Dec. 9, 2022
What Would You Tell Your Younger Self? | What I Wish I Knew at 22
A couple of days ago, I came across an Instagram post from an account called awake_spiritual, and it was a picture of Dwayne Johnson - The Rock, and it was called Things I Know at Age 45 That I Wish I Knew at 22.
It had a list of 14 such things. I don't believe this is anything The Rock said, but maybe it is.
It got me thinking about what I would tell my 22-year-old self. I had a few items right away and let my brain simmer with them for a bit.
I've got five, and then I'll also share all 14 that the IG post mentioned too.
What I would tell my 22-year-old self:
- Life is good. --- I thought life sucks, then you die. Life is good, and you are worthy of joy.
- Nothing, I repeat, NOTHING you are worried about ends up mattering much at all.
- The only definition of what it means to be a man that matters is yours. Whatever you are doing, that's what a man does.
- Action cures fear. Do the things you're afraid of.
- You can be right, or you can be happy. Please choose happy.
Maybe you agreed with most, maybe with none. I don't care. I do care that you take a few minutes to think about this for yourself.
What would you tell 22-year-old you? Or if you are a young man, what would you tell your 16-year-old self?
Don't let the ages mentioned be your excuse not to do this.
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Hello and welcome to real men.
Feel this is your host, Andy
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Grant.
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that a couple days ago.
I came across an Instagram post
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from an account called awake
spiritual and it was a picture
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of Dwayne Johnson The Rock and
it was called things.
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I know at age, 45 that I wish I
knew it 22.
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And it was a list of 14 such
things.
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Now, I don't believe this is
anything The Rock actually said
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but but maybe it is anyway.
Got me thinking about what I
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would tell my 22 year old self
and I had a couple items you
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know be top of mind right away.
And then I decided to let my
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brain simmer on this for a few
days.
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So I came up with five items
that I wish I knew at age 22 and
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I'll also share all 14 that the
IG post.
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Mentioned as well.
So first off what I would tell
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my 22 year old self.
Is that life is good.
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I really thought life sucks,
then you die, but life is good
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and you are worthy of joy.
S, nothing, I repeat nothing.
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You are worried about ends up
mattering.
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Much at all third, the only
definition of what it means to
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be a man that matters is yours.
Whatever you are doing.
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That's what a man does.
And for Action, cures fear, do
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the things, you're afraid of,
and finally, number five, you
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can be right or you can be
happy.
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Please choose happy.
So, among the items that the
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initial post had and I came up
with mind before reading these,
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but number one, things I know at
age, 45 that I wish.
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I knew at 22.
Number one, you need to start.
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This is your only life.
It's too short to keep putting
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off doing what you want to do,
live your life for you.
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Not anyone else.
Great.
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Totally agree.
Number two, your environment is
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crucial regardless of how
disciplined or motivated.
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You are.
If you're in the wrong
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environment, you'll never get
anything done.
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Yeah.
I mean I don't have the exact
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quote but you know, we
financially I think it's
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financially.
The Studies have shown that we
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become the average of the 5
people we hang around with most
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or maybe it's 7:00.
There's math involved.
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But yeah.
You know, you become, you know,
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an average of the people you're
most with.
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I think that goes to General
mood.
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It simply goes to finances.
But yeah, where you are matters
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and you can do better if you
change your surroundings.
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Number three, be ready to Pivot
things change plans, fall apart
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and life happens.
Be ready.
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And willing to Pivot when
chasing your goals.
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According to the feedback you're
getting Yeah, right.
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On adaptability is key
resilience is key to living your
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best life to enjoying your life.
Number four books are mental
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masturbation.
Now I I don't I don't get that,
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I don't agree with that.
So it goes on to explain.
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I love reading, I love learning
but too much reading and not
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enough doing is just like binge
watching YouTube, read, apply,
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repeat.
Yeah, I don't, I don't get this,
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I don't agree to me.
Call me something mental.
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Masturbation means, it's a
freakin waste of time.
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So I, you know, I would tweak
this and you know, I would I
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would interpret this.
I would say never stop learning
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because I have not met a man who
reads too much, you know.
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Most people don't read a book a
year so yeah, I don't, I do not
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think books are mental.
Masturbation number five, you
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need to be selfish.
You can't pour from an empty
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cup, so be selfish fill your cup
first and then you can be
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selfless and pour into others.
