Receiving Praise | Being Worthy Men

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Greetings and welcome to real
men.

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Feel I'm your host Andy Grant,
I'm an author speaker, coach and

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healer check out the Andy
Grant.com to learn more.

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About me, real men feel is all
about reminding men that they

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are human and are entitled to
feel and express the full range

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of emotions.
There are not some emotions that

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are only for women and some that
are for men.

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Nobody can take away your
mythical man, card due to

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anything you ever feel or share.
One of the goals of this podcast

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of my books of my coaching is to
be inspiring.

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But whenever someone tells me
I'm inspiring, I try to deflect

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it.
Some of that is being humble,

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genuinely, I believe that should
be the case.

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But at times, I can also notice
strong resistance and outright

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rejection of that praise.
I might even try to argue with

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someone about it, which is
ridiculous.

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This sort of experience, showed
up big time in my first guest

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appearance in about a year when
I was on the in the blood

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Podcast with AC Fisher and Jason
more recently, the written

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description of the episode.
Once it was released reads

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husband, traveler actor, speaker
teacher, podcaster learner

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activist coach healer and author
are all words, that could be at

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used to accurately describe
Andy.

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Grant me as impressive as these
are, though, they don't even

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scratch the surface of who he
is.

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He's been dubbed, the king of
authenticity because of the

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transparent ways in which he
presents himself and his

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emotional Journey.
He certainly lives up to that

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moniker in this conversation.
He's an inspiration to men all

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over the world.
Because he teaches us that it's

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okay to be emotional.
It's okay to be expressive.

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And that a real man is anything.
A man is, we're not confined to

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the box of societal
expectations.

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We are beautiful and Powerful,
even when we're in tears, That's

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hard for me to say out loud.
Now, I agree with all of that,

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and I'm proud of it, too, but it
feels like a bit too much.

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Like, like, we should just keep
this to ourselves, let's just

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keep this quiet, all this
positive stuff.

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Then in the actual show, AC
surprise me by saying that I was

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a personal inspiration to him.
He went on to say, Thank you so

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much for showing us that it's
okay for us to have emotions

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that it doesn't detract from a
masculinity, telling us that

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it's okay to cry.
It's okay to experience the full

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realm of emotions is just okay
to be us.

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Andy, I don't know if you really
grasp how big of a thing it is

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that you're doing for your
fellow, man.

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I need you to know right now
that you're one of my personal

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Heroes and I'm so thrilled to
have you with us today.

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Now, I'm not trying to toot my
own horn here.

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This isn't a look at me show.
Women feel is about having

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conversations that most men
aren't having but that we can

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all benefit from even if it's me
talking to myself or I get, you

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know, I guess I'm talking
directly to you right now

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actually.
Someone who listened to that

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full.
Show that in the blood men show

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that I referenced.
The intro to wrote to me a

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message saying, this is
incredible.

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Thank you for your advocacy,
you're so talented and with such

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an impressive background, I
wrote back saying thank you,

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perfect timing as I'm preparing
to do a show about receiving,

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praise and the discomfort it can
bring that, let me laugh off the

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feedback because I can proudly
own my authenticity and my

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vulnerability.
My willingness to be seen But to

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ever say I'm so talented and
impressive that's not happening,

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you know, I'm just being me
which is hard to see as a

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talent.
But on the flip side, I should

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be the most talented man on
Earth at being Andy Grant.

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I recorded an interview earlier
today for a future real men.

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Feel show my guess Dan Mahler
said that he was a big fan of

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the show and it was an honor to
be on it which is still a weird

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thing for me to hear to be
honest I told them what I was

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planning to talk about in the
next show this one and he said

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so many men have challenges
accepting compliments but it's

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simply.
It's as simple as just saying,

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thank you.
You don't have to argue with

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him.
That's not dry.

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You don't?
You?

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Just proved it.
Just even if you don't agree

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that just just, thanks, right?
Give someone the gift of

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receiving their gift to you.
I was talking with another

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friend yesterday and I mentioned
the difficulty for men in

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receiving praise.
He said he wanted to be admired

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but when someone tells him that
they admire him, he feels

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uncomfortable.
It makes him squirm a bit.

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I asked why he thought that was.
He said, worthiness.

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And I agree that is what it
comes down to.

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If we can't fully accept our
worthiness as men if we can own

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our maleness to quote jet
Diamond, receiving, any sort of

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Praise is very uncomfortable.
It can make us feel like a fraud

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or that we're dealing with
imposter syndrome.

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This unworthiness, I find that
usually comes from our

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upbringing and we can be blatant
and obvious.

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If you had a father that would
just scream, you know, you're

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worthless and weak, you can't do
anything, right?

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You aren't going to amount to
shit.

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It can also be subtle.
Something like getting all B's

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on your report card and being
told better luck next time.

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If you got the message that
whatever you did wasn't enough.

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It's going to add up and stick
with you.

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Then they're all the distorted
messages about what it means to

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be a man or from society pop
culture school.

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You know, if you don't look this
way dress this way drive this

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car date this woman.
Well, then you really aren't a

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man.
All of that is total and

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absolute bullshit.
You have value simply in being

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Your existence.
Is all the proof of your

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worthiness that the Universe
needs.

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So, I invite you to accept it
too.

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Just be you.
You are the best you the world

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could possibly ask for.
Wherever you listening to real

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men.
Few, please subscribe, follow.

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Post a comment.

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Share this with somebody.
Give us some praise.

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I can take it.
You can always reach me at real

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men, feel at gmail.com.
And until next time, be good to

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yourself and praise be to you.