Don't Always Push : 3 Life Lessons

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Hello and welcome to real men.
Feel I'm your host Andy Grant.

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I'm an author speaker coach and
healer.

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You can visit v&e Grant.com to
learn more about me and how I am

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of service to this world.
I've been in a nice streak of

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shows since my return last
month, I've released four

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consecutive real men feel
episodes on Fridays.

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But alas, today is Saturday.
I did not get to a show

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yesterday.
Recording one had been on my

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mental agenda, since Wednesday,
but, you know, come Friday, 8:30

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p.m.
I was asleep on the couch, now

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wasn't out for the night and not
that bad.

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But uh, you know, real men nap.
So when I woke up 20 or 30

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minutes late, I just knew the
the mood, the energy was not

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there for a show to happen that
day, and I'm fine with that.

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Over the past two weeks.
I've done a lot of clutter

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clearing and overall cleanup of
my home.

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My house got pretty nasty by me,
ignoring it for more than half a

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year, imagine that today I tag
today, I attacked the basement

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and the garage.
I started with a basement and

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liberated the world's most
ignored furnace filter, then

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moved on to the garage and just
clearing trash and cobwebs and

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just random, you know, garage
shit.

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That was sweeping the floor with
this nice you know, heavy Push

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broom, I push so hard that I
snap the handle.

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I could have been pissed angry
and stormed off to buy another

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one or start throwing shit all
around.

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But I just laughed.
I said, nice, one Universe.

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Maybe I've been pushing too
hard.

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So operation, garage clean up is
left at about 75 percent

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complete and I'm fine with that.
Lesson one today.

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Well I guess lesson one is
actually real men nap so that's

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less than one.
So listen to is you don't always

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have to push until you break.
One of my favorite books is The

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Four Agreements.
The Agreements are number one be

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impeccable with your word.
Number two, don't take anything

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personally, three don't make
assumptions and for always do

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your best Now if you've heard
those before, have the memorize

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from reading the book a long
time ago, or maybe just have

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them on a magnet, you could run
into challenges in the book.

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The nuances are explained much
more than just those four simple

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rules.
You always do your best.

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For example, sounds just lovely,
but the truth is your best will

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change from day to day from
moment to moment.

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Even Your best when you're
tired, hungry, and sick is

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nothing.
Close to your best when you're

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healthy vibrant and loving life,
your best is not some static

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setting, it varies some days.
My best is walking away from a

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broken broom handle.
When I publicly came out of my

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eight months of withdrawal in
darkness last month, one type of

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comments.
Struck me at how often it was

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stated.
I've been feeling the same way

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or You Are Not Alone.
It got me thinking.

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Why do we hide our pain from
each other?

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Every human being has challenges
wounds and struggles.

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Yeah, we often believe nobody is
supposed to know that.

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Whatever you are going through
right now.

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Other people feel like you do
other people are dealing with

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that.
Very same thing right now.

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But they keep it to themselves.
Let it out.

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Being open and honest not only
leads to you feeling better, but

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it gives permission to everyone
else to be their authentic

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selves.
You know, life is challenging

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enough when most people live
behind masks that only adds to

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the perception of isolation.
That feeds our inner critic that

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wants to keep us down and small.
That voice that says you're

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broken.
You're hopeless.

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You are pathetic.
Nobody else feels this bad.

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Nobody else struggles with life.
The way you do.

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It's bullshit.
The truth is plenty of people,

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struggle, lots of people are in
pain.

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I find time and time again, that
when I share what's going on

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with me, both good and bad, I
feel better and I connect more

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deeply with others.
Now, I'm not saying fill your

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day with complaining, I'm
saying, don't be afraid to

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share.
What is really going on for you

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especially when it isn't all
sunshine?

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And unicorns.
I love me a good unicorn but uh

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you know you'll find one every
day so lesson 3.

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Don't keep your pain to
yourself, please.

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Not only does that prolong your
misery, but it prevents someone

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else from realizing they aren't
the only one going through some

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heavy shit right now.
I want to take time to thank

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everyone that's been.
Sending me messages emails

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comments.
I did get a few.

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I love you period emails which
is not my goal from the last

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episode.
I love you bro but it's it is a

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fantastic side benefit.
I'll say that wherever you are

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listening to real men, feel
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Send this to someone who's
pushing too hard or someone

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who's going through some painful
times.

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We are all here to support each
other.

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I do not believe that.
Life is a competition.

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You can always connect with me
at real men.

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Feel at gmail.com, if you want
to explore, what life might be

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like, with more authenticity and
vulnerability book.

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A Clarity call with me.
Visit v&e, Grant.com, talk until

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next time, be good to yourself
and each other.