July 22, 2022
Reaching Out & Being Ignored
Real Men Feel 263 7/22/22 Reaching Out -- Being Ignored
One thing that struck me after my 8-month-long withdrawal from life was how many told me that they noticed I was quiet and wondered what was up. Some said I'd been on their mind, yet they didn't reach out. Some said they energetically reached out but were quickly shut down.
When I did finally speak up and share, the number of people who said that I'd been on their mind or that they considered reaching out but didn't… made me wonder why that is.
I think part of it is the way that polite society tells us not to feel - that negative emotions are bad, keep your shit to yourself, and suck it up.
Never take being ignored personally. A response, or lack thereof, is entirely upon the mindset and energy level of the individual. You may want them to feel better, connected, and alive more than they do at that moment.
Perhaps we are all responsible for keeping each other going. Let that be the point of social media.
We are all in this together. So trust those little hunches and give the people that pop into your head a quick check-in. You might find yourself feeling good.
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Hello and welcome to real men.
Feel I'm your host Andy Grant
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and hey you hear it.
I've got my theme music back.
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So now we're a real show again,
feeling good.
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This is my third episode back
since a long.
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00:00:15,500 --> 00:00:19,400
Unplanned break, still just me
for a bit longer, but I'm
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starting to line up some guests.
And I'm also appearing on other
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podcasts to so things are
definitely looking up for a boon
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that reached out, you know, I've
heard a lot of positive feedback
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and appreciation for the Most
recent episodes of of sharing
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00:00:32,500 --> 00:00:35,400
where I've been and the
subsequent depression and
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Suicidal Thoughts.
I've been dealing with I want to
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call out a couple of people.
First I received a really moving
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00:00:42,200 --> 00:00:46,200
email from Colin in Norway you
can read the whole thing at real
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men, feel dot org and the blog
post for episode 261.
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What the fuck happened where is
Andy but he said, I want to
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thank you for your
vulnerability, your honesty,
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your courage, I found your
podcast so coherent.
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It really resonated with me and
I feel a deep sense of
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compassion for you.
Thank you.
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I found a lot of inspiration
from your podcasts as part of my
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own healing process.
I want you to know that I find
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your vulnerability inspiring.
I have tears in my eyes writing
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this.
I want to send my heartfelt,
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gratitude and love, I believe
that men and Society have so
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much healing to do.
And I view your example of
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sharing masculine vulnerability
as a gift, Thank you.
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Colin that.
There your whole entire letter
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really meant a lot to me, and an
apple podcasts anxiously
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attached recently, wrote a
review of that, that same
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episode.
And that went Andy, you are an
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amazing human being.
And I just want to thank you for
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your body of work and for your
vulnerability at this difficult
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time for you.
I am the wife of a man that
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Faithfully listens.
And when he finds content of
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yours that resonates, he shares
it with me, you have helped us
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both Now, I often say that real
men feel is for men and women
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00:02:01,700 --> 00:02:04,900
who love them, many guys have
told me that their girlfriends
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00:02:04,900 --> 00:02:06,900
and wives have turned them on to
the show.
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So, to all the ladies listening,
thank you, thank you for tuning
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in.
Thank you for sharing this with
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others.
And to all of you, everybody all
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human beings.
I genuinely appreciate every
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00:02:18,900 --> 00:02:22,400
rating review, comment on
YouTube real men.
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Feel that org, Facebook,
Instagram, you know, all over
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00:02:25,500 --> 00:02:27,800
the interwebs.
I do see them.
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And please know they matter.
Which brings me to the topic for
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today reaching out.
One thing that struck me after
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my eight month long withdrawal
from life was, how many people
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told me that they noticed I was
quiet and wondered what was up?
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Some said I've been on their
mind yet, they didn't reach out
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some said they energetically
reached out but were quickly
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shut down which I get I was
doing that I definitely closed
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down and was putting out every
possible vibe that says leave me
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the fuck alone but some
persistent I want to urge you to
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contact people when they're on
your And there is a reason, they
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are popping up into your
awareness and you don't know why
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a quick text.
Hey man, thinking of you hope
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you're well, does it have to be
a big thing?
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Because it be intense.
But for months, one of the
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stories that I was able to tell
myself was that nobody notices
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my absence and nobody cares.
I had gone months without a room
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and feel episode or any social
media posts.
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I could easily ignore one
person, every few weeks, sending
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a message or an email.
It was much harder to tell
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myself.
I had no friends.
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When I was hearing from three to
five to six people every day for
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multiple days in a row.
So all those people reaching
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out, it helps shift my momentum.
When I finally did speak up and
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share, where I'd been what's
been going on.
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But just July 1st, the number of
people who said that I'd been on
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their mind or that they
considered reaching out to me,
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but didn't made me wonder why
that is now.
