Don't Always Push : 3 Life Lessons

0:00 Hello and welcome to real men. Feel I'm your host Andy Grant. I'm an author speaker coach and healer. You can visit v&e Grant.com to learn more about me and how I am of service to this world. I've been in a nice streak of shows since my return last month, I've released four consecutive real men feel episodes on Fridays. But alas, today is Saturday. I did not get to a show yesterday. Recording one had been on my mental agenda, since Wednesday, but, you know, come Friday, 8:30 p.m. I was asleep on the couch, now wasn't out for the night and not that bad. But uh, you know, real men nap. So when I woke up 20 or 30 minutes late, I just knew the the mood, the energy was not there for a show to happen that day, and I'm fine with that.

0:53 Over the past two weeks. I've done a lot of clutter clearing and overall cleanup of my home. My house got pretty nasty by me, ignoring it for more than half a year, imagine that today I tag today, I attacked the basement and the garage. I started with a basement and liberated the world's most ignored furnace filter, then moved on to the garage and just clearing trash and cobwebs and just random, you know, garage shit. That was sweeping the floor with this nice you know, heavy Push broom, I push so hard that I snap the handle. I could have been pissed angry and stormed off to buy another one or start throwing shit all around.

1:35 But I just laughed. I said, nice, one Universe. Maybe I've been pushing too hard. So operation, garage clean up is left at about 75 percent complete and I'm fine with that. Lesson one today. Well I guess lesson one is actually real men nap so that's less than one. So listen to is you don't always have to push until you break. One of my favorite books is The Four Agreements. The Agreements are number one be impeccable with your word. Number two, don't take anything personally, three don't make assumptions and for always do your best Now if you've heard those before, have the memorize from reading the book a long time ago, or maybe just have them on a magnet, you could run into challenges in the book.

2:28 The nuances are explained much more than just those four simple rules. You always do your best. For example, sounds just lovely, but the truth is your best will change from day to day from moment to moment. Even Your best when you're tired, hungry, and sick is nothing. Close to your best when you're healthy vibrant and loving life, your best is not some static setting, it varies some days. My best is walking away from a broken broom handle. When I publicly came out of my eight months of withdrawal in darkness last month, one type of comments. Struck me at how often it was stated. I've been feeling the same way or You Are Not Alone. It got me thinking.

3:24 Why do we hide our pain from each other? Every human being has challenges wounds and struggles. Yeah, we often believe nobody is supposed to know that. Whatever you are going through right now. Other people feel like you do other people are dealing with that. Very same thing right now. But they keep it to themselves. Let it out. Being open and honest not only leads to you feeling better, but it gives permission to everyone else to be their authentic selves. You know, life is challenging enough when most people live behind masks that only adds to the perception of isolation. That feeds our inner critic that wants to keep us down and small. That voice that says you're broken. You're hopeless.

4:25 You are pathetic. Nobody else feels this bad. Nobody else struggles with life. The way you do. It's bullshit. The truth is plenty of people, struggle, lots of people are in pain. I find time and time again, that when I share what's going on with me, both good and bad, I feel better and I connect more deeply with others. Now, I'm not saying fill your day with complaining, I'm saying, don't be afraid to share. What is really going on for you especially when it isn't all sunshine?

5:06 And unicorns. I love me a good unicorn but uh you know you'll find one every day so lesson 3. Don't keep your pain to yourself, please. Not only does that prolong your misery, but it prevents someone else from realizing they aren't the only one going through some heavy shit right now. I want to take time to thank everyone that's been. Sending me messages emails comments. I did get a few. I love you period emails which is not my goal from the last episode. I love you bro but it's it is a fantastic side benefit. I'll say that wherever you are listening to real men, feel Please, Subscribe, follow give a rating or review, a comment, a share.

5:54 Send this to someone who's pushing too hard or someone who's going through some painful times. We are all here to support each other. I do not believe that. Life is a competition. You can always connect with me at real men. Feel at gmail.com, if you want to explore, what life might be like, with more authenticity and vulnerability book. A Clarity call with me. Visit v&e, Grant.com, talk until next time, be good to yourself and each other.