Preventing Suicide By Talking About Suicide | World Suicide Prevention Day

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Hello and welcome to real men.
Feel I'm your host Andy Grant.

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I'm an author speaker coach and
Taylor please visit v&e

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Grant.com to learn more.
Real men feel is all about

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reminding men that they are
human and are entitled to feel

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and express the full range of
emotions.

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Some of those emotions can
really make you feel like shit

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but that never means that you
are shit.

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If you've read any of my books
seen me speak live, listen to

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many real men feel episodes or
perhaps heard me as a guest on

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other shows or maybe you
actually know me as a actual

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human being in the physical
flesh.

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You are aware that I don't hide
the fact that I've tried to end

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my life on multiple times.
When I was about 20 years old

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and following what I think is
what I counted as five suicide

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attempts, I met a psychologist.
Who said that any time I did

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something with the intention of
ending my life.

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That was a suicide attempt.
Now, my definition was, if I did

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something that put me in a
hospital that was an attempt.

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But by this doctor's definition,
I've attempted suicide.

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It easily doesn't, and probably
hundreds of times.

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September 10th is World Suicide,
Prevention Day.

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I don't normally like to make a
big thing about this day because

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frankly it pisses me off every
fucking day should be Suicide.

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Prevention Day for everybody but
I get that plenty of people

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still experience a stigma around
any discussions of mental health

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or suicide.
And I have long believed that

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one of the very best ways to
prevent suicide is to talk about

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it. so, I shall Suicide
prevention is a global challenge

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suicide ranks.
Consistently among the top 20

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causes of death globally across
all age groups.

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One in every 100 deaths.
Worldwide is the result of

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suicide.
The global suicide rate is over

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twice as high among men than
women men account for

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three-quarters of deaths by
suicide in many countries.

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And while the pathway to Suicide
for each individual is unique,

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there are many common risk
factors that have been shown to

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contribute to the higher suicide
rate among men.

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These risk factors include the
use of more, lethal means

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reduced help-seeking, harmful
substance abuse.

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Social disconnection Conformity
to some masculine norms and

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stressful life events such as
unemployment and relationship

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breakdown.
Now that all comes from the

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International Association for
suicide prevention.

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Another really silly sounding
name of a group that I wish

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didn't need to exist, but but it
does.

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So if you have been following me
over the past year, you may

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recall that I pretty much
disappeared from everything

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between December 20, 21 through
June 20 22 I was depressed and

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suicidal for much of that time.
One detail.

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I don't believe I've shared.
Is that by that doctors

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definition, I did make an
attempt.

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I tried to buy nembutal online.
Nembutal is a drug used for

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lethal injection in prisons and
to put animals to sleep.

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I learned of it from a right to
die group who lobbies for

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physician-assisted suicide and I
found a website that claim to

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sell it.
Now I figured it was a scam but

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I was desperate to do something.
So I did something stupid and I

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placed an order.
Despite the broken English on

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the website, despite being able
to pay only via Zell to some

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random dude named Marcus.
I did it.

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It was a good scam.
Despite what I just said about

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it.
They had a fake shipping company

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with a complete website for
them, fake addresses, and Texas.

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That like, showed up, you could
do, you could seem to verify it?

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It made it.
They made it seem like they were

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buying things in Mexico and then
shipping them here.

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I even got fake tracking emails.
Once I place my order. but when

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the delivery day arrived,
nothing showed up, Except for

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more emails saying there was a
snag and it wasn't too late for

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me to buy insurance for a few
hundred dollars.

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More to make sure my my
prescription without a

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prescription came through.
I was much more upset by that

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package, not arriving than I
expected.

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And that attempted action
combined with a number of people

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reaching out to me, really
increasing.

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That's what signified the bottom
for me.

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That's when I finally decided
enough of this shit enough of

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believing I'm shit.
The theme for World Suicide

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Prevention Day.
This year is creating hope

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through action.
My talking to you right now is

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an action.
You listening is an action.

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You checking with a dear friend
and asking?

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How are you really?
Is an action, you could take.

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Working with a therapist.
A coach a men's group is a

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positive action.
You might take By the way, those

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are all things that I've been
doing this summer.

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Going through the new Warrior
Adventure Training weekend.

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With the mankind project is a
very positive action.

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You might take these live events
for men, only have been

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happening again in recent weeks,
all around the world.

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They haven't happened been, they
haven't been happening since

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2019 since before the pandemic.
There is one coming up in

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Plymouth Massachusetts, the
weekend.

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There is one coming up in
Plymouth Massachusetts, the

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weekend of October 28th, I know
this because I'll be part of the

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staff for that weekend and I
highly recommend that weekend

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for any man wherever you are in
the world.

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I invite you to show support for
those struggling with suicidal

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attempts or ideation and to
remember loved ones who have

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died by Suicide.
Wherever you are discovering

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