The Selfless Man: Transforming Health and Leadership

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When we are taking care of
ourselves, it is selfless,

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right?
You have to take care of

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yourself before you can take
care of others.

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Put the airplane, ask on first
before you can help anyone else.

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Those are always the rules and
we always want to put it on

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others.
But then you're left fatigued,

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You can't think clearly, you're
not making good decisions, and

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therefore you're not actually
caring for the people around you

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as best you you actually really
can.

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Hello and welcome to Real Men
Feel.

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The podcast reminds men that
they're human beings, and that's

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OK.
I'm your host, Andy Grant.

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Today's guest believes that the
most selfless thing a man can do

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for the people he loves is take
better care of himself.

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I'm joined by Coach Brian
Purana, a health coach, husband,

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father of four, and former
CrossFit gym owner who's helped

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thousands of men transform their
health and their lives.

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Brian's not about fad diets or
quick fixes.

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He blends science, back
strategies, radical

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accountability, and a
brotherhood of support to help

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men reclaim their energy,
confidence, and leadership at

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home and at work.
If you've ever felt guilty for

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taking time for yourself, or
you've told yourself you'll get

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healthy when life slows down,
this conversation is the wake up

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call you need.
If you're looking for a space to

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connect with other men on this
journey of authenticity and

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growth, join us in the Authentic
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realmenfield.org/group.
It's free and it's for you.

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Let's do it.
Hello, Brian, and welcome to

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Real Men Field.
Hi, Andy.

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Thanks for having me.
So appreciate it.

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So you've been in health and
fitness for your entire career.

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Personal training, owning gyms
and now coaching.

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What first drew you into
fitness?

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I like to say it was, it was
Rocky Balboa.

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Funny enough, the training
montages when the music starts

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going and it's just like, oh,
that is what really got me

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interested and excited about
just exercise.

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I played sports.
I did baseball and basketball.

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I couldn't really catch anything
really.

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Well, I, I quickly moved on from
that to my, my friend, high

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school friend, and I actually
saw him in the last week, Dan,

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he actually invited me out to go
run track.

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And that started really getting
into the exercise be old and the

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training and the exercise.
I'd wake up early and we'd train

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on the weekends.
And it's just evolved from such

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a a young early age basically.
And has your approach to health

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and self-care changed since
Rocky?

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In general, no.
I work out multiple times a

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week.
I try to eat healthy.

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Today we had some tilapia with
some corn and some sweet potato

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fries.
That was dinner we just got done

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eating.
I drink lots of water.

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Actually have my my water here.
So this is 40 oz container.

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Try and get at least 2 for sure.
More likely 3:00 every single

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day.
And I do my best with sleep.

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If if I were to have an Achilles
heel, that usually is sleep and

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that gets sacrificed for career,
it gets sacrificed for exercise,

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it gets for family, all sorts of
things.

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So.
So there are two great stressors

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in life that that people choose
to undertake. 1 is

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entrepreneurship and one is
relationships, and you've known

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your wife since high school, so
I wonder if you have any secrets

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to making both those things
work?

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Oh, I, I wish I did. 1 is being
persistent and wanting to make

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sure that the relationship works
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I and she, we both came from
from divorced parents and we

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understand what that looks like
and feels like.

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And we have, we have 4 kids.
We don't want to repeat that.

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And so there's a committed
consistency that we want to have

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for our relationship to be there
and be together for them quite a

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bit.
And I, I still really enjoy her

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company.
She makes me laugh and we, we

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travel a lot.
We've, we've done all 50 states,

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multiple countries, continent.
She's the traveller and I get

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guilt by association and get to
out with her quite a bit.

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And that's something that has I
probably wouldn't have done, not

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even remotely to the level that
my my mom and and family, We

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used to just go to Myrtle Beach
on repeat it felt like for many

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years.
But we've been all over the

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place now as a result of Amber's
desire to travel and explore the

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world.
There's something you say that I

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really love and resonate with,
and it's that men taking care of

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themselves is one of the most
selfless things they can do.

