54:58,600
with your own biology, because
when you're in this state, it's

1074
00:54:58,600 --> 00:55:00,840
like when you have that
experience of being in the flow,

1075
00:55:01,000 --> 00:55:05,360
you feel it, you feel different,
you feel lighter, you feel more

1076
00:55:05,360 --> 00:55:08,960
expensive and more creative and,
and, and life is really

1077
00:55:08,960 --> 00:55:11,920
wonderful.
What's one thing you wish more

1078
00:55:11,920 --> 00:55:16,640
men knew?
I guess one of the things we

1079
00:55:16,640 --> 00:55:20,800
struggle with as men without,
you know, generalizing too much,

1080
00:55:21,000 --> 00:55:23,920
we struggle with this fear of
not providing, not being enough,

1081
00:55:23,920 --> 00:55:26,520
not being good enough.
We're not being our best.

1082
00:55:26,640 --> 00:55:29,840
And we want not only other
people to see that we're our

1083
00:55:29,840 --> 00:55:31,840
best.
We want to prove to ourselves

1084
00:55:31,840 --> 00:55:34,760
that we're being our best.
And because we have this sort of

1085
00:55:34,840 --> 00:55:38,000
masculine characteristic, if you
like, we think that's all about

1086
00:55:38,000 --> 00:55:42,200
pushing hard and forcing and
trying to make things happen and

1087
00:55:42,200 --> 00:55:44,720
standing back and then saying,
see, I achieved that.

1088
00:55:45,160 --> 00:55:48,320
Look at me, aren't I strong?
You know, all subconscious, of

1089
00:55:48,320 --> 00:55:51,360
course, but you know, I'm a, I'm
a great person.

1090
00:55:51,360 --> 00:55:54,200
I've, I've achieved a lot, but
if you look at the truly

1091
00:55:54,200 --> 00:55:58,600
masculine men, the true great
leaders, the one, the really

1092
00:55:58,600 --> 00:56:01,840
charismatic ones, the ones
you're drawn to, they're not out

1093
00:56:01,840 --> 00:56:04,280
there trying to prove how great
they are and trying to force

1094
00:56:04,280 --> 00:56:06,600
things to happen.
They're living their best self

1095
00:56:06,600 --> 00:56:09,400
without fear.
They're living without fear and

1096
00:56:09,400 --> 00:56:11,320
saying, you know, this is who I
am.

1097
00:56:11,560 --> 00:56:14,760
I know where I'm going.
I don't necessarily need to know

1098
00:56:14,760 --> 00:56:17,240
exactly where I'm going, but I
know that I'm going in the right

1099
00:56:17,240 --> 00:56:19,560
direction.
I know that I'm being my best

1100
00:56:20,160 --> 00:56:22,920
and that's what we're that's the
energy, if you like, that we're

1101
00:56:22,920 --> 00:56:25,320
all attracted to.
That's the charisma that we see

1102
00:56:25,320 --> 00:56:28,320
in people, but they create it
from a different place.

1103
00:56:28,320 --> 00:56:29,640
They're not forcing it to
happen.

1104
00:56:29,960 --> 00:56:34,480
So it's about us realizing what
true masculinity is, what true

1105
00:56:34,480 --> 00:56:36,920
strength is, both masculine and
feminine.

1106
00:56:37,160 --> 00:56:39,880
True strength is being in the
flow of who we really are

1107
00:56:39,880 --> 00:56:42,760
without fear.
And that's really what changes

1108
00:56:42,760 --> 00:56:44,960
the world when we like that.
Yeah, awesome.

1109
00:56:45,840 --> 00:56:48,000
Liam, what's the best way for
people to find out all the

1110
00:56:48,000 --> 00:56:50,320
things that you're up to?
Well, you're welcome to follow

1111
00:56:50,320 --> 00:56:53,200
me on all the social media, but
my website, which is Liam

1112
00:56:53,200 --> 00:56:56,920
naden.com.
That's my name, Li AM NADEN.

1113
00:56:57,320 --> 00:57:00,760
Yeah, my podcast is there.
I've got lots of free stuff to

1114
00:57:00,760 --> 00:57:03,360
how to understand.
I've got a CHEAT SHEET that's on

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my website, which you can
download, which is called Get

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Unstuck fast.
And it's really a three-step

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process that I learned to take
you from struggle state to

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really start getting your brain
bringing you what you really

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want in your life and what you
deserve in your life.

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So that's it's all on my
website.

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And one thing I'm proud of with
the podcast and my work is that

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when people, you know, listen to
it a bit and it's not really to

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do with me, it's just to do with
what I've been fortunate enough

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to to stumble onto is they get
it.

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Some people takes longer than
others.

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And then you get it and you go,
it suddenly clicks what this is

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all about.
And it makes such total sense.

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I don't know if I've made much
sense in this call.

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I hope I have.
But the more you look at this,

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you, you realize, you know,
we've been looking at life the

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wrong way.
We've been looking at it from a

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very strange angle, an unnatural
angle, because we've been afraid

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to be natural.
We're afraid to let go and think

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there's something greater than
us that actually guides our

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life.
We we want to hold on.

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We want to keep controlling
things.

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We want to go things.
We need to know where we're

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going.
We need to know what we want and

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we need to know we're getting
there.

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And that's all coming from our
this brain and that's what keeps

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us stuck.
But when you start to really

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look at this and and it clicks
and you see everything in the

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Bible makes sense, everything in
Buddhism and all these spiritual

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traditions, they're all saying
the same thing.

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And there's a scientific basis,
biology, biological science is,

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is saying this is true as well.
And when you start to click,

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then you can say, well, I'm
going to give this a try.

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I'm going to use it and see what
happens.

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And you know, it's great.
Thanks so much, Liam, for today.

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This has.
Truly been fascinating.

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Thanks for joining us everyone.
Please visit realmenfield.org

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and see the blog post for this
episode, which will have all the

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various links and resources
discussed.

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Wherever you're discovering real
Men Feel, please subscribe,

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00:58:50,680 --> 00:58:53,680
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a comment.
If you are not living your life

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to the fullest.
If you are succeeding and still

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feeling miserable, I invite you
to book a free clarity call with

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me and we'll explore what you
want and what's in your way of

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getting there.
Just visit theandygrant.com/talk

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and until next time, be good to
yourself.