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Men, IVF, and Private Grief: Justin Abrams on Infertility, Miscarriage, and Fatherhood

Andy Grant hosts Real Men Feel with guest Justin Abrams (“Cuzzin Justin”) to discuss IVF, infertility, and pregnancy loss from a man’s perspective. Justin describes the emotions men carry—fear, grief, helplessness, hope—and how he felt pressure to stay strong and silent while supporting his wife Tara through a six-year, largely uncontrollable IVF journey marked by multiple miscarriages, high financial and emotional costs, and years of an “unexplainable” diagnosis before learning she had endometriosis.

Justin explains why the experience felt “emasculating, sterile, and traumatic,” how he coped through education, suppression, and solitary “walkabouts,” and how his cousin Todd provided crucial support. They explore masculinity, legacy, marriage, continuing to try for more children, and offer practical guidance: ask men need-based questions and be specific in support.

00:00 Men in IVF Too
00:18 Meet Cousin Justin
01:08 Identity and Legacy
03:04 Divorce and Growing Up
05:37 IVF vs Entrepreneurship
07:46 Unexplained Infertility Years
10:29 Family Pressure and Lineage
13:59 Emasculating Sterile Traumatic
23:47 Why Keep Trying
26:21 Is It a Manhood Test
27:31 Carrying Her Burden
29:14 Atlas Mode and Anger
32:17 Validation and Deflection
35:07 Grief in Different Ways
37:30 Cousin Todd Safe Space
40:08 Marriage Bond and Next Goal
43:12 Support Men Through Loss
46:46 Telling Kids About IVF
49:10 No Playbook Keep Going
51:00 Closing Reflections and Invite

Connect with Justin
Justin Abrams — https://cuzzinjustin.com/
LinkedIn — https://www.linkedin.com/in/cuzzinjustin/
Instagram — https://www.instagram.com/cuzzinjustin/
Facebook — https://www.facebook.com/cuzzinjustin24

Resources
Podcast — Strictly From Nowhere https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCWAstEyCK6YsKVTTRsQr37w

Connect with Andy:
Join other like-minded men in the Authentic AF Community | https://www.realmenfeel.org/group
Instagram | @realmenfeelshow & @theandygrant
Andy Grant | https://theandygrant.com for coaching, healing, and book info!
Real Men Feel | https://realmenfeel.org

#RealMenFeel ep 417

Explore Real Men Feel with Justin Abrams and Andy Grant. Learn how vulnerability and emotional intelligence impact male relationships.

This conversation focuses on the importance of Real Men Feel and why emotional awareness is critical for modern masculinity. Justin Abrams and Andy Grant break down the barriers that often keep men from expressing their true thoughts, providing perspective on how to navigate complex feelings in everyday life. If you have been looking for honest dialogue about the male experience, this discussion offers a clear path toward better self-understanding.

Throughout the video, the pair examines how practicing Real Men Feel techniques can improve your communication skills. They address the challenges of being open in a culture that often discourages it, helping you apply these concepts to your personal growth. By prioritizing Real Men Feel, you gain practical tools to foster deeper connections and manage stress more effectively.

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