Episodes

June 29, 2024

How Do You Speak to Yourself? | Words Matter

Today, we are exploring the power of words, especially the words we use when talking to ourselves. I'm going to share some tips on moving from belittling language to empowering phrases that you can use in your self-dialogue a...

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June 21, 2024

Downsizing Part 1 | The Great Shedding of Stuff

I recommend watching this episode instead of only listening to it, as I share some of my downsizing journey and give a tour of my home. We are preparing to move to a house 2,000 square feet smaller than the one we've lived in...

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June 16, 2024

Positive Male Role Models | Who Taught You How To Be A Man?

Earlier today, I was part of a Let's Talk Fabulous panel discussing positive male role models. I enjoyed that conversation so much that I want to share more in a motor-mouth 10-minute brain dump. Topics Include What male role...

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June 7, 2024

What Is Failure? | More Than You Think

I've often called myself a failure. But why? Why does something not turning out the way I wanted it to become my identity? It all comes down to the ego. Today, I explore definitions and perceptions of failure and ways to refr...

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May 29, 2024

Picking Up The Pieces | Life After Depression

Today, I share many of the subjects I've been journaling about in the last few days. Subjects including past patterns, current patterns that I haven't figured out yet, and challenges of all-or-nothing thinking. I open up abou...

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May 25, 2024

Mental Health Awareness Month | Suicidal Procrastination

WARNING: This episode discusses suicidal thoughts and attempts. If you are in a crisis, do not listen to this. Please call or text 988 to be connected to trained counselors who are part of the National Suicide Prevention Lif...

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June 2, 2023

Did Your Partner Betray You? | Recovering From Betrayal Part 2

Men and women deal with emotions differently, but we all have them. And any man who believes that stuffing and denying their feelings are the path to a happy and successful life - all I can say is that is NOT my experience, n...

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May 12, 2023

Can You Enjoy Time Alone? | Growth & Resistance

If you notice today's episode looking and sounding different, I'm on the road and don't have my usual setup. Are you comfortable being alone? Can you enjoy your own company? Often men will feel uncomfortable emotions if they ...

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May 5, 2023

Did You Betray Your Partner? | Recovering From Betrayal Part 1

Since men are human, they can make mistakes. One aspect of life we make mistakes in is our relationships. Since so many studies show that a strong prediction of happiness and longevity is the quality of our relationships, bet...

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April 28, 2023

Cultural Appropriation in the Mankind Project | Real or Imagined?

Last Sunday, a man reached out to the Real Men Feel page on Facebook and said - I would like to appear on your show and debate "cultural appropriation in MKP." That man, B Crittenden Freeman, is my guest today. Crittenden has...

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April 21, 2023

Tapping Into The Strength of Men | The Power of Choice

I love to give any man who is being of service a platform to share his message. I met today's guest, Dustin Bakker, in an online program and was immediately impressed by his willingness to be authentic and vulnerable and his ...

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April 14, 2023

Connecting Through Trauma | Life-Changing Stories

When life gets hard, a lot of men withdraw. They talk less. In the face of a health challenge for yourself or a loved one, you might be much more willing to discuss logistics and tasks than the emotional impact. My guest toda...

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April 7, 2023

Returning to the New Warrior Training Adventure | ManKind Project's N…

Last weekend I was in Connecticut to staff the New Warrior Training Adventure weekend, a weekend-long rite of passage for men from the ManKind Project. This was the first NWTA in New England in three years, thanks to Covid. I...

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March 31, 2023

Rebuilding Yourself | Being The Best Man You Can Be

We are early in Spring, a time of renewal, growth, and, ideally, flourishing. I know that in my life, I've often had to renew, prune my life, weed out the shit in my mind, and reinvent myself to be the best man I can be. My g...

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March 24, 2023

When Boys Become Boys | Messages and Development of Masculinity

Real Men Feel invites you to redefine masculinity in today's world. The only definition of masculinity that matters is yours. We remind men that they are human beings and have the right to experience and express all of their ...

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March 17, 2023

Living WildFit | Navigating Fake Food and Deceptive Marketing

One of the most emotional relationships many of us have is with food, which is often mirrored in a love/hate relationship with our bodies. The best thing I did for my physical health last year was a program called WildFit. In...

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March 10, 2023

A Women's Perspective | She'd Hate To Be A Man

Some common complaints I hear from men are that they feel disposable, under attack, can't do anything right, and don't know what's expected of them. It may be time for a woman's perspective on what's going on between men & wo...

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March 3, 2023

Living a Full Contact Life | Intimacy, Feeling, and Choice

This year, I've begun martial arts classes for the first time, and I've been having a blast sparring with guys half my age. My guest today has a bit more experience than that and a very eclectic background. He believes embrac...

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Feb. 24, 2023

Being Happily Divorced | Leading With Kindness

According to the American Psychological Association, approximately 40-50% of first marriages end in divorce. The divorce rate for second marriages is even higher, with about 60-67% ending in divorce. As a child of divorce, I'...

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Feb. 17, 2023

Purpose & Respect | What Do Men Really Want?

I recently came across a NY Times opinion piece titled Men Need Purpose More Than "Respect" by David French. I don't read enough opinion pieces to know if I've read anything by Mr. French before, but I agreed with the headlin...

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Feb. 10, 2023

Life After A Suicide Attempt | Sharing Lived Experiences

Before we get going, I want to warn everyone that we will discuss suicide attempts today. If you are in crisis right now - please get help. Text or call 988 in the US. Help is available 24 hours a day. For other countries, vi...

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Feb. 3, 2023

Regular Guy Chat with Anthony | Being A Better Man

A semi-regular feature of Real Men Feel is Regular Guy Chats. That is when I have a conversation with an average dude with nothing to promote, just a willingness to share. The first Regular Guy Chat of 2023 features Anthony S...

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Jan. 27, 2023

Men Stepping Into Their Masculinity | Exploring Our Spirituality

This episode asks the big questions; what drives us, inspires us, and makes us push for more than just our basic needs to be met? So please sit back, turn on your black light and get deep with us. My guest is J. Malik, a spir...

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Jan. 20, 2023

Unleashing Your Soulful Power | The Power of Choice

The introduction of this episode may give you flashbacks to high school English classes, but you'll be fine. Today we explore the power of making a choice; choosing to see the light, being of service, and improving all that y...

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