March 13, 2026

Men's Health and Healing: Exploring Modern Masculinity

Men’s Health, Loneliness, and Real Masculinity

Host Andy Grant opens by saying men need truth and connection, not shame or fake strength. After a guest postpones due to health news, Andy shares he has a colonoscopy scheduled and urges men to prioritize physical health: get annual checkups, know family history, ask doctors questions, and follow colorectal cancer screening guidance, noting rising deaths under 50 and citing Chadwick Boseman and James Van Der Beek.

He then discusses an international survey reporting that about a third of Gen Z men believe wives should obey husbands and husbands should have final say, interpreting this as a search for identity, direction, belonging, respect, purpose, and brotherhood. Andy argues that men are hurting without language, loneliness increases vulnerability to harmful online narratives, and real masculinity is responsibility, integrity, presence, and emotional honesty, inviting listeners to join his community at https://realmenfeel.org/group.

00:00 What Men Really Need
00:18 Welcome and Plans Change
00:44 Colonoscopy Wake Up Call
01:22 Screening Facts and Risks
02:31 Gen Z Survey Shock
03:18 What Men Are Hungry For
04:32 Pain Turns Into Anger
05:15 Loneliness and Online Voices
06:05 Masculinity Without Domination
07:17 Why Real Men Feel Exists
07:38 Two Reminders and Next Steps

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So what do men need?
In my experience, men do not

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need more shame.
Men do not need more fake

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strength.
Men need truth.

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Men need connection.
Men need spaces where they can

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finally be real and heal.
Hello and welcome to Real Men

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Feel.
I'm your host Andy Grant on Real

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Men Feel.
We have conversations that most

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men are not having, but that all
men and the women who love them

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can benefit from.
Today was supposed to be a guest

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episode, but life had other
plans.

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My planned guest is dealing with
some difficult recent health

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news and had to postpone.
And that hits close to home for

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me.
I'm having a colonoscopy on

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Monday.
I believe it's my third one.

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My dad died from colon cancer,
so I know this is not something

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to ignore or put off.
So before I say anything else

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today, men, please take care of
your health.

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Get your annual physical at the
very least.

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Know your family history.
Ask questions of your doctor.

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Be your best advocate for your
health and well-being.

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When it's time, get your
colonoscopy.

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It's nothing to be afraid of or
or avoid or be embarrassed about

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whatever nonsense you get in
your head, right?

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For most adults at average risk,
screening for colorectal cancer

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starts at age 45.
If you have family history like

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I do, or other risk factors,
talk with your doctor because

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you may need screening earlier
or more often.

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Screening matters and can save
your life.

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The American Cancer Society says
colorectal cancer is now the

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leading cause of death for
Americans under 50.

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And a lot of us still think
about colon cancer as an old

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person's issue.
It isn't.

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Remember Chadwick Boseman?
He died at only 43 years old,

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and James Vanderbeek died
earlier this year at 48.

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These stories are painful
reminders that ignoring symptoms

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or delaying screenings can cost
you dearly.

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Being strong doesn't mean
ignoring your body.

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Being strong means handling your
business.

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Make the appointment, get
checked, have the conversations.

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Your life matters.
And that brings me to today's

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main topic.
Because men's health is not only

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physical, it is emotional,
relational, cultural.

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I saw a story this week that
says a lot about where many men

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are right now.
I came across a new

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international survey that found
about 1/3 of Gen.

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Z men agree that a wife should
obey her husband and about a

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third say the husband should
have the final say in important

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decisions.
The researchers say those rates

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are about double those of baby
boomer men.

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That could that really surprised
me that that traditional notion

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of the man always being in
charge.

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I would apply assume that to be
applied more to baby boomers.

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You know, I thought the gens
ears were supposedly the, the

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open anything goes, you know,
free and fluid, all that stuff.

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But perhaps not or certainly not
all of them.

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This is worth paying attention
to.

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Not because men are bad, not
because young men should be

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shamed for their their views or
opinions, but because it tells

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me that a lot of men are hungry
for something.

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What are they hungry for?
Identity, right?

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Who am IA question that people
have been asking since the dawn

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of time?
Direction.

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Where am I going?
Another common question.

