Episodes

Understanding and Strengthening Modern Relationships with Kristal DeSantis In this episode of Real Men Feel, host Andy Grant discusses with Kristal DeSantis, a licensed marriage and family therapist, her expertise in trauma work and relationships. Kristal shares her journey from avoiding marriage to becoming a leading authority in relational therapy. She insightfully states, 'I wanted my practice to reflect two things: tactical skills and a strength-forward approach.’ They delve into Kristal'...

Overcoming False Accusations and Personal Growth: Ghasan Alesayi's Journey In this episode of Real Men Feel, host Andy Grant speaks with Ghasan Alesayi, an actor and filmmaker from Toronto. Ghasan shares his rollercoaster journey of dealing with false legal accusations and public scrutiny after being arrested for voyeurism while working with a dating coach. He talks about his battle with fear, insecurities, and the lessons he learned about vulnerability, consent, and empathy during this challen...

Rediscovering Humanity and Integrity: A Conversation with Colin Kingsmill on Real Men Feel In this episode of Real Men Feel, host Andy Grant talks with Colin Kingsmill, a former Swiss banker turned healer and advocate for the Enough Already movement. They delve into topics such as success, worthiness, and the need for a deeper human connection. Colin shares his personal journey from corporate success to fulfillment in serving others, highlighting the significance of living with integrity and c...

Real Men Feel: Embracing Authenticity with Jason Lange In this episode of Real Men Feel, host Andy Grant welcomes Jason Lange, a men's embodiment coach and certified No More Mr. Nice Guy coach. They discuss the origins and impact of nice guy syndrome, the importance of men's groups for growth and support, and the journey toward authenticity and emotional expression. Jason shares insights into how nice guys are created, the significance of setting boundaries, and the role of men's work in foste...

Generational Healing and Integrating Masculine and Feminine Energies with Gao Motsemme In this episode of Real Men Feel, host Andy Grant welcomes Gao Motsemme, a psychic surgeon and embodiment queen dedicated to helping individuals break free from patterns of generational toxic relationships. Gao discusses her journey into ancestral healing, energy work, and the importance of connecting with one's inner child and sexual energy. The conversation delves into the integration of masculine and femin...

Exploring the Flavors of Emotions with Kim Korte In this episode of Real Men Feel, host Andy Grant converses with Kim Korte, a sensory perception and emotion management strategist. Kim explains her unique metaphor for emotions, comparing them to flavors and cooking ingredients. They discuss how emotions are formed, the impact of memories, and the importance of acknowledging and working through emotions rather than suppressing them. Kim shares insights from her book, 'Yucky Yummy Savory Sweet: U...

In this episode of Real Men Feel, host Andy Grant welcomes pioneering coach and author Owen Marcus, who discusses integrating emotional physiology, attachment theory, and somatic therapies into men's emotional connection and leadership development. Owen shares insights from his new community, MELD, which focuses on men's emotional leadership development. They explore diverse subjects such as rolfing, polyvagal theory, anti-fragility, and the importance of co-regulation and vulnerability in emot...

In this episode of Real Men Feel, host Andy Grant interviews psychotherapist Marc Azoulay about the unique challenges and shortcomings of traditional therapy for men. Marc shares his personal journey from client to therapist, highlighting how his own struggles with addiction and identity shaped his approach to helping men. The discussion delves into the importance of challenging men within a supportive community, the need for both masculine and feminine love in therapy, and the transformative p...

Leadership In Chaotic Times | Principles of Harmonic Leadership "Lots of people are seeing the world in a negative way right now. So many people are waiting for someone else to come along and fix it." My returning guest today is James Greenshields. James is a husband of over 20 years and an honored father of two amazing women; he served 17 years as an Australian Army Officer and woke up in combat. With over 14 years post-military, James has Co-Founded and been the Lead Facilitator for Leadershi...

"It's amazing to love people every day as a job." A random feature of Real Men Feel is Regular Guy Chats. That is when I converse with an average dude who has nothing to promote but a willingness to share. It's been a year and a half since my last Regular Guy Chat. Today, I'm talking to Jake Marko, a young man I met last month in a Self-Leadership class we both attended. We discuss Jake's experiences with purpose, spiritual growth, and overcoming challenges. Jake discusses his life before and ...

Sometimes, the bravest thing you can do is ask for help. Men face a stigma about that, too. My guest today is Laverne Friesen. He is a former first responder who is passionate about raising awareness around the stigma of mental health after experiencing his own mental health crisis. Now, as a transformation coach, Laverne shares the wisdom he gained from his traumatic experiences to help others live fulfilling lives. Laverne shares his experience as a sexual abuse survivor in a fundamentalist f...

Today, we are exploring the power of words, especially the words we use when talking to ourselves. I'm going to share some tips on moving from belittling language to empowering phrases that you can use in your self-dialogue and conversations with others. One of my favorite things about coaching clients is listening and noticing what words they repeat the most and then pointing out how often their own words are working against them. Our words express our subconscious beliefs. They also expr...