Yes, this is something I say
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often on this show and in
talking to clients, selfishness
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gets a bad rap, true.
Selfishness can really be
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selfless, you put yourself first
so that you can help others, you
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know, selfishness in the terms
of being super competitive and
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taking from other people.
That is not what we're that me
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or The Rock.
If it's him saying this are
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talking about, but but putting
yourself first that sense of
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selfishness is great.
It's a very underrated number
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six.
The gym is preparation.
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So maybe the rock did say this.
In the gym, your mind is telling
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you to quit the whole time by
not quitting.
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You're building your mental
fortitude and resilience and
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preparation for life. 20 by that
number 7, you can't stop
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learning.
All right?
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This is kind of what I stick.
We stated earlier.
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The moment you stop learning you
stop progressing, acquire, new
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knowledge, learned new skills.
Apply progress, repeat right on
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number 8, not everyone wants you
to win.
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Learn to recognize those that
truly want the best for you, and
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those that don't cut the ladder
out.
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Yeah, I'd say that's easily.
It's more easily said than done
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often.
We don't know till it's too
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late.
Who is out to harm us or doesn't
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have their our best interest at
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But yeah.
When you're aware of someone,
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when someone shows you who they
are, believe them.
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Number nine, risk is a part of
life, whether you're taking a
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new job, starting your own
business or moving to a new
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country.
Anything that has the potential
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to improve your life involves
risk and Brace it.
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Yeah, totally agree.
You need to take risks in your
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life.
Number 10 challenge your
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beliefs.
Why do you believe something?
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Because your parents told you,
because the news told you
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challenge, what you believe, be
willing to listen to opposing,
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opinions, and always be ready to
learn.
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Yeah, and I agree this and I
would, I would add be willing to
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be wrong, right?
And in fact, Embrace being
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wrong, celebrate, discovering
that you're wrong about
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something.
Again, I mentioned earlier, I
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used to think that life sucks
then you die.
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I was Thrilled to discover,
that's not true.
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So you know I celebrate being
wrong.
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I have no I have no attachments
to being right about freaking
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anything.
Again, I'd rather be right.
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I don't know.
I used to want to be right, I'd
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rather be happy than right.
Beautiful, let's see, number 11
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money can buy happiness.
All right?
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Now that's contradicting.
That kind of the most cliched
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things we hear about that.
So money can buy happiness.
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Money can buy your time,
Freedom, location, freedom, and
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most importantly, the
opportunity to do what actually
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makes you happy.
All right, then I would retitle
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this money.
Buy his freedom.
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Then you do?
You need the disclaimer.
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You don't need to explain that
more, but yeah, so money can't
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buy.
I still believe money can't buy
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happiness, but money can buy
Freedom, which can lead to your
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happiness. 12, you need
discomfort, whether it's
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physical discomfort in the gym
or mental discomfort when
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chasing your goals and bracing
discomfort is the key to
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long-term fulfillment.
You know, I'd even I'd even say
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this harsher Comfort is death.
Everything you truly want is
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outside of your comfort zone.
Humans can become too
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comfortable, I think of the
future people in the Disney
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movie Wall-E, where they're all
just like super fat and floating
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around on, you know, moving
couches and stuff.
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We're just, we're so
comfortable.
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They're all destroying
themselves.
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So, again, Comfort is death, be
willing to be comfortable in
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your discomfort. 13 failure is
not final.
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Failure is nothing but a sign
telling you which direction not
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to go stop.
Treating it like a never-ending
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red light.
Yep, I agree.
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You do what you fear?
And the has a Japanese saying I
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don't, I don't know how to say
it in Japanese, but fall down
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seven times.
Get up eight.
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And finally number 14
consistency, always wins.
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Talented.
But not consistent.
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You'll fail hard working, but
not consistent.
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You'll fail so long.
As you have consistency you'll
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win eventually I mean, this this
comes out, you know, be willing
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to play the long game.
Instant gratification does does
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not create a really gratifying
life, right?
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Beautiful long haul.
All right, so so there's a bunch
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of ideas.
Maybe you agree with most maybe
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with none, I don't care.
Truly what I do care about is
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that you take a few minutes
here, just think about this, for
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yourself.
What would you tell?
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22, year-old you or or if you're
a younger man.
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What would you tell your 16
year?
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Old self, right?
Don't let the age as mentioned
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in this exercise.
Be your excuse not to do this.
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Give yourself that gift of time
of discovering your most
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valuable life lessons, right?