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Common pondering.
People want clarity, belonging,

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knowing you're in the right
place with the right people,

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that you're supported, respect.
People want to be esteemed in

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the eyes of others, right?
The opinion of the community

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about you matters.
Purpose.

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We all want to be here for a
freaking reason.

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You want meaning in our lives.
And finally, brotherhood.

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That sense of connection, tribe
that you are with your people.

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You've got their back.
They've got your back.

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When healthy masculinity is
missing, unhealthy versions will

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rush in to fill that void.
The first point I really want to

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make.
Men are hurting, but many don't

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have the language for it.
They can't express it, perhaps

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not even to themselves.
A lot of men are in pain, but

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they don't have the tools or
permission to talk about it

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honestly.
So pain gets translated into

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anger.
Confusion gets translated into

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control.
Fear gets translated into

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rigidity.
When a man doesn't know how to

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say I feel lost, or I feel
powerless, or I feel like I'm

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failing, he may grab onto ideas
that make him feel more certain,

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more dominant, more important,
and more in control.

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The second point?
Lonely men are vulnerable men.

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There's also a loneliness crisis
among men, and loneliness isn't

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just about having nobody to
text.

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It's about not feeling seen, not
feeling known, not feeling safe

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enough to be real, to be open.
Missing a a bond of trust, the

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ability to rely on someone in
the comforter, and integrity of

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yourself to let others rely on
you.

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When men don't have genuine
brotherhood, mentorship, or

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emotionally honest spaces, they
become vulnerable to the loudest

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voices online.
The men promising certainty, the

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men selling power, the men
offering an identity built on

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blame.
Third Point.

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Real masculinity is not
domination.

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This is where I think culture
gets it wrong.

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Real masculinity is not
domination, it is not emotional

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shutdown, it is not controlling
women, it is not pretending you

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never hurt.
To me, real masculinity is

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responsibility, integrity,
presence, emotional honesty,

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strength with heart, leadership
without control, protection

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without possession.
I don't believe most men are

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looking for misogyny.
I think most men are looking for

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relief.
Men want to feel grounded.

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They want to feel respected.
They want to know who they are.

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They want purpose and meaning.
They want to stop feeling numb,

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angry, disconnected, or
invisible.

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And if healthy models of manhood
are absent, counterfeit versions

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become very attractive.
That is exactly why I do real

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men feel.
Because men need spaces where

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they can be honest without being
shamed, vulnerable without being

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emasculated, supported without
having to perform.

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We need more places where men
can feel, speak, connect and

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heal.
So today I leave you the two

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reminders.
First, take care of your

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physical health.
We only get one body for this

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ride.
Get the check up, know your

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family history.
Get the colonoscopy when it's

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time.
If you're not sure when it's

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time, ask.
Please do not assume you're too

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young, too strong, too busy.
Second, take care of your inner

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life.
Because if we want better men,

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we need better spaces for men to
be real, to be honest with

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themselves and others.
This isn't about making weaker

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men, not about softer men.
It's about more honest men, more

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connected men, more awake men.
And that's what I want for you.

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If that speaks to you, come join
us in my community.

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Authentic AF.
Visit realmenfeel.org/group.

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And until next time, be good to
yourself.

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Author / Teacher / Coach / Healer

Andy Grant is a best-selling author, speaker, Transformational Energy Coach, healer, and suicide prevention activist. As the host of the award-winning Real Men Feel podcast, he champions emotional well-being and encourages men to step out of the “emotional closet.”
Andy holds certifications in Positive Psychology, the Enwaken Coaching System, Akashic Records, Life Activation, and multiple energy healing modalities. Known as The King of Authenticity, he founded Real Men Feel in 2016, fostering a movement that redefines masculinity through openness and vulnerability.
An Initiate, Certified Healer, Teacher, and Ritual Master with the Modern Mystery School, Andy has dedicated his life to helping people in emotional pain rediscover the magnificence of life. His training includes work with renowned teachers such as Mike Dooley, Brendon Burchard, Bill Harris, Genpo Roshi, David Morelli, Margaret Lynch, Linda Howe, Tal Ben-Shahar, Karen Paolino-Correia, and Christie Marie Sheldon.