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Right.
Could.

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Can you expand on that?
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Definitely, Andy, when we are
taking care of ourselves, it is

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selfless, right?
You have to take care of

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yourself before you can take
care of others.

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Put the airplane.
Ask on first before you can help

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anyone else.
Those are always the rules and

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we always want to put it on
others.

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But then you're left fatigued.
You're left you can't think

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clearly.
You're not making good decisions

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and therefore you don't.
You're not actually caring for

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the people around you as best
you you actually really can.

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A lot of guys have been taught
that not to put themselves 1st

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and perhaps they feel guilty for
doing so.

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How do you help someone reframe
their mindset if that's the case

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for?
Them yeah, I I love that reframe

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word.
And whenever I'm talking with

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anyone, I am jumping into what
their why is why is this

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important to take care of
yourself at some point?

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Usually in my experience,
unfortunately, people come to me

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in some of the worst health that
you've been in.

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Like Brian, I need some help.
Now, most people aren't knocking

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on my door, probably in yours
too, right there.

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There's some sort of issues that
are going on when they start to

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show up to find, troubleshoot,
problem solved and overcome

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those things.
And I have to understand why is

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it important for someone to
better their health to start

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paying attention to the food
they eat and and move their

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body?
Because the lack of doing that

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has caused them to move in the
direction that they don't want

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to experience anymore.
And we know unfortunately, 40%

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of Americans are overweight or
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It's moving in that direction.
And poor health assisted living

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centers is big pharma.
We have so much around people

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just getting sick.
Prevention is a cure.

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And if we can take care of
ourselves first, not just even

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if you want to think about it
from a lighter thought is you're

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actually going to save money by
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of the added extra healthcare
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think about the time.
How often do you want to

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actually go to the doctor?
Andy you probably never really

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want to go to the doctor, right?
It's not not the first place you

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want to mark off on your
calendar to, to go visit and and

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therefore, if we take care of
ourselves, we can greatly reduce

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our our exposure and likeliness
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our body and our mind because
they're interlinked.

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What sort of changes have you
seen in men's lives when they do

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finally focus on their own
health?

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I, I actually reconnected with
an old client.

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This was pre COVID that we
started working together and he

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said I want to lose weight, get
in better shape and and all

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that.
And Mike was his name and I

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reconnected with him just
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because I'm, I'm just really
getting out and eating out of

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the trenches in a sense.
I've just been so head deep and

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working individually one-on-one
with people.

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And this is the podcast coming
out and exploring this.

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So I reached out to him and
connected and he said, hey, I'd

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be happy to get on call, but I
have something else to tell.

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You said, oh, you're leaving me
in suspense, aren't you?

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And we got on the call.
He said, Brian, when we were

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working together, I met a girl
who's now my fiance and we're

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actually getting married in
August, literally in this month

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that we're in right now.
And that is why I do what I do.

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That's what I'm after.
I've had so many stories that

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Drake is another one.
Drake came to me 270.

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He was a crazy successful career
managing lots of zeros and an

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architect firm in Tennessee.
But his blood pressure was so

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high, the doctor was threatening
him that you're going on meds

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ASAP.
And he said give me give me a

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couple weeks to try and solve
this.

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This guy just launched because
he knew he was a walking heart

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attack and he changed his
lifestyle.

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He changed what he thought.
He changed his career.

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He actually exited his career.
He sold off his Shelby GT

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Mustang that he was driving
around in because I asked him a

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question, do you even like that
car?

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And he said actually, Brian, I
don't I'm not sure why I'm

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driving it.
And the guy sold it off within a

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week and got up and up 150
because that's the type of guy

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he is.
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congruent lifestyle around who
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And he was able to express that
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himself.
And those are just two of

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countless stories of even
doctors saying they, they look

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at you, my, my client, what have
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This is great.
I barely recognize you or your,

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your blood panels are so much
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Maybe we don't have to be
diabetic or we don't have to

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worry about heart disease really
in a sense and and just amazing

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stories like that or, or why I
do it and keep doing it.