I recommend watching this episode instead of only listening to it, as I share some of my downsizing journey and give a tour of my home. We are preparing to move to a house 2,000 square feet smaller than the one we've lived in for the past 21 years. Listen in to discover how my father's sharing of Buddism made me think life sucks then you die. Also, learn how the experience of donating, selling, and trashing our possessions has been so far. Do you own your stuff, or does your stuff own you?...

Earlier today, I was part of a Let's Talk Fabulous panel discussing positive male role models. I enjoyed that conversation so much that I want to share more in a motor-mouth 10-minute brain dump. Topics Include What male role models did you see/have while growing up? What do you think are traits of a positive male role model? If the person who taught you what it means to be a man, through their words or actions, was a miserable bastard -- why would you continue to follow their example? ...

I've often called myself a failure. But why? Why does something not turning out the way I wanted it to become my identity? It all comes down to the ego. Today, I explore definitions and perceptions of failure and ways to reframe it. Failure can be a valuable lesson. We can fail forward into something better with the right mindset. In my experience, when I'm depressed, my self-judgment is much harsher than usual, and I see a history of nothing but failures. That is not true. It is a very di...

Today, I share many of the subjects I've been journaling about in the last few days. Subjects including past patterns, current patterns that I haven't figured out yet, and challenges of all-or-nothing thinking. I open up about my self-judgment, spiritual experiences, psych meds, and reactions to being called a positive male role model. I also contemplate what I'm addicted to that keeps my hellish patterns going. Over my adult life, I've tried meditation, counseling, personal growth, energy...

WARNING: This episode discusses suicidal thoughts and attempts. If you are in a crisis, do not listen to this. Please call or text 988 to be connected to trained counselors who are part of the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline network. If you are outside of the US, please search for suicide prevention in your country. You matter! Please choose life. After a year-long gap, much of it spent in a deep depression and with lots of suicidal ideation, I'm back. The best way to prevent suicide is ...

Men and women deal with emotions differently, but we all have them. And any man who believes that stuffing and denying their feelings are the path to a happy and successful life - all I can say is that is NOT my experience, nor is it the experience of anyone I've ever met. One of the most painful things a man can experience is the betrayal by his spouse. Today is part 2 of Recovering From Betrayal, focusing on a man betrayed by his wife. My returning guest, Vanessa Cardenas, is your truste...

If you notice today's episode looking and sounding different, I'm on the road and don't have my usual setup. Are you comfortable being alone? Can you enjoy your own company? Often men will feel uncomfortable emotions if they are alone and in silence. I am an only child, so I'm used to being alone, but I'd always have music or a TV playing in the background. I wasn't a fan of absolute silence because I wasn't a fan of some of my thoughts. Over the years and with lots of work and growth, I'm...

Since men are human, they can make mistakes. One aspect of life we make mistakes in is our relationships. Since so many studies show that a strong prediction of happiness and longevity is the quality of our relationships, betraying our partner is a significant issue. Google says that nearly half of individuals in monogamous relationships admit to having an affair. Close to 25% of marriages stay together after an instance of cheating. My guest today, Vanessa Cardenas, is your trusted adviso...

Last Sunday, a man reached out to the Real Men Feel page on Facebook and said - I would like to appear on your show and debate "cultural appropriation in MKP." That man, B Crittenden Freeman, is my guest today. Crittenden has been a member of the ManKind Project for 30 years holding multiple positions, Center Director, Elder, Leader In Training, and Recording Secretary for the MKP USA Board. He was responsible for the occurrence of the 1st NWTA Urban Adventure. Initially, I thought this subjec...

I love to give any man who is being of service a platform to share his message. I met today's guest, Dustin Bakker, in an online program and was immediately impressed by his willingness to be authentic and vulnerable and his desire to help other men. After losing his sense of happiness, Dustin began changing his life and slowly became aware of what his mind, body, and soul were trying to tell him. Dustin did the research, study, and inner work required to discover his happiness. He's gone on to...

When life gets hard, a lot of men withdraw. They talk less. In the face of a health challenge for yourself or a loved one, you might be much more willing to discuss logistics and tasks than the emotional impact. My guest today is not most men. He believes in having hard conversations with people going through trauma. David Richman is an author, public speaker, and endurance athlete whose mission is to form more meaningful human connections through storytelling. With his most recent book, Cycle...

Last weekend I was in Connecticut to staff the New Warrior Training Adventure weekend, a weekend-long rite of passage for men from the ManKind Project. This was the first NWTA in New England in three years, thanks to Covid. I was supposed to staff the weekend last October, but all the NWTAs across the US were halted due to charges of cultural appropriation. The charges of cultural appropriation were from a group of Native American elders called Spirit. I'm not going to rehash everything here....