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I think part of it is the way
that polite Society tells us not
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to feel that negative emotions
are bad.
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Keep your shit to yourself.
Now, suck it up.
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All right, that's the
ever-present vibe for all of us.
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People keep telling me that my
vulnerability is inspiring.
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Well, I assure you, when I'm in
the midst of my shit sharing, it
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doesn't feel inspiring at all.
Perhaps one reason for not
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reaching out to someone is is a
fear of how they are doing.
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What might their mental
emotional or spiritual State
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bring up for you?
We are all mirrors for each
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other.
But again, we've all been
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trained that daily life is just
about asking, how you doing,
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what's up?
How's it going?
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And we don't even listen to the
response because it's usually
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fine.
Good, thanks.
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Nothing much right.
That polite, surface-level
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non-conversation.
That's what most people are.
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Used to be willing to go deeper.
I make it a point of asking.
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How are you really?
That lets people know that I'm
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eager to go beyond the polite,
surface-level bullshit.
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As someone, who ignored people,
who reached out, I want to
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assure you.
That even if your message is
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shunned, it has an impact.
I had convinced myself that I
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didn't want to feel better.
Part of shutting down was, was
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acting as if I was dead, right?
I was gone.
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If you think of someone and
decide to check in with them,
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don't take being ignored
personally, don't try to take
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ownership of someone else's
energy or mood be as persistent
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as you're comfortable with.
Friends who contacted me?
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Once were rebuffed and then went
silent.
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Well, that made it easy for me
to ignore them.
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The people who reached out to me
more than once, they made it
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much harder for me to pretend
that nobody cared for me to
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pretend that I didn't exist.
Now, I repeat, never take being
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ignored personally.
A response or lack thereof is
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entirely upon the mindset and
energy level of the individual.
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Trust your instincts and
intuition, touch base, with
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friends, family members, loved
ones, brief acquaintances.
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I don't care.
Anybody whenever they pop into
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your mind, trust that impulse to
ask how somebody is have a
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little faith that your
connection with other human
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beings is actually a real thing
and it's beneficial.
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Even if you don't get a response
I assure you that you are making
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an impact and don't let a lack
of response turn into any sort
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of self judgement, right?
Just give that gift of reaching
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out, that offering that
invitation and move on.
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I assure you.
It is a much more horrible
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feeling to be thinking about
someone take no action.
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And then you discover, they are
no longer with us and you've
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lost that chance to connect
ever.
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Now, I'm not trying to say that
you're responsible for keeping
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other people alive. shit, maybe
I am, you know, not in a blaming
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way, but Perhaps, we are all
responsible for keeping each
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other going.
We responsible for keeping each
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other alive.
Yeah, I like that.
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Let that be the point of social
media, right?
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Matt be amazing.
We are all in this together.
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This thing called life.
So please trust those hunches.
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The nudges, the thoughts, give
the people that pop into your
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awareness, the quick check-in
You may just find you save a
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life.
You may find your feel good.
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someone that you care about.
And please know that I care
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about you.
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And until next time, Be good to
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each other and as always, please
be good to yourself.
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Be good to each other and as
always, please be good to
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yourself.
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Hello and welcome to real men.
Feel I'm your host Andy Grant
2
00:00:07,200 --> 00:00:10,200
and hey you hear it.
I've got my theme music back.
3
00:00:10,200 --> 00:00:12,700
So now we're a real show again,
feeling good.
4
00:00:13,300 --> 00:00:15,500
This is my third episode back
since a long.
5
00:00:15,500 --> 00:00:19,400
Unplanned break, still just me
for a bit longer, but I'm
6
00:00:19,400 --> 00:00:22,100
starting to line up some guests.
And I'm also appearing on other
7
00:00:22,100 --> 00:00:25,700
podcasts to so things are
definitely looking up for a boon
8
00:00:25,700 --> 00:00:28,700
that reached out, you know, I've
heard a lot of positive feedback
9
00:00:28,700 --> 00:00:32,500
and appreciation for the Most
recent episodes of of sharing
10
00:00:32,500 --> 00:00:35,400
where I've been and the
subsequent depression and
11
00:00:35,400 --> 00:00:38,300
Suicidal Thoughts.
I've been dealing with I want to
12
00:00:38,308 --> 00:00:42,200
call out a couple of people.
First I received a really moving
13
00:00:42,200 --> 00:00:46,200
email from Colin in Norway you
can read the whole thing at real
14
00:00:46,200 --> 00:00:49,900
men, feel dot org and the blog
post for episode 261.