You probably a lot wiser than
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you.
Give yourself credit for
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wherever you are discovering
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Hello and welcome to real men.
Feel this is your host, Andy
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Grant.
I'm also an author coach healer
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and speaker, check out V and E
Grant.com to learn more about
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that a couple days ago.
I came across an Instagram post
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from an account called awake
spiritual and it was a picture
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of Dwayne Johnson The Rock and
it was called things.
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I know at age, 45 that I wish I
knew it 22.
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And it was a list of 14 such
things.
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Now, I don't believe this is
anything The Rock actually said
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but but maybe it is anyway.
Got me thinking about what I
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would tell my 22 year old self
and I had a couple items you
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know be top of mind right away.
And then I decided to let my
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brain simmer on this for a few
days.
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So I came up with five items
that I wish I knew at age 22 and
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I'll also share all 14 that the
IG post.
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Mentioned as well.
So first off what I would tell
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my 22 year old self.
Is that life is good.
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I really thought life sucks,
then you die, but life is good
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and you are worthy of joy.
S, nothing, I repeat nothing.
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You are worried about ends up
mattering.
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Much at all third, the only
definition of what it means to
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be a man that matters is yours.
Whatever you are doing.
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That's what a man does.
And for Action, cures fear, do
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the things, you're afraid of,
and finally, number five, you
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can be right or you can be
happy.
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Please choose happy.
So, among the items that the
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initial post had and I came up
with mind before reading these,
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but number one, things I know at
age, 45 that I wish.
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I knew at 22.
Number one, you need to start.
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This is your only life.
It's too short to keep putting
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off doing what you want to do,
live your life for you.
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Not anyone else.
Great.
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Totally agree.
Number two, your environment is
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crucial regardless of how
disciplined or motivated.
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You are.
If you're in the wrong
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environment, you'll never get
anything done.
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Yeah.
I mean I don't have the exact
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quote but you know, we
financially I think it's
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financially.
The Studies have shown that we
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become the average of the 5
people we hang around with most
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or maybe it's 7:00.
There's math involved.
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But yeah.
You know, you become, you know,
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an average of the people you're
most with.
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I think that goes to General
mood.
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It simply goes to finances.
But yeah, where you are matters
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and you can do better if you
change your surroundings.
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Number three, be ready to Pivot
things change plans, fall apart
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and life happens.
Be ready.
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And willing to Pivot when
chasing your goals.
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According to the feedback you're
getting Yeah, right.
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On adaptability is key
resilience is key to living your
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best life to enjoying your life.
Number four books are mental
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masturbation.
Now I I don't I don't get that,
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I don't agree with that.
So it goes on to explain.
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I love reading, I love learning
but too much reading and not
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enough doing is just like binge
watching YouTube, read, apply,
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repeat.
Yeah, I don't, I don't get this,
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I don't agree to me.
Call me something mental.
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Masturbation means, it's a
freakin waste of time.
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So I, you know, I would tweak
this and you know, I would I
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would interpret this.
I would say never stop learning
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because I have not met a man who
reads too much, you know.
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Most people don't read a book a
year so yeah, I don't, I do not
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think books are mental.
Masturbation number five, you
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need to be selfish.
You can't pour from an empty
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cup, so be selfish fill your cup
first and then you can be
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selfless and pour into others.
Yes, this is something I say
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often on this show and in
talking to clients, selfishness
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gets a bad rap, true.
Selfishness can really be
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selfless, you put yourself first
so that you can help others, you
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know, selfishness in the terms
of being super competitive and
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taking from other people.
That is not what we're that me
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or The Rock.
If it's him saying this are
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talking about, but but putting
yourself first that sense of
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selfishness is great.
It's a very underrated number
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six.
The gym is preparation.
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So maybe the rock did say this.
In the gym, your mind is telling
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you to quit the whole time by
not quitting.
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You're building your mental
fortitude and resilience and
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preparation for life. 20 by that
number 7, you can't stop
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learning.
All right?
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This is kind of what I stick.
We stated earlier.
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The moment you stop learning you
stop progressing, acquire, new
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knowledge, learned new skills.
Apply progress, repeat right on
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number 8, not everyone wants you
to win.
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Learn to recognize those that
truly want the best for you, and
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those that don't cut the ladder
out.
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Yeah, I'd say that's easily.
It's more easily said than done
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often.
We don't know till it's too
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late.
