July 29, 2022

Love You, Bro

Real Men Feel #264 7/29/22 Love You, Bro

I could not always tell people I loved them, especially male friends.

Love you, dude. Love ya, mean it. I love you, man -- are just some of the ways I've said and heard men expressing affection for other men.

Recently, I've been talking with and getting messages from many friends I haven't spoken to in many months or years.

I've noticed many signing off with -- Love you, bro.

I've never been a fan of that phrase.

I get that it is short for brother. I adore it when my brothers from the ManKind Project or the Modern Mystery School say I love you, brother. Totally cool with that sentiment and phrase. But "bro" changes it for me somehow.

Can't we just say, I love you? Period.

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Greetings and welcome to real
men.

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Feel I am your host, Andy Grant.
I'm an author speaker, coach and

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healer.
Please visit V, Auntie Grant.com

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to learn more about me.
I'm also a man and I love people

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now.
I could not always tell people.

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I love them especially male
friends, growing up.

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I had one friend who would
always tell us how much you

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loved us when he was drunk?
But he can do it sober now.

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So I know this is a learnable
skill for everybody.

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Love you, dude.
Love you mean it?

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I love you, man.
Those are just some of the ways

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I've said and heard men
expressing affection for another

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man, by the way, I love you,
man, is a wonderful underrated

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Gem of a movie with Jason Segel.
And Paul Rudd.

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It is especially funny, if you
are a rush fan too but I

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digress.
I'm a fan of.

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I love you, man.
I love you, dude.

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I love you brother, pal, Chief
homie, I love you, buddy.

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I love you, chap.
Fellow guy.

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All good stuff.
Recently, I've been talking with

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and getting messages from lots
of friends that I haven't spoken

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to for many months or even
years.

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I noticed many guys signing off
with love you bro.

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I've never been a fan of that
phrase.

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I get that.
It is short for brother and I

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don't have brothers I don't have
siblings so maybe that's part of

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it but I adore it.
When my brothers in the mankind

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project or the modern mystery
School, say I love you brother.

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Totally cool with that sentiment
and phrase, but bro, it changes

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it for me somehow.
When it seems strange to you, if

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your mom said, love you, bro.
To me Bros are in bad.

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Zac Efron movies, commercial
outtakes with anything.

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With Gronk in it are non-stop
Rose.

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Reality shows are full of guys
from Boston who have jet least

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three Bros / sentence The Urban
Dictionary says, Bros are a type

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of white male between the ages
of 16 and 24, they originated in

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Southern California, during the
to early 2000s.

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But a now prevalent in most
major cities throughout the u.s.

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and Canada.
They are characterized mainly by

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their frequent, use of the word
bro, who describe other males or

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actually unrelated to them.
But can be noted by many other

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distinguishing features
including but not limited to a

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brightly colored Abercrombie and
French Polo.

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Often pink one with the collar
popped.

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A Livestrong, bracelet.
A trucker hat worn either

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backwards or tilt it to the
side, a pair of Gino's

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sunglasses.
Most likely purchased from

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Armani Exchange for 39.99 often
worn indoors in.

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Non sunny weather being overly
tanned to the point at which it

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is apparent.
They spend several days a week

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at the tanning salon hair with
too much gel in it working out

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all the time and wearing overly
tight shirts to make it look

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like they are more Jack than
they actually are.

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Frequent use of the words, chill
and Sweet liking Family, Guy

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better than the Simpsons
listening to a combination of

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soft rock such as Jack Johnson,
John Mayer, Dave Matthews Band,

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and the Red Hot Chili Peppers
with a touch of rap.

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Ripped jeans for formal attire
and track pants for informal

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attire and finally the excessive
use of cologne and Axe Body

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Spray.
Now they mentioned several bro,

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repellents available to the
common North American man.

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First is listening to thrash
metal.

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Grunge metal or classic rock
second using words longer than

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six letters?
Some sample, bro, exchange.

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Yo bro, let's go chill at Laguna
Beach bro.

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But first, we have to work on
our Tans, bro.

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Sweet, bro.
Sounds chilling, bro.

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Let's Do it up Ro.
Maybe this is a generational

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thing and this is all an early
indicator of impending.

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Grumpy old man, hood for me, I
don't know but I wanted to open

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the discussion my most academic
attempt at stating why this bugs

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me?
Is this to me adding bro is this

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frat house?
D escalation of Love due to

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latent.
Fears of homosexuality.

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I love you but I ain't no homo.
Is that kind of nonsense can't

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we just say Say, I love you.
Period.

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Or if you are a fan of the
Marvel Cinematic Universe, I

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love you. 3000 is also
acceptable.

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Now, I've recently asked for the
guys in the private, real men.

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Feel Facebook group.
If love you bro, bug them at

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all.
Jeff shared that, you know,

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really nothing to be bothered by
to me.

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Bro, is short for brother so
they're really just saying you

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are as close as a brother to
them.

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I don't read that much into love
being sent, I just appreciate

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it.
Fantastic sentiment.

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Anthony said, I guess it depends
on the intent, but I see where

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you're going with this.
Some might add in the bro as a

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way of saying no homo and again
it bro feels like a deflation

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Airy term it could be for
another reason but it makes me

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think of, you know, the girl you
long for she found this.

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I love you as a friend.
Right?

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Any to me any that anything I
met comma, I love U comma and

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then there can be a d
escalation, it can be a phrase

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of term that just takes the air
out of that love Malcolm shared.

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I'm okay with brother but not so
much with grow.

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My take is people generally
think the cool kids say, bro, so

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they want to be seen as cool.
Matt said, I'd rather hear the

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love, you with whatever sauce on
it, than not at all.

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And I completely agree.
I please, Don't think I'm trying

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to get men to stop.
Expressing love for each other.

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I'll gladly take, I love you.
You fucking douche bag over any

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man.
Being afraid to say that they

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love someone out loud.
Gabriel said mixed feelings on

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this one as assayer and receiver
of the phrase It's endearing

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yet.
Casual it can add warmth is

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equally as take away depending
on the who one went and if I'm

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not trying to say this is good
or bad, I'm just wondering if

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other people feel that that Bros
somehow Waters it down.

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What is that notion of Love
down?

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If only Jeff shared, I prefer to
sign off with a hearty but you

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drink victoriously from the
skulls of your vanquished

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enemies, bro.
So does the provocation of male

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communication bother you at all?
I would love to hear your

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thoughts.
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Andy Grant is a best-selling author, speaker, Transformational Energy Coach, healer, and suicide prevention activist. As the host of the award-winning Real Men Feel podcast, he champions emotional well-being and encourages men to step out of the β€œemotional closet.”
Andy holds certifications in Positive Psychology, the Enwaken Coaching System, Akashic Records, Life Activation, and multiple energy healing modalities. Known as The King of Authenticity, he founded Real Men Feel in 2016, fostering a movement that redefines masculinity through openness and vulnerability.
An Initiate, Certified Healer, Teacher, and Ritual Master with the Modern Mystery School, Andy has dedicated his life to helping people in emotional pain rediscover the magnificence of life. His training includes work with renowned teachers such as Mike Dooley, Brendon Burchard, Bill Harris, Genpo Roshi, David Morelli, Margaret Lynch, Linda Howe, Tal Ben-Shahar, Karen Paolino-Correia, and Christie Marie Sheldon.