15
00:00:50,500 --> 00:00:54,500
What the fuck happened where is
Andy but he said, I want to
16
00:00:54,508 --> 00:00:57,100
thank you for your
vulnerability, your honesty,
17
00:00:57,100 --> 00:01:00,300
your courage, I found your
podcast so coherent.
18
00:01:00,500 --> 00:01:03,300
It really resonated with me and
I feel a deep sense of
19
00:01:03,300 --> 00:01:05,000
compassion for you.
Thank you.
20
00:01:06,000 --> 00:01:08,800
I found a lot of inspiration
from your podcasts as part of my
21
00:01:08,800 --> 00:01:12,200
own healing process.
I want you to know that I find
22
00:01:12,200 --> 00:01:15,600
your vulnerability inspiring.
I have tears in my eyes writing
23
00:01:15,600 --> 00:01:17,900
this.
I want to send my heartfelt,
24
00:01:17,900 --> 00:01:22,100
gratitude and love, I believe
that men and Society have so
25
00:01:22,100 --> 00:01:24,700
much healing to do.
And I view your example of
26
00:01:24,700 --> 00:01:28,900
sharing masculine vulnerability
as a gift, Thank you.
27
00:01:28,900 --> 00:01:30,700
Colin that.
There your whole entire letter
28
00:01:30,700 --> 00:01:34,800
really meant a lot to me, and an
apple podcasts anxiously
29
00:01:34,800 --> 00:01:37,700
attached recently, wrote a
review of that, that same
30
00:01:37,700 --> 00:01:42,300
episode.
And that went Andy, you are an
31
00:01:42,300 --> 00:01:44,900
amazing human being.
And I just want to thank you for
32
00:01:44,900 --> 00:01:48,200
your body of work and for your
vulnerability at this difficult
33
00:01:48,200 --> 00:01:51,100
time for you.
I am the wife of a man that
34
00:01:51,100 --> 00:01:53,700
Faithfully listens.
And when he finds content of
35
00:01:53,700 --> 00:01:56,500
yours that resonates, he shares
it with me, you have helped us
36
00:01:56,500 --> 00:02:01,700
both Now, I often say that real
men feel is for men and women
37
00:02:01,700 --> 00:02:04,900
who love them, many guys have
told me that their girlfriends
38
00:02:04,900 --> 00:02:06,900
and wives have turned them on to
the show.
39
00:02:07,400 --> 00:02:11,400
So, to all the ladies listening,
thank you, thank you for tuning
40
00:02:11,400 --> 00:02:13,100
in.
Thank you for sharing this with
41
00:02:13,100 --> 00:02:16,000
others.
And to all of you, everybody all
42
00:02:16,000 --> 00:02:18,900
human beings.
I genuinely appreciate every
43
00:02:18,900 --> 00:02:22,400
rating review, comment on
YouTube real men.
44
00:02:22,400 --> 00:02:25,500
Feel that org, Facebook,
Instagram, you know, all over
45
00:02:25,500 --> 00:02:27,800
the interwebs.
I do see them.
46
00:02:28,400 --> 00:02:33,600
And please know they matter.
Which brings me to the topic for
47
00:02:33,600 --> 00:02:38,900
today reaching out.
One thing that struck me after
48
00:02:38,900 --> 00:02:42,600
my eight month long withdrawal
from life was, how many people
49
00:02:42,600 --> 00:02:45,900
told me that they noticed I was
quiet and wondered what was up?
50
00:02:46,400 --> 00:02:49,300
Some said I've been on their
mind yet, they didn't reach out
51
00:02:49,300 --> 00:02:52,100
some said they energetically
reached out but were quickly
52
00:02:52,100 --> 00:02:56,300
shut down which I get I was
doing that I definitely closed
53
00:02:56,300 --> 00:02:59,600
down and was putting out every
possible vibe that says leave me
54
00:02:59,600 --> 00:03:04,700
the fuck alone but some
persistent I want to urge you to
55
00:03:04,700 --> 00:03:08,600
contact people when they're on
your And there is a reason, they
56
00:03:08,600 --> 00:03:12,000
are popping up into your
awareness and you don't know why
57
00:03:12,900 --> 00:03:16,200
a quick text.
Hey man, thinking of you hope
58
00:03:16,200 --> 00:03:18,500
you're well, does it have to be
a big thing?
59
00:03:18,700 --> 00:03:22,200
Because it be intense.
But for months, one of the
60
00:03:22,200 --> 00:03:26,100
stories that I was able to tell
myself was that nobody notices
61
00:03:26,100 --> 00:03:30,700
my absence and nobody cares.
I had gone months without a room
62
00:03:30,700 --> 00:03:32,800
and feel episode or any social
media posts.
63
00:03:33,300 --> 00:03:36,100
I could easily ignore one
person, every few weeks, sending
64
00:03:36,100 --> 00:03:39,200
a message or an email.