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What are some of the most common
excuses or obstacles that men

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will talk about for not taking
better care of themselves?

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One, men fall in the old adage
of never asking for directions.

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I think you probably experienced
that with in a lot of your work

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as well, right?
The men don't want to ask for

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help.
And I think that is an old

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fallacy that we don't have to
continue.

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Men's health, especially mental
health, has been talked about

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more and more throughout the
last, say, 1520 years.

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And it's OK.
I, I, I have a coach, I like

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being guided, I like being
supported.

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I'm in your community.
I, I like being connected to

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other men even, but one, just
even going back to my story of

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my father was there in my youth,
but not so much recently and

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more absent in the last, you
know, 15 to 20 years that that

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impacts me.
I don't have the manual to being

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a good husband.
I don't have the manual to being

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a good father.
And I'm a constantly assessing

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the landscape of who are good
role models or what should I be

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doing and, and all that.
And that, that really helps me

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guide.
So men, you're allowed to ask

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for help.
So that's number one.

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And then number 2 is I'm too
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BUSY.
That's the number one excuse I

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hear from everyone.
Or I'm going to do it tomorrow.

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Tomorrow never comes.
These are inherent delays that

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people want to put off because
they just don't want to take

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responsibility.
Life is lifing.

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You have to accept what's going
around around you.

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And if you don't like it, you
can change it, especially your

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health.
And that's the most important

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place to start, especially if
things feel out of control or

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swirling around.
And I say this, and I think this

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is your body can be a reflection
of what's going on inside or in

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turn in in your world.
And you don't have to say that

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just because you're overweight,
you're say lazy or your your

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home life is bad or something.
That's not what I'm implying.

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But there could be some bad
blood panels by having extra

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weight or just eating poor food
choices consistently.

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It doesn't matter how much you
weigh, you could still get

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diabetes because of the choice
of food that you eat and put in

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your mouth.
That's really important.

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So those are some of that that
the main ones that I see a lot.

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And for driven, busy men, is the
tipping point when they say

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enough is enough?
Is it usually something that

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confronts their own mortality,
like a warning from the doctor?

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I would say that ends up being a
a big proprietor to getting

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people to move in that
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The second one is the closest
home fit.

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Third one is that they see
themselves in a picture that all

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of a sudden, wow, that's not it.
Or say they catch themselves at

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the beach with the shirt on in a
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It's like this isn't the look.
And another thing is that at

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some point in life you end up in
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you, you're financially secure,
you have your family, you have a

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car, you have a house.
You've acquired the say the

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basics to the American dream.
But then if you're living in a

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body that can't support that
effort, that can't keep up, that

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can't stay productive, that you
can't engage with your children

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in a sense and go play with them
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problem.
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want to do is stop men from
having midlife crisis at 42.

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I understand it.
There's so much responsibility

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weighing on you that you taking
care of yourself is the 1st and

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most important thing.
Don't, don't go buy a car.

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You don't need another car.
That's not, you don't need a

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giant TV.
You, you don't need a larger

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house.
You need the house that you're

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living in needs to be whole.
It needs to be energetic, it

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needs to be well taken care of.
Yeah, the American dream seems

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to take our health for granted.
Like that's never called out in

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it.
It's like I got all the stuff

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right.
It doesn't talk about.

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How do you feel?
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There's a lot of empty people
that have a lot of money.

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So tell me about your program
the the call to rise.

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The call to rise is this
cultivation of everything from

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the experiences with my clients
who take control of their health

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and then have of course they
change your body, but those

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bigger outcomes of
transformation in their life,

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that's what this is about.
So the call arise it's 100 day

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program, it's a fat loss
experience.

