Overcoming Sexual Performance Anxiety – Insights from Coach Shay Doran
Join host Andy Grant on Real Men Feel as he sits down with Shay Doran, a coach specializing in helping men overcome sexual performance anxiety and erectile dysfunction. Shay shares his personal journey of feeling 'broken' and discovering that the root issue was mindset, not medical. They discuss why so many men suffer in silence, the influence of porn, and how societal expectations contribute to this problem. Shay also offers strategies for rebuilding confidence and restoring intimacy without shame.
For men and their partners, this episode sheds light on understanding and resolving sexual performance issues.
00:00 The Influence of Porn on Sex Education
00:36 Introduction to Real Men Feel and Today's Topic
00:52 Meet Shay Doran: Overcoming Sexual Performance Anxiety
01:43 Shay's Personal Journey with Performance Anxiety
04:28 The Root Causes of Performance Anxiety
06:31 The Performative Mindset and Its Impact
07:17 Medical vs. Mindset: Understanding the Distinction
10:06 The Trap of Quick Fixes and Marketing Scams
13:10 The Importance of Seeking Help and Guidance
17:37 The Relational Impact of Erectile Dysfunction
20:31 Addressing the Elephant in the Room
21:11 Non-Judgmental Support and Communication
22:10 Working with Men and Relationship Dynamics
23:19 Unique Pressures on Gay and Bi Men
25:43 Decoupling Masculine Identity from Sexual Performance
28:26 Common Aha Moments in Therapy
30:30 Cultural Differences in Masculinity and Performance Anxiety
32:01 Normalizing Sexual Performance Fluctuations
34:10 Impact of Porn on Younger Generations
34:56 Connecting with Shay Doran
36:14 Beyond Sex: Embracing Aliveness
38:28 Final Thoughts and Resources
Connect with Shay
Shay Doran — https://shay-doran.com
YouTube — https://www.youtube.com/@shay-doran
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