It was much harder to tell
65
00:03:39,200 --> 00:03:40,700
myself.
I had no friends.
66
00:03:40,700 --> 00:03:44,900
When I was hearing from three to
five to six people every day for
67
00:03:44,900 --> 00:03:47,900
multiple days in a row.
So all those people reaching
68
00:03:47,900 --> 00:03:53,100
out, it helps shift my momentum.
When I finally did speak up and
69
00:03:53,100 --> 00:03:54,800
share, where I'd been what's
been going on.
70
00:03:54,800 --> 00:03:58,700
But just July 1st, the number of
people who said that I'd been on
71
00:03:58,700 --> 00:04:00,900
their mind or that they
considered reaching out to me,
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but didn't made me wonder why
that is now.
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I think part of it is the way
that polite Society tells us not
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to feel that negative emotions
are bad.
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Keep your shit to yourself.
Now, suck it up.
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All right, that's the
ever-present vibe for all of us.
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People keep telling me that my
vulnerability is inspiring.
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Well, I assure you, when I'm in
the midst of my shit sharing, it
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doesn't feel inspiring at all.
Perhaps one reason for not
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reaching out to someone is is a
fear of how they are doing.
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What might their mental
emotional or spiritual State
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bring up for you?
We are all mirrors for each
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other.
But again, we've all been
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trained that daily life is just
about asking, how you doing,
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what's up?
How's it going?
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And we don't even listen to the
response because it's usually
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fine.
Good, thanks.
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Nothing much right.
That polite, surface-level
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non-conversation.
That's what most people are.
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Used to be willing to go deeper.
I make it a point of asking.
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How are you really?
That lets people know that I'm
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eager to go beyond the polite,
surface-level bullshit.
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As someone, who ignored people,
who reached out, I want to
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assure you.
That even if your message is
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shunned, it has an impact.
I had convinced myself that I
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didn't want to feel better.
Part of shutting down was, was
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acting as if I was dead, right?
I was gone.
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If you think of someone and
decide to check in with them,
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don't take being ignored
personally, don't try to take
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ownership of someone else's
energy or mood be as persistent
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as you're comfortable with.
Friends who contacted me?
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Once were rebuffed and then went
silent.
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Well, that made it easy for me
to ignore them.
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The people who reached out to me
more than once, they made it
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much harder for me to pretend
that nobody cared for me to
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pretend that I didn't exist.
Now, I repeat, never take being
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ignored personally.
A response or lack thereof is
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entirely upon the mindset and
energy level of the individual.
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Trust your instincts and
intuition, touch base, with
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friends, family members, loved
ones, brief acquaintances.
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I don't care.
Anybody whenever they pop into
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your mind, trust that impulse to
ask how somebody is have a
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little faith that your
connection with other human
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beings is actually a real thing
and it's beneficial.
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Even if you don't get a response
I assure you that you are making
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an impact and don't let a lack
of response turn into any sort
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of self judgement, right?
Just give that gift of reaching
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out, that offering that
invitation and move on.
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I assure you.
It is a much more horrible
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feeling to be thinking about
someone take no action.
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And then you discover, they are
no longer with us and you've
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lost that chance to connect
ever.
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Now, I'm not trying to say that
you're responsible for keeping
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other people alive. shit, maybe
I am, you know, not in a blaming
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way, but Perhaps, we are all
responsible for keeping each
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other going.
We responsible for keeping each
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other alive.
Yeah, I like that.
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Let that be the point of social
media, right?
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Matt be amazing.
We are all in this together.
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This thing called life.
So please trust those hunches.
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The nudges, the thoughts, give
the people that pop into your
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awareness, the quick check-in
You may just find you save a
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life.
You may find your feel good.
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Be good to each other and as
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Author / Teacher / Coach / Healer
Andy Grant is a best-selling author, speaker, Transformational Energy Coach, healer, and suicide prevention activist. As the host of the award-winning Real Men Feel podcast, he champions emotional well-being and encourages men to step out of the “emotional closet.”
Andy holds certifications in Positive Psychology, the Enwaken Coaching System, Akashic Records, Life Activation, and multiple energy healing modalities. Known as The King of Authenticity, he founded Real Men Feel in 2016, fostering a movement that redefines masculinity through openness and vulnerability.
An Initiate, Certified Healer, Teacher, and Ritual Master with the Modern Mystery School, Andy has dedicated his life to helping people in emotional pain rediscover the magnificence of life. His training includes work with renowned teachers such as Mike Dooley, Brendon Burchard, Bill Harris, Genpo Roshi, David Morelli, Margaret Lynch, Linda Howe, Tal Ben-Shahar, Karen Paolino-Correia, and Christie Marie Sheldon.