Who is out to harm us or doesn't
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have their our best interest at
heart?
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But yeah.
When you're aware of someone,
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when someone shows you who they
are, believe them.
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Number nine, risk is a part of
life, whether you're taking a
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new job, starting your own
business or moving to a new
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country.
Anything that has the potential
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to improve your life involves
risk and Brace it.
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Yeah, totally agree.
You need to take risks in your
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life.
Number 10 challenge your
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beliefs.
Why do you believe something?
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Because your parents told you,
because the news told you
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challenge, what you believe, be
willing to listen to opposing,
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opinions, and always be ready to
learn.
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Yeah, and I agree this and I
would, I would add be willing to
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be wrong, right?
And in fact, Embrace being
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wrong, celebrate, discovering
that you're wrong about
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something.
Again, I mentioned earlier, I
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used to think that life sucks
then you die.
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I was Thrilled to discover,
that's not true.
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So you know I celebrate being
wrong.
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I have no I have no attachments
to being right about freaking
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anything.
Again, I'd rather be right.
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I don't know.
I used to want to be right, I'd
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rather be happy than right.
Beautiful, let's see, number 11
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money can buy happiness.
All right?
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Now that's contradicting.
That kind of the most cliched
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things we hear about that.
So money can buy happiness.
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Money can buy your time,
Freedom, location, freedom, and
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most importantly, the
opportunity to do what actually
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makes you happy.
All right, then I would retitle
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this money.
Buy his freedom.
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Then you do?
You need the disclaimer.
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You don't need to explain that
more, but yeah, so money can't
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buy.
I still believe money can't buy
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happiness, but money can buy
Freedom, which can lead to your
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happiness. 12, you need
discomfort, whether it's
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physical discomfort in the gym
or mental discomfort when
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chasing your goals and bracing
discomfort is the key to
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long-term fulfillment.
You know, I'd even I'd even say
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this harsher Comfort is death.
Everything you truly want is
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outside of your comfort zone.
Humans can become too
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comfortable, I think of the
future people in the Disney
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movie Wall-E, where they're all
just like super fat and floating
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around on, you know, moving
couches and stuff.
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We're just, we're so
comfortable.
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They're all destroying
themselves.
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So, again, Comfort is death, be
willing to be comfortable in
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your discomfort. 13 failure is
not final.
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Failure is nothing but a sign
telling you which direction not
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to go stop.
Treating it like a never-ending
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red light.
Yep, I agree.
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You do what you fear?
And the has a Japanese saying I
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don't, I don't know how to say
it in Japanese, but fall down
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seven times.
Get up eight.
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And finally number 14
consistency, always wins.
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Talented.
But not consistent.
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You'll fail hard working, but
not consistent.
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You'll fail so long.
As you have consistency you'll
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win eventually I mean, this this
comes out, you know, be willing
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to play the long game.
Instant gratification does does
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not create a really gratifying
life, right?
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Beautiful long haul.
All right, so so there's a bunch
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of ideas.
Maybe you agree with most maybe
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with none, I don't care.
Truly what I do care about is
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that you take a few minutes
here, just think about this, for
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yourself.
What would you tell?
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22, year-old you or or if you're
a younger man.
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What would you tell your 16
year?
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Old self, right?
Don't let the age as mentioned
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in this exercise.
Be your excuse not to do this.
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Give yourself that gift of time
of discovering your most
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valuable life lessons, right?
You probably a lot wiser than
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you.
Give yourself credit for
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wherever you are discovering
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Andy Grant is a best-selling author, speaker, Transformational Energy Coach, healer, and suicide prevention activist. As the host of the award-winning Real Men Feel podcast, he champions emotional well-being and encourages men to step out of the “emotional closet.”
Andy holds certifications in Positive Psychology, the Enwaken Coaching System, Akashic Records, Life Activation, and multiple energy healing modalities. Known as The King of Authenticity, he founded Real Men Feel in 2016, fostering a movement that redefines masculinity through openness and vulnerability.
An Initiate, Certified Healer, Teacher, and Ritual Master with the Modern Mystery School, Andy has dedicated his life to helping people in emotional pain rediscover the magnificence of life. His training includes work with renowned teachers such as Mike Dooley, Brendon Burchard, Bill Harris, Genpo Roshi, David Morelli, Margaret Lynch, Linda Howe, Tal Ben-Shahar, Karen Paolino-Correia, and Christie Marie Sheldon.