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Really want to get away from say
information because we even you

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are probably dealing with it,
right.

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AI is everywhere.
You just ask AI for a meal plan

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and a workout and that, but
that's not going to create the

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support.
That's not creating the

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connection.
That's not creating the real

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life human to human experience
that we thrive off of because we

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are human and staring at a
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were meant to live.
And unfortunately, it's the way

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that our society has gone for
better and we could say worse

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too.
So that's what it is. 100 days.

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We're going to weekly
challenges, quarterly

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assessments is small court holds
of gentlemen to bond together.

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The cord would be called the
Brotherhood.

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There are 5 pillars of the fuel,
the forge, the call.

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We've got the mindset, we've got
different ways to connect and

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make sure that the
transformation definitely starts

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in the body but then transpires
into everything else.

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So yes, we do nutrition, yes, we
do fitness and we do it in the

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most fun, engaging way from from
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That's called rise.
And you mentioned the

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Brotherhood, so there's really a
community built around this.

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And it's not just, you know,
watching an exercise video from

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home and figuring out how to go
get yourself through it or.

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Something no, there's millions
of YouTube exercise videos.

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Go watch those right?
Even the clients that I work

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with for years.
You want you need a 20 minute

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workout?
Cool, let's just go find one on

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YouTube that's a resource and a
way to exercise and express

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yourself.
But I'm talking about connection

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and that's something that I
don't think a lot of men have to

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be honest.
I don't unless I'm purposely

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seeking it out.
And that's part of what our

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connection is.
I'm purposely seeking out more

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connection with other men that
are leading in the space and are

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trying to do really good things.
And I, I have 4 close friends,

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they call them the Four Amigos
and we all are founded in

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fitness.
We work out together and two of

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them are from my high school
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Then Dan and Leo, I have Chris
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me here.
We worked out today is Friday,

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so we worked out yesterday or no
Wednesday, We worked out

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Wednesday and then Andy, Andy
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multiple kids, three or more,
three out of the four business

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owners.
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have our connection piece, which
then allows us to get deeper

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into the onion, so to speak.
So we actually have talk, we

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have conversations about our
family, about important things

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to us, about our business life.
And, and it's a really great

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point to have closer people like
that that are trying to thrive

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in their own right, because
you're only as good as the five

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closest people that you surround
yourself with.

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We heard that from Tony Robbins
forever and and having a network

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like that is so important.
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And it's though it's centered
around exercise, the

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conversations are much deeper
than what do you mention bro.

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Certainly, certainly there's
some fun jest and poking just

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guys being guys and I can do
more than you and things like

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that.
But it's not, it's, it's built

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on healthy competition of where
we, we, we go inward on it.

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We're not trying to outdo each
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You're just trying to outdo
yourself to be honest.

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And and then also we're not
doing crazy hard things.

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I just want you to do a little
bit better than you did last

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week because that's how you make
progress that's how you create

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momentum is 1% at a time that
James clear method and the

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atomic habit stuff, right 1%
better.

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And if we can do that everyday
and we can make better choices

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about what we put in our mouth
and about how we move our bodies

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and about how we drink our
enough water and we get to sleep

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on time and we actually connect
with those people closest to

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you, then your life is going to
be whole.

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It's going to be fruitful, it's
going to be blessed.

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And that's that's what I want to
see more men experiencing right

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now than I, I truly think they
are because a lot of

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acquaintances that I come into
and in this age range are they

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might have the house, they might
have the car, but they're when

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it's Austin done.
One, the conversations don't go

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very deep.
And then two, there's some

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loneliness in a sense, there's a
lack of connection there.

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They don't have that say, high
school connection, A-Team like

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mentality that that they they
would probably do so much better

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with.
Yeah, I think guys long for

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connection and community, but
then guys are also taught that

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you shouldn't long for anything.
Right, right.

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You can be the lone wolf.
You can just do it on your own.

