Oct. 24, 2025

Unlocking Intimacy: Destroying Sex Myths After 50!

Unlocking Intimacy: Destroying Sex Myths After 50!

Unlocking Intimacy: Destroying Sex Myths After 50! Ep 375, October 25, 2025

Embracing Aging and Intimacy: A Conversation on Sex, Aging, and Self-Expression

In this Real Men Feel, host Andy Grant discusses sex and aging with Karen Bigman, founder of Taboo to Truth. They explore myths and societal stigmas surrounding sexuality in midlife and beyond. Karen shares her journey of becoming a certified sex educator and how going through menopause made her more sex-positive.
They discuss the importance of communication, intimacy, and redefining sex as couples age. Karen also talks about the challenges men face, such as erectile dysfunction and performance anxiety, and offers advice for those reentering the dating scene after long relationships. The conversation also touches on the broader issue of how open discussions about sex can enhance mental health and relationships.

Sex and Aging: Breaking the Myths

Karen Bigman is dedicated to unraveling myths and societal stigmas around sexuality in midlife and beyond. Contrary to popular belief, aging doesn't signify the end of desire or connection. Instead, it can herald a new chapter of exploration and intimacy. Andy and Karen explore these often-unaddressed topics, shining a light on the misconceptions that discourage many from fully engaging in their sexuality as they age.

Navigating Changes: The Reality of Sex as We Age

One of the key points Karen emphasizes is that the nature of sex changes as we age, and that's okay. She debunks the myth of "use it or lose it," advocating for a broader understanding and acceptance of how intimacy and pleasure evolve over time. Everyone can have a fulfilling sex life, even in the later years, if they are open to redefining what sex means to them and their partners.

Cultural Avoidance of Sex and Aging Discussions

The conversation also delves into why society often avoids talking about sex and aging. In many places, especially in North America, sex education is inadequate, leading to a generalized discomfort about open discussions on sexuality. Karen points out that this cultural backdrop imparts notions of embarrassment regarding sex, which inhibits open conversations about desires and challenges as individuals grow older.

Redefining Masculinity and Performance Expectations

For men, societal expectations tied to performance and virility can pose significant hurdles. Karen discusses how men often identify heavily with their sexual performance, and she stresses the importance of redefining masculinity to include vulnerability and open communication, especially when facing changes like erectile dysfunction.

The Importance of Emotional Intimacy

Both Andy and Karen agree that emotional intimacy becomes crucial as couples age. Open dialogue about desires, boundaries, and preferences can enhance relationships, turning sex into a collaborative and pleasurable activity rather than a performance-driven act. Karen advocates for couples to maintain an ongoing conversation about their sexual needs and to explore new avenues for intimacy that may not revolve solely around intercourse.

Advice for Reentering the Dating Scene

Karen offers practical advice for those who find themselves re-entering the dating world after long-term relationships or marriages. Among her top recommendations are to work through personal issues before jumping into new relationships and to embrace sexual exploration safely and consensually.

The Future of Sex and Relationships

While this conversation highlights a desire for more openness and experimentation among some as they age, Karen also voices concerns about societal shifts toward conservatism, particularly in content restrictions. Despite this, there's a growing community intent on exploring and expressing their sexual identities.

Connect with Karen

To explore more about Karen Bigman and her work, visit her website at TabooToTruth.com, or connect on social media platforms like TikTok, Instagram, and YouTube. Engage with this crucial conversation and break the silence surrounding sex, aging, and intimacy, paving the way for more fulfilling connections at any age.

Conclusion

This episode of Real Men Feel serves as a reminder that sex and intimacy do not expire as we age; they evolve. Karen Bigman and Andy Grant encourage us to embrace these changes with open minds, communication, and a willingness to redefine our narratives about aging and sexuality.
For those looking to continue these conversations and support each other in living fully, Andy invites listeners to join the Authentic AF Community, a supportive online space for men.
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