Conquering Imposter Thoughts: Vulnerability as Strategy for Men

Conquering Imposter Thoughts: Vulnerability as Strategy for Men, ep 358, June 20, 2025

Navigating Imposter Thoughts and Embracing Authentic Leadership with Kendra Dahlstrom

In this episode of Real Men Feel, host Andy Grant welcomes Kendra Dahlstrom, an executive coach, keynote speaker, and host of the 'Unworthy Leader Podcast.' They discuss imposter syndrome, differentiating it as 'imposter thoughts,' and explore the significance of humility, imperfection, and vulnerability in leadership. Kendra shares her experiences with imposter syndrome and emphasizes the importance of emotional intelligence and authenticity in leadership. 

They also discuss overcoming societal misconceptions about vulnerability and recognizing self-worth beyond professional achievements. Kendra reflects on her near-death experience and its impact on her mission to reframe worthiness and spread the message through her podcast. The conversation underscores the importance of breaking away from zero-sum leadership and encouraging more open and emotionally aware leadership styles.

Understanding Imposter Thoughts
The conversation begins with Kendra Dahlstrom exploring the concept of imposter syndrome, or as she reframes it, "imposter thoughts." She eloquently differentiates between general feelings of self-doubt and the specific, often debilitating, sensation termed imposter syndrome. Kendra suggests that labeling it as a syndrome might complicate progress, advocating instead for viewing these feelings as transient thoughts that we can choose to question and grow from.

Personal Experiences with Imposter Thoughts
Andy and Kendra share personal stories of facing imposter thoughts in their careers and everyday lives. Kendra recounts moments from her past when she grappled with self-doubt, often confusing her identity with her work performance. She highlights how these imposter thoughts can surface even in high-achieving leaders when they step out of their usual domains.

Humility and Leadership
Kendra touches on the paradigm shift happening in leadership, emphasizing the growing importance of humility and authenticity. As the dynamics of leadership evolve, especially in a post-pandemic world, Kendra argues that vulnerability is not a weakness but a powerful strategy for authentic connection and influence.

Emotional Intelligence: A Learnable Skill
An intriguing part of the conversation is the discussion around emotional intelligence (EQ). Kendra and Andy agree that EQ is not just an innate trait but a skill that can be developed. Kendra encourages leaders to embrace emotional awareness as a key component of effective leadership in any domain.

Kendra's Personal Journey and Podcast
Kendra shares her deeply personal journey of overcoming feelings of unworthiness, culminating in the creation of her podcast, "The Unworthy Leader." She reflects on a life-altering moment involving a near-death experience, which reinforced her belief in her purpose and the message she now passionately shares through her work and podcast.

Tips for Overcoming Imposter Thoughts
For those struggling with imposter thoughts, Kendra and Andy discuss practical approaches such as somatic practices, meditation, and inner dialogues to gently interrogate the triggers of self-doubt. They suggest these methods can help transform these thoughts into opportunities for growth and self-discovery.

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Conclusion
Kendra Dahlstrom's insights remind us that the journey of leadership and self-acceptance is ongoing. By opening ourselves to vulnerability and committing to self-awareness, we can navigate impostor thoughts and lead with authenticity. For more on this conversation and to explore additional resources, please visit Real Men Feel.

This episode serves as a powerful reminder that real strength lies in acknowledging our imperfections and embracing who we are, both as individuals and leaders. If any of these themes resonate with you, consider extending the conversation by connecting with Andy or Kendra to explore your own leadership and personal growth journey.

In Andy's words, "If you don't know where you want to go, it is impossible to get there." Book a free clarity call with Andy to map your journey and uncover what's holding you back at https://theandygrant.com/talk

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Connect with Kendra
Kendra Dahlstrom -- https://kendradahlstrom.com/
LinkedIn -- https://www.linkedin.com/in/kendradahlstrom
Instagram -- https://www.instagram.com/kendra.dahlstrom/

Resources
The Unworthy Leader Podcast -- https://open.spotify.com/show/4yXxXkHjoY35KaSKykVSsW?si=ce68c134df504de3
YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@theunworthyleaderpodcast