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You can figure it out well, and
here's a here's a kicker is say

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that generally they're pretty
successful in business.

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They haven't figured it out on
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They've hired help, they've
hired out, they've gotten

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mentors, they've gotten coaches,
they've gotten, they've gotten

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masterminds.
They're paying money to be

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surrounded by that type of that
gross mindset.

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But then in their own health,
they just totally throw the baby

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out with the bathwater.
And it just doesn't need to be

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that way.
So if a man is listening right

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now, feeling burnt down,
disconnected, maybe he's

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noticing in pictures that he's
how he how he thought he looked

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in the world is no longer
accurate, right?

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What's a first step?
A first small step that you

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would suggest.
Right.

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And consistency is where we're
going to want to have as an

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undertow.
So let's assess one, what you're

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putting in your mouth because
that's going to have the biggest

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change in your overall energy
and appearance in the day and

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you're going to notice it.
When people come in to the

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program and work with me, that's
they get more energy within the

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first week.
They say I'm more energetic, I'm

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feeling better, less digestion
issues and I'm not trying to

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fall asleep at 3:00.
I can think clearly.

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We want to have just basic tips
like everyone knows how to eat

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healthy, but they don't.
And then that's another thing is

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just do the things that you know
you should be doing.

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And, and that's where we create
some accountability.

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But say nutrition, we need to
have some lean protein when you

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have some vegetables or some
fruit and, or, and then some

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starchy carb in a reasonable
portion For men, if they're

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eating anywhere from a 500 to
700 calorie meal, they're going

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to be full enough to get them to
the next time they're going to

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eat again, it's going to give
them energy.

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It's going to balance out their
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So they're going to get adequate
amounts of protein.

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They're not going to have
digestion issues and they're

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going to feel good.
And, and, but that's the easy

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part.
It's the how do I be prepared

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and how do I plan for this?
Or how do I manage client meals

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and the, the pizza night that
the family wants or even last

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night we ended up having an
impromptu fire that we had the

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hot dogs and the s'mores and,
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So how do I participate with my
family but still take care of my

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health and have the, the look to
feel that I want to.

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And those are the say, taking
care of yourself is simple, but

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it's not easy.
And those are the not so easy

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parts to to try and figure out.
It's what we do.

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So your husband, a coach, a
father to four.

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So how?
How do you balance your health

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and spending time with family
and serving clients?

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That's the the $1,000,000
question here, right?

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I don't always, right.
They're different seasons of

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life where we can focus on
different areas and then we just

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need to make sure there's a
little bit of balance so you can

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just go all in for weeks on end
or even days on end and and work

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and just ignore everything else
because then that part of your

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life will spiral out.
A couple things.

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One is for me, the schedule is
so important.

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My wife and I, it's my job.
I, I do my best.

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I'm a human, so I'm not going to
tell you I'm perfect.

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And I think that's false
advertising for sure.

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But we try and have a nightly
meeting where we connect and we

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talk about what we're doing and
who's going where and what's

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happening.
We spend time walking the dog to

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connect.
And she's an entrepreneur and

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owns her own travel business as
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She takes people on bucket list
trips that they want to go on

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but don't know how to do it.
That's what she does and we

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connect there or we spend our
time while our whole family

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walks the dog or we go travel or
we do these things so we we can

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spend these really powerful.
What my wife likes refer to

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Amber is her name referred to as
building core memories.

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So we do really throwing things
like it literally dropped her

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off at the airport a couple
about two hours ago to take my

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daughter on the mom and me
middle school trip that my wife

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created.
And she's taking all the older

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boys, the three older boys, boys
on a adventure, just her and

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them individually to Disney, to
Universal Studios, to something

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where they're able to spend time
together.

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So we do those really impactful
things and then we then create a

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lot of opportunity for our kids
to, to, to connect.

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So we're, we're constantly
juggling who's driving where and

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what.
And it can be crazy chaos in a

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sense, but usually something is
getting dropped in a sense.

