What About Trans Men? | Who Is Real Men Feel For?

0:01 Hello and welcome to real men. Feel I am your host, Andy Grant. I'm an author coach healer and speaker, you can visit the Andy Grant.com to learn more about all those things that I'm up to reopen. Feel exists to remind you. That men are human beings and we are entitled to feel and express the full range of emotions. I'm going to emphasize that even more today. Thanks to an email that I received last week. In part, it said about three to four years ago. I came out as a trans man, I deal with a lot of imposter syndrome when it comes to my identity, whenever I hear the name of your podcast, it makes me cringe a little because I don't see myself as a quote-unquote, real man, it makes me feel like this is advice that isn't for me. So, does the advice you give count for Trans men, as well as sis men?

0:59 Nobody is asking me this question before but it is something that I have wondered. For the first couple of years of real men feel I co-hosted the show with optio Hunter a gay male friend of mine. I thought that one of us being straight and one gay would somehow cover more ground that but you know, honestly there was rarely different advice issues or topics for Gay versus straight men. Now I don't recall any episode specifically about trans men but I know that I have often said that if you consider yourself to be a man, Then anything you do is by definition manly. If you see yourself as a man, then real men, do whatever you do. I know guys that have Ed erectile dysfunction others who have been paralyzed from the waist down and, and the neck down other guys that have battled testicular, cancer and have lost one of their balls, right? As testicle has been removed.

2:01 I don't consider any of them to be less than. I don't consider them as non men, right? They're not people that can no longer listen to this podcast. Biology alone is not the way to identify, what a man is. I also told the emailer that I talk to so many men about imposter syndrome that I'd say having it is more proof of your manliness not less. it also took me years to be comfortable with the title of this show even though I named it, There is so many sayings and memes, Etc, about real men. This and real men, that all of them pissed me off.

2:45 So, the title is a bit of a play on that, but also the Rio of real men, feel it means genuine authentic, and being true to yourself. All of that is up to you which I think is a good thing. There's no committee organization or individual deciding whether you are a man or not. It's you. You are the best judge of yourself but often we as human beings, are the worst judges of ourselves because we are so harsh. So is the advice I give on real men? Feel only for sis men.

3:32 From my perspective. No, real men feel reminds men that they are human. Most of the advice on this show is for all human beings. I hear from many female listeners, who, tell me that they get a lot from the show. My intention is to help people. The end. I'm really not concerned with identity gender, biology labels of any sort. But I see that advice is subjective, so I would suggest more critical than is this advice meant for this group or that group?

4:13 The thing to ask is, do I resonate with this? If you resonate with something, it's for you if something inspires you prompts you to take action or makes you think it is for you? Even if something pisses you off, triggers, you and makes you think. I'd say that is for you as well. You know, I want to share one response from one of the guys I posed this. I shared this question with guys in the private, real men feel group on Facebook. He said, I know nothing about the psyche of anyone going through transition to either gender, but much of what men feel are expected to feel is begun and formed in childhood. So someone transitioning, to female still has this second. Someone transitioning to mail, is going to encounter expectations, once they are male. Or close to that point.

5:12 So much like the man who wrote that, what I just shared I know nothing about what it is like to be trans. I do know that I struggled a lot growing up with doubting myself questioning, my worth. My value trying to fit in, with this group, that group, any group, not being, sure of who I was, but none of that was about my gender. You know? I questioned whether I should exist. I questioned. I thought maybe if I was born in different time, If I had to just fight for survival, I would things would be easier. I would that would do it. I wouldn't have time to just think so much but none of that was about. Am I am I really Mail Right am? I, should I be female?

5:56 And again, I just can't imagine that. So I would never speak to that. I would never judge that. That's that's just another level of Hell upon anyone growing up these days and it's I get imagine just, it's just rough. So No, this we're not. I am not out to exclude anyone that is listening. And if you get something from this beautiful, this is for you. That's it. So with that, if you are a trans man and you want to share a bit of your experience on real men, feel I would be honored to have you. You can reach out to me at real men, feel at gmail.com and wherever you are discovering that real men do indeed feel I invite you to subscribe.

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