Sept. 12, 2025

From Boyhood to Manhood: Transforming Boy Behavior in Men

From Boyhood to Manhood: Transforming Boy Behavior in Men

From Boyhood to Manhood: Transforming Boy Behavior in Men Ep 370, September 12, 2025

From Boyhood to True Manhood
In this episode of 'Real Men Feel,' host Andy Grant speaks with Alessandro Frosali, a men's coach and host of the S-T-F-U-A-L podcast. Alessandro shares his transformative journey from hitting rock bottom in his marriage to reclaiming an integrated manhood. They discuss the importance of rites of passage, the distinction between boy and man behaviors, and why elder wisdom is crucial.
Alessandro shares his approach to guiding men towards a deeper understanding of their masculine energy, responsibility, and emotional control. He emphasizes the significance of community and initiation for men and offers practical advice, such as stream-of-consciousness writing for personal growth. The conversation highlights the common struggles men face and the paths to overcoming them, leading to a more fulfilling life.

In a world where strength is often misunderstood as silence or indifference, the Real Men Feel podcast, hosted by Andy Grant, stands as a beacon for the true essence of masculinity. In a captivating session with Alessandro Frosali, a men's coach and host of the S-T-F-U-A-L (Shut the Fuck Up and Listen) podcast, we explore the rich tapestry of manhood, transformation, and community.

The Journey to Integrated Manhood

The episode commences with Alessandro's transformative journey, triggered by a pivotal moment in his marriage when his wife challenged him to embody manhood more deeply, or risk losing the relationship. This awakening led him to shed physical and emotional weight, binge-learn through books about masculinity, and immerse himself in rites of passage work. Ultimately, this journey not only reshaped his marriage but also fostered a profound community of men seeking authenticity and growth.

Boy Behavior vs. Man Behavior

A central theme of the episode is the distinction between boy behavior and man behavior, crucial for personal and communal development. Inspired by Dr. Anna Rubenstein’s "The Making of Men," Alessandro delves into how boyhood often fixates on self-centeredness, shunning responsibility, emotional volatility, and dependence on maternal figures. In contrast, manhood embraces community service, accountability, emotional regulation, and adult partnerships. This shift represents not only personal growth but societal progress, as it addresses the pervasive boy-like behaviors in adult bodies.

The Power of Rites of Passage

A point of emphasis throughout this dialogue is the vital role of rites of passage. Alessandro champions these structured journeys, which traditionally include storytelling from elders, challenging experiences, honoring personal gifts, and creating healthy visions for the future. Such traditions foster belonging, purpose, and personal growth, which are often in deficit in contemporary life, leaving individuals vulnerable to unhealthy communities.

The Path to Love and Unity

Alessandro's ultimate mission is to guide men toward love and unity. By helping them view their partners as allies rather than adversaries, his work aims to dismantle societal divisions that thrive on disconnection and competition. The podcast, his coaching endeavors, and community initiatives embody this vision, seeking to spread an ethos of conscious partnership and self-awareness.

Cultivating Self-Awareness

Throughout their exchange, Andy and Alessandro discuss practical methods for cultivating self-awareness, including meditation, breathwork, and journaling. Alessandro endorses stream-of-consciousness writing as a gateway to self-discovery, recounting its transformative capacity, even for skeptical newcomers. This practice involves daily, uncensored writing to unveil the subconscious thoughts that often dictate one’s reality.

The Wisdom of Elderhood

The conversation concludes with a reflection on the power of elder wisdom. Instead of providing prescriptive answers, Alessandro advocates for gently guiding young minds to explore deeper, allowing them to discover truths on their own terms. In this way, elder guidance becomes an empowering force, enabling younger generations to tap into their own intrinsic guidance.

Embracing Authentic Connections

Alessandro ends with a profound message for men: the burdens they carry are shared by others. Encouraging open dialogues among men can alleviate these burdens, fostering solidarity and healing.

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Conclusion

To learn more about Alessandro Frosali and his empowering work, explore his dynamic presence on Instagram. His mission to ignite authentic conversations continues to resonate and uplift, fostering healing communities of men worldwide.
If you're interested in being part of a brotherhood of men, consider joining the Authentic AF Community at realmenfeel.org/group, where men are encouraged to speak up and support each other.

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Resources
The Making of Men: Raising boys to be happy, healthy, and successful by Arne Rubenstin — https://amzn.to/41SYUff
The Artist’s Way by Julia Cameron — https://amzn.to/4pk53eB

Transforming Boy Behavior in Men - ep 370 with guest, Alessandro Frosali

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