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And try not to let it be family
most importantly and usually say

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it's business.
So should I say make that social

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media post?
Should I write that article?

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Should I add another 5 emails to
my e-mail automations and stuff

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to go out?
Or how do I keep prioritizing

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that stuff?
And when it's all said and done,

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family first is going to be most
important.

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So there you go.
Long answer for I don't got it

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figured out just yet.
I look at the schedule often and

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try and do my best that should I
be doing this thing or should I

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be doing that thing because one
of them is going to get

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sacrificed.
Do you still enjoy exercise?

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Yes, yes.
Now, am I going to work out by

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myself?
Technically, I'm probably going

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to find something else to do
because there is an ever landing

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honey, do list, a business list,
a kid list or all the things,

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right?
I will do it if every say 3 or 4

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days, if I were to go that long
without exercising.

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And then I get this itch.
I got to work out.

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I got to do that.
And it's just ingrained in me

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because it's part of my behavior
as a human.

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It's part of my identity.
I schedule time with my buddies

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to work out, and that's probably
the most important thing.

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So I'm scheduling time with my
wife to walk because I know she

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wants to talk to me so we can
move and we can walk and, and,

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and connect that way.
And then I connect with my

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buddies because if they're
showing up, I'm showing up too

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and I'm bringing the heat.
We don't lift the same weights

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or whatever, but we just come in
here and we again, this barn

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that I'm in, we just hoot and
holler and work out and, and,

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and just be, I guess boys again
and just really enjoy that

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experience together.
And so scheduling time for

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exercise is how I get it done.
And I don't know, I'm not always

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motivated.
Sometimes I just have to do it

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anyways because it's something
that has to get done.

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You've mentioned self leadership
in the past too.

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So is that kind of doing what
needs to be done and and owning

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that and taking that
responsibility?

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Right.
Well, as a man, as the

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breadwinner, as the patriarch,
as the father, as the leader in

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a sense of even say my clients,
I have to assume the role in the

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position and do the tasks that
are required to get me to be

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that person.
I can't just show up and hope

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that I'm that person.
You're only that person by doing

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the actions on repeat to then be
able to create the inner belief

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that you are that person to then
go exhibit those things or learn

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the skills or show others and,
and guide them and, and give

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them inspiration or
encouragement or empathy or

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sympathy and, and all sorts of
ease that can come up in the

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process of being able to connect
with someone so that they get

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better, they get healthier, they
are happier in a sense.

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Ryan, what's one thing that you
wish more men knew?

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I wish more men knew that it's
OK to love themselves, it's OK

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to be open, it's OK to be
vulnerable, it's OK to express

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themselves and.
And often times they just close

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up and they don't know how to to
do any of that and.

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Brian, what's the best place for
listeners to go to learn more

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about you and all your offering?
Yeah, the the call to rise.com

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is the website and they have a
freebie on there.

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It's a three day fat loss
protocol.

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You don't want to get up with
the the 100 days.

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Then we can start with history.
It's the the Rise 72.

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It's it's a step by step guide
to tell exactly what to do with

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your nutrition, what to do with
your exercise and to give you

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some extra productivity and
focus type things to work on.

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You can find me at Coach Brian
Piranha on all the socials.

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Brian, thanks for your time
today thanks for all you're

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doing to help other men live
better longer lives it it's my

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belief that the world needs is
more happy, healthy men to make

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it a better place for all of.
US 1000%.

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I agree with that too.
Big thanks to Brian for bringing

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so much wisdom, and this is such
a strong reminder that self-care

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isn't selfish, it's a gift to
the people who count on us.

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And remember, if you want to
keep having the real

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conversations with other men
committed to showing up fully in

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life, join us in the authentic
AF community at

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realmenfield.org/group.
It is free and it's where we can

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keep this conversation going.
Until next time, be